Washington Post Blasts Real L Word

@Me Yes, I wore a tux and my wife wore a dress, but it didn't HAVE to be that way. She was always aware that I wanted to wear a tux (I hate women's clothing and own almost all men/boys.) I would have loved it if she wore a tux, but she decided she wanted a dress and grew her hair out for one those crazy up-dos or whatever women get on their wedding day. Friends of mine both wore suits, and I've seen plenty of pics out there of both women in a dress. I think the gender fluidity in gay relationships is one of our greatest strengths. We should all respect each other choices and know the LBGT movement gave us the freedom to make them.

Butch femme aesthetic? Are you kidding me? As a true lipstick lady who would rather wear 4 inch stilletos than converse any day of the week... I am offended. I have dated butch women, femme, tomboy... the thing they all had in common was they were women who I found attractive and had a connection with. A straight girl who likes to wear jeans and flip-flops isnt called butch. People... men women, gay straight.... should be able to dress how they feel comfortable within the confines of propriety of each varying situation. Fishnets at a funeral, for example, are usually inappropriate unless the deceased was an aquaintence of Jonh Waters.

I wouldn't go so far as to say one reality show represents all lesbians or is even real. But maybe it is boring or unimaginative and perhaps they need to mix it up and stretch so they don't play into stereotypes. Do you think America would know what a "regular" lesbian would look like? All is not lost, on a good note, he thinks equality has happened and lumps it in with all other narcissistic reality shows. Straight, gay or lesbian those shows are boring for sure. He has that right.

Steuver is a definite "closet" case if there ever was one!!!

@Me, some lesbians identify as butch. Some as femme. All types of dating combinations are possible. But it's silly to think that anyone is choosing butch/femme just because they feel that is what they are supposed to do. Don't you think it's possible that butch/femme couples are just who they are and are happy with themselves and their partners? It is what it is. We are who we are because we are happy with ourselves.

Well @Me maybe you should thank Ellen for this distortion of reality, she is always happy to parade her wedding photos with her in her tux and Portia in the wedding dress, she is indulgant and hardly representative as she does not hang out with gay people unless you count Ryan Seacrest, her circle of friends are the Hollywood trendy like Paris Hilton, the Kardashians. She disapproves of Rosie and any others who might give a different portrait of lesbianism. I have quite a few lesbian friends and very few of them qualify for the lipstick lesbian designation. We don't go to the same bars but enjoy each others company usually at sporting events and car rallies or special events such as weddings, births, adoptions and the worst one deaths of friends. I know a lot of Rosies, a couple of Portias but no Ellens, she is gay trying to be gay but pass as straight. Thats what the Real L Word is like they are caricatures but not entirely real.

Unfortunately, "butch/femme aesthestic" is not a stereotype in the lesbian community. It's a sad reality. Just take a look at their wedding photos. I myself have ridiculed this gross inequality for years. One always must appears butch and wear pants. One must always appears fem and wear a dress. Why the hell can't they both wear pants or dresses in their weddings!!!!!

"The similarly unctuous reality show "Keeping Up With the Kardashians," for example, nastily chips away at a lifetime of hetero-normative TV fantasies such as "Ozzie and Harriet" and "The Brady Bunch." Gays and lesbians never got to see that sort of happy home on television, at least not about themselves. But here they leap ahead to fully participate in the worst kind of TV there is. " Who is the target audience anyway for this new reality series? Do we lesbians and gays really care who watches? So it got a bad review...from someone who is not gay.