|| ||
1 2 NEXT  Page 1 of 2

Where the Boys Aren't

Finding old-school gay shame is more difficult than ever. Even at Christmas.


“You have to work on Christmas Eve EVE?” wailed my husband.

“People not having conniptions call it December 23. But yeah, I have to work.”

“But that’s White Christmas night!”

We had planned to go see White Christmas. I know, dorky. But we like it. It was playing at a revival theater here in Los Angeles. Somehow the husband believed I would take the night off from the every-Friday-night DJ gig at the leather–bear–no-dancing bar I worked at. But I didn’t even try to make it happen. I like money. And I loved the idea of working at a gay bar so close to Christmas.

Here’s why: Some of My Best Friends Are… Never heard of it? It’s this amazing 1971 exploitation movie about pinkie-ring gays in a bar on Christmas Eve, a situation best summed up in the words of one of the movie’s homo-hating straights: “Where else does a fag have to go?” It stars people like Rue McClanahan, Fannie Flagg, Gary Sandy, and Gil Gerard. In other words, old people you’ve never heard of. Except for Rue McClanahan. Somehow even the young gays are into The Golden Girls. Anyway, every guy in this movie has a scarf knotted around his neck and is calling another man “Mary.” Oh, and Warhol superstar Candy Darling is in it too. She gets beaten up -- the film’s idea of getting off easy. Anyway, think The Boys in the Band, but way less mouthy, more resigned, depressive, and Well, I guess I asked for loneliness when I chose this wayward lifestyle. And to think they call it ‘gay.’  Like I said, amazing.

So obviously I was really into the idea of being up in my DJ booth for an all-seeing view of what would happen in a gay bar on an actual almost Christmas Eve. There was going to be tragedy all around, dark souls brooding, each solitary invert making The Night his lover. I had to witness that. I took my bag of CDs and headed in the direction of Lonely Street.

Click here to follow The Advocate on Twitter. 1 2 NEXT  Page 1 of 2



More Online Only
  • Commentary What Marriage in Maine Meant for Me

    Dana Hernandez is a straight white married mother of two young children. But in campaigning for No on 1 and reporting Election Night outcomes for Advocate.com, defeat hit her like a ton of bricks.

  • Marriage Equality Video Content Flag Terri White Stages Her Leather Encore

    Last year, acclaimed stage performer Terri White was homeless and living in a public park. On Sunday, she and her partner held a leather-themed commitment ceremony onstage following her triumphant Broadway turn in Finian’s Rainbow. 

  • Music Ghost Story

    Out singer-songwriter Brandi Carlile discusses working with her childhood mentor, coming out publicly, and joining next year's Lilith Fair.

  • News View From Washington: GOP Upheaval

    Now that the only pro-marriage equality candidate in New York's 23rd Congressional district, Republican Dede Scozzafava, has dropped out of the race, Tuesday's election holds any number of political lessons for both the GOP and the LGBT community.

  • Books Hot Sheet: Ditto Knocking 'Em Dead

    This week might not bring anything to the screen other than a Boondock Saints sequel, but there are plenty of reasons to sit at home on the couch or head to your local concert venue.

  • News Features Sailor Speaks Out

    Sailor Joseph Rocha endured years of hazing until he spoke out — then he was discharged for revealing his homosexuality. Nonetheless, the 23-year-old is itching to suit back up.

  • Music Rainbow High

    Busy Broadway heartthrob, gay rights activist, and former Advocate coverboy Cheyenne Jackson chats about his Finian’s Rainbow revival, his politically charged cabaret CD, and laying around in his underpants (pic on page five).

  • Television Another Tough Broad

    After being outed by a Nazi and locking lips with a hook-up three times in one episode, Christine Woods's tough-talking FBI agent Janis Hawk on ABC's FlashForward might just be prime time's best gay offering — who isn't in Glee club, that is.

  • Books Video Content Flag In Sickness and in Health

    Mary Cappello’s memoir Called Back takes readers on a white-knuckle journey through the experience of cancer treatment in America — especially disorienting to navigate as a woman and a lesbian.

  • Books An American Crime

    Best-selling novelist Patricia Cornwell made headlines last week when she filed suit against a New York investment firm for losing $40 million of her money. But she'd much rather talk about her new book, hate-crimes legislation, and Angelina Jolie.

  • Comedy Gilded Lily

    After conquering Broadway, movies, and television, out funny lady Lily Tomlin prepares for the final frontier — Las Vegas.

  • Entertainment News Ricky Martin, No Shirt and a Baby

    Ricky Martin knows how to get the camera's attention. Take a look at the many pictures of Ricky uploaded to his Twitter account in the past three months, always shirtless, frequently carrying one (or both) of his babies.

  • Television Fresh Blood

    With True Blood a bona-fide cultural phenomenon, producer Alan Ball offers tantalizing hints about what to expect on season 3.

Most Popular Stories