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Gay Days at Disneyland: Part Celebration, Part Fiasco

For 11 years, gays and lesbians wearing red shirts have descended on Disneyland for Gay Days, an event that forces mainstream Americans to deal with us face to face. And while just-married same-sex couples urging park visitors to vote no on Prop. 8 put a positive political face on the weekend's festivities, the event too often showed the gay community at its worst: drunk, sometimes naked, and acting completely inappropriate for the families looking on.


“Don’t talk to him, don’t even look at him,” a stocky, bearded gentleman tugging at the arm of a curious 3-year-old said softly to our group of five while waiting in line to ride Alice in Wonderland. “You guys are an abomination.”

The two groups flung arguments back and forth: “Judge not lest ye be judged,” followed by talk of “securing a place in the kingdom of heaven.” Suddenly a woman, visiting the park with her daughter, interjected, asking the gentleman to move along, making clear she was appalled by his hateful rhetoric.

And thus paints the picture of another Gay Days at Disneyland, the 11th annual gathering of gays, lesbians, and their supporters from all over the United States, descending on Anaheim for the two-day event. Dressed in gay-identified bright red T-shirts and mixing among the already diverse Disneyland crowd, cultures collided and ideas converged in what is arguably one of the best opportunities all year to show mainstream Americans what this equal-rights hubbub is all about.

The event, while not officially sanctioned by Disney -- Gay Days started after a Disney-hosted gay night was canceled in 1998 -- nevertheless attracted some 25,000 participants in 2007. It’s even the subject of a book -- Gay Days aficionados Jeffrey Epstein and Eddie Shapiro immersed themselves in Disney culture to pen Queens in the Kingdom in 2007.

Though Gay Days certainly paints an image of a united gay community -- particularly given the upcoming election, Obama-Biden and "No on Prop. 8" stickers were nearly as prevalent as the red T-shirts they adorned -- the event has always met with a fair amount of criticism.

This year Disney meal ticket Hannah Montana -- a.k.a. Miley Cyrus -- kicked the gays and other guests to the curb for her 16th birthday party on Sunday, forcing the park to shut down a full five hours early. But that was a minor inconvenience compared to the slew of park patrons who just happened to book their trips on the same weekend as Gay Days -- some of them none too happy about the coincidence.

There are the straight men and women, unaffiliated with Gay Days, who appeared to be rethinking the red Mickey T-shirts they slipped into that morning, now finding themselves dressed in the same color as half the park's patrons, most of whom were walking arm in arm with someone of the same sex. Then there was the Mark Twain riverboat singles cruise that a few dozen straight folks seemed to unassumingly stumble onto, plus the Downtown Disney bars spilling over with the West Hollywood contingent. Yes, Disneyland definitely has a different vibe during Gay Days.

And there are moments when that vibe has the potential to do great things. A happy gay couple who had just tied the knot celebrated at a restaurant at California Adventure, a carnival-themed park affiliated with Disneyland. The half dozen straight couples who looked on wished them well, a few stopping by to ask questions about California’s Proposition 8, which, if passed, would make same-sex marriage illegal in the state. They took photos, ate cake, people dining at nearby tables toasted them, and a woman even congratulated the flower girl, the 6-year-old the couple had adopted together.

Those who took issue with the onslaught of gay park visitors seemed relatively few and quiet about it -- for the time being.

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Reader Comments
  • Name: Louis Cristillo
    Date posted: 10/22/2008 2:51:00 AM
    Hometown: Paterson, New Jersey

    Comment:

    All Gay Days does is increase resentment against the gay community, as do the so-called "legal" gay marriage laws ruled on by judges rather than the will of the people. Such "in-your-face" stunts do not arouse sympathy from natural couples or their families. So who wins here? What acceptance gays have managed to achieve in society in recent years has been wiped away because of the legal chicanery regarding gay marriage and stupid stunts like Gay Days. If this keeps up, a backlash is likely, and it won't be pretty...

  • Name: Louis Cristillo
    Date posted: 10/22/2008 2:50:00 AM
    Hometown: Paterson, New Jersey

    Comment:

    All Gay Days does is increase resentment against the gay community, as do the so-called "legal" gay marriage laws ruled on by judges rather than the will of the people. Such "in-your-face" stunts do not arouse sympathy from natural couples or their families. So who wins here? What acceptance gays have managed to achieve in society in recent years has been wiped away because of the legal chicanery regarding gay marriage and stupid stunts like Gay Days. If this keeps up, a backlash is likely, and it won't be pretty...

  • Name: Barry Solarczyk
    Date posted: 10/9/2008 11:40:00 AM
    Hometown: Pittsburgh, PA

    Comment:

    George, I don't see the hypocrisy. While the point of Gay Days may not be to prove to straights how straight we are (I’ve always resented the term “straight-acting,”) it's also not the point to turn Disneyland into Southern Decadence. If the dress and behavior described in this article are factual, then anyone—gay or straight—had the right to be offended and complain. Such displays simply are not appropriate in a public family setting. I have been offended by inappropriate attire and lewd statements I’ve seen on T-shirts at Cedar Point and Hershey Park while there with my family, and have voiced my own complaints. I didn't know the sexual orientation of the people wearing those clothes, and it didn't matter. If I saw a straight couple making out and/or exposing themselves at such a venue, I would be offended and would say so. Conversely, if someone approached me to complain about my appearance or behavior at Southern Decadence, I would suggest that they were in the wrong place.

