After 40 Years, It's Time to Marry

Heartbreaking! My partner and I have been together 17 years and we understand their frustration and pain. Marriage would give us all the legal rights and privileges to look after each other as we try to age gracefully. It's especially scary when your loved one starts to forget who you are! It's not fair. Everyone should have the right to marry whom ever they choose. Religious and procreation arguments should have nothing to do with it. Their are plenty of married people who are not religious and who choose not to have children. I have to have faith that our 3rd class status in this country will come to an end sooner than later.

Gorgeous and achingly sad. I'm in my early twenties and can only hope to be that happy when I'm their age, but they give me hope and I give them my best wishes in return.

It breaks my heart that this couple have to beg for the opportunity to marry. It's cruel and should not be necessary.

I can certainly understand their desire. After spending several years vacationing in P'town, my partner of 37 yaers, Jim, and I get fed up with all the people saying we shouldn't/couldn't get married. When we started planning our vacation for 2009, we included a wedding on the dunes. It was a private affair but the most wonderful experience of our lives! A side benefit was the fact that a copy of our marriage license was mailed to our state capital -- Richmond, VA. It may not be recognized in our state, but they have to file the paperwork. Congratulations to Derence and Ed!

I am bawling. Having recently lost my grandmother to Alzheimer's, I know what a terrible disease it is and how hard it is to see your loved one slip away. These two have lived forty years together, and it would be wonderful if they could get married, but in the end, a marriage certificate isn't going to change the undying love these two feel for each other. My grandmother remembered my grandfather up until the very end, even though he had died some years earlier. I hope I have the option to get married to my (yet to be found) partner in the near future, and I hope their story can help in any small way possible. This is a truly moving story, Advocate, and I hope you continue to post such wonderful, touching articles.

Bravo!!! Thank you so much, Advocate, for posting this! I've never seen a gay couple like this before. All the time, in comments here and on other sites, I read statements from younger gay men that are vicious and hateful about older people. That they are repulsive, too old to be gay, and that they would be better off dead. Those statements make my blood boil, and I am in my early 30s. I hope with all of my might that this is my future! My hubby is in his late 20s, and I hope we make it as far as the two in this video. I'm jealous, to be frank, I see the luckiest couple ever. If only the young and pretty ones could see themselves in the 'troll' they are being so nasty to. One day they will indeed become that 'troll', unless they are bent on early self-destruction. Please learn some respect for your elders, acting like a snot-nosed, shallow brat is what is truly ugly.

omg, this is exactly what my partner and I will look like when we are their age. This video is going to kill me, argh, so sad.