The Diva of French Television

It never ceases to amaze me how quickly the French seem to judge all Americans as if they know all of them. No, not all Americans think only "black and white" just like not all Frenchman are perfect like they seem to think they are. I have traveled around the world, I have lived in 4 different countries, speak 6 languages, and was raised in... Marseilles, France. I live in the United States of America now and love it, and what I have learned is that people are people, no matter whether they are from America, or France, gay or straight, or anything in between. Stop judging each other. Those arrogant Frenchman who have never visited America, I say: ferme ta bouche, et de tirer le bâton hors de vos ânes, et non pas tous les Américains sont mauvais.

You see, that is something that is deeply troubling to me. Sounds like your friends don't know what gay really means. You never have stopped to ask them why they do what they do?

Everything in the US is either black or white they have no concept of the many shades of grey in between. As a European (French) living in Canada where it is a little bit better, I am always surprised that you are gay or you are straight and everything in between is wrong. In my world 100% gay or straight is rare and the colours in between are the real world. I too have chosen the hard road and been with my partner since I was 18 that will be 40 years next year. I have had dear friends who were both men and women but my heart has only belonged to one. We have both slept with women and other men, back in the days when it was safe to do so, but for the last 30 years we have been monogomous. In Canada we have marriage and full frontal nudity is not edited out, a warning is given and if you don't want to watch, then change the channel. They do not get European TV unless it is heavily censored even when its on pay per view.

(continued) I'm guessing JP is not in the closet, hiding his sexuality, and forcing himself to get a hardon for his wife by thinking about the cute mailman naked. I'm guessing he willingly slept with his best friend without much of a problem. Now, I do feel that people have the right to identify themselves any way they want. But actions speak louder than identifying word. I personally know of two guys who, for whatever reason, identify as gay, yet they have slept with more women than many straight guys I know, and still on occasion sleep with women when that "moment of craziness" takes over them. A mon avis, they are not gay. They're bi. I also know of gay guys (myself included) who can not for the love of God get sexually aroused by a woman, no matter how much they drink. As I said in my previous comment, and as you agreed (I think), gay must mean something totally different in France. C'est la vie.

Nicolas Mercier, point taken. I disagree with it, but I can see your point. For me (Notice I said "for me." I'm sure there are many who disagree with me, and that's ok.), your example is like someone who on a Sunday says they're a vegan. On Monday, in "a moment of craziness," they eat a giant porterhouse steak, a slab of ribs, and a couple of burgers. Then on Tuesday (if they're not dead) claim to be a vegan again. I concede that sexuality is a complicated issue. But what's get's your penis hard is not. I have not had the pleasure of seeing Clara Sheller, but...

To: Nicolas Mercier Bravo for a wonderful response!!

I just read the two comments and, as the writer of the show, have to answer. - On 12 hours of shows, there are three sex scenes that last approximately 30 seconds. That says it all on the part that is made on the character's everyday life on film. Did you think it was 12 hours with only sexe scenes? I guess even for porn actors it could be difficult! - As to know if JP is gay or bisexual, maybe the cultural difference between France and USA is that we don't put so easily labels on people, and have a more romantic tradition of "love confusion". A gay gay can have sex with a woman as a mistake or a moment of crazyness in his life, would that make him suddenly a "bisexual"? Woudl someone that nevers drinks but gets really drunk on night out of a particular occasion would be called an "alcoolic"? Putting labels on sexuality can be very useful for recognition of the existence of LGBT rights, but is mostly a false simplification of human's psychology and sexuality.

I just wish these 'gay' writers and producers would realize there's more to being gay than sex. They seem to think all we want to look at are cute faces, abs and screwing. I think there's a large audience, both LGBT and straight, who would like to see stories about our lives that don't take place in the bedroom, the bar or the locker room. Sex is GREAT, don't get me wrong, but there's more to life than that. If that's all we show in 'gay' cinema and television, that's the way the world will perceive us.

I'm guessing in France gay and bisexual are the same thing because I'm trying to figure out how JP, a guy who gets his roommate pregnant, is supposedly gay? He sounds like a bisexual character to me.