  • Name: George Fox
    Date posted: 10/8/2008 4:34:00 PM
    Hometown: Sacramento, CA

    Comment:

    Oh, the hypocrisy. I've never heard that the point of Gay Days is to impress the staight community with how "straight" we really are (news flash: we aren't!). If the article is accurate in the reason for Gay Days (Disneyland canceling Gay Night), then it seems to me the reason for Gay Days is for the women and men of the Homophile Community to gather in strength that they might enjoy the park without fear. It wasn't / isn't meant as a venue for us to display ourselves for the scrutiny of the hets. Here's a thought: let's practice what we so often preach to the straights who protest our public displays of affection: "If you don't like what you see, turn your head." I fully agree with those who have said you see at Gay Days what you want to see; we all know we'll rip each other apart faster than any homophobe if it suits us. One last thing: I saw a "Spitters are Quitters" t-shirt a few days ago. The meaning, at the time, baffled me. Would the average straight do better?

  • Name: Jay
    Date posted: 10/8/2008 3:06:00 PM
    Hometown: Nashville

    Comment:

    My partner and I have been to Gay Days in Orlando many, many years and have never witnessed what I would consider inappropriate behavior. Even at the now dearly-depearted Pleasure Island (the REAL reason we went), we never encountered public groping or exposing or any of that embarrassing behavior. While we certainly horrified the church-ladies--I'm not a shrinking strait-acting violet--we always make a point of behaving like people with good home training, as my mom might say. We have an obligation to keep our undies on (and our hands out of them) when we're in public. If I saw behavior like that described in this story, I'll call a Disney employee over and have they carted out of there.

  • Name: Anonymous
    Date posted: 10/8/2008 1:35:00 PM
    Hometown: USA

    Comment:

    TO NATHAN AARON: I could have written your comments myself 17 years ago. All the guys I dated were into partying, drugs, and lots of sex, (not necessarly with me). Dating was really frustrating and dissappointing. And I hope this doesn't come off wrong, but I'm a fairly handsome man, so I had some guys to choose from, (guys how needed a lot of growing up). Well, I finally found one who was willing to do that. Except for a some rough times in our first three, the last 17 years together have been... well let's just say that after falling hopelessly in love with him at first sight, I didn't think it possible that my love could grow any stronger or deeper. I was wrong. And the sex (with him and only him) is still GREAT! Don't loose hope and don't comprimise on the important things. Find the right guy. He's out there. This will be posted anonymously out of respect for the love of my life and the early years when he struggled to become the man he is today.

  • Name: nathan aaron
    Date posted: 10/8/2008 10:11:00 AM
    Hometown: greensboro, nc

    Comment:

    Geesh! I could write a book on my thoughts on this! (But uh, couldn't really cause it'd just be a zillion page rant.) As time has gone by, this is what really erks me about the gay community! All the drugs, smoking, alcohol, open sex, complete inability to maintain a long term relationship, always looking for the "next great thing", etc. and etc. Pride parades, don't even get me started! Why do we act the way we do? You know, I'm a guy, who desires to be in a relationship, and have all the "normal" things that come with a relationship. Just as I would if I were straight, but of course for me, with a guy. THAT'S all that makes me gay. And so often I start to wonder if that even exists? (I know it does. You have to have faith.) The excuses we use to act the way we do are going away (due to same-sex marriage, equal rights, etc. SLOWLY being granted to us.) There is a reason stereotypes DO exist. One day the gay community as a whole is going to have to GROW up.

  • Name: Phoebe King
    Date posted: 10/8/2008 4:46:00 AM
    Hometown: Boston MA

    Comment:

    I am a lesbian, married in Massachusetts. I am very frustrated and angry that the actions of a few outrageous gay men can provide fodder for bigots especially with Prop 8 in California. It is such a critical point in our efforts to win our rights. Why be stupid? Nudity, sexual acting out, leashes and collars - NONE OF IT - is appropriate behavior in public for gay or straight folks. Grow up folks.

  • Name: Hugh
    Date posted: 10/8/2008 2:56:00 AM
    Hometown: Dallas

    Comment:

    Nothing will be gained by pretending that this isn't a problem. The question has to be asked, "why is it that when gay men get together in large groups the gathering to often takes on the all the dignity of a circuit party?". In my own experience I have noticed that gay men, and I are one, have a very difficult time figuring out what is, or isn't, acceptable public behavior. Here's one example from way out of left field. In the movie Brokeback Mountain, Jack and Ennis reunite after four years with a passionate liplock. Ennis' wife sees them and is in obvious shock and pain. And what does the primarlity gay male audience do? They laugh, like it's funny. I saw straight couples in the theater, and there were many, cringe in disbelief and confusion. What is wrong with you people?

  • Name: Johnny
    Date posted: 10/8/2008 12:59:00 AM
    Hometown: Mountain View

    Comment:

    I was at Gay Days and I didn't see any of this. I guess it depends on the crowd you hang with; and if you go looking for trouble, you will find it, no matter who or where you are.

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