Commentary
962
2006-05-09
2006-04-24
Outspoken:
Kaleena Newman
Newman lives in Phoenix
Kaleena Newman came out at age 11.
Kaleena Newman came out at age 11.
Luckily, her parents were supportive, but not everybody
was. Now at age 15 she is ready with some advice
for young gays and lesbians thinking about taking
the same big step.
• Come out
to yourself first. Once you’re ready to come out to
others, build a support base before you tell anyone
who might hurt you.
•
Don’t try to get sympathy. When you’re out,
some might say how strong you are. True, gay kids
usually have a harder time than straight kids, but
leading someone to think that you’re very different
from everyone else won’t help.
• When you
come out, be prepared for those who talk about you behind
your back. Know that you will have to say something to
your old friend who now sends you e-mails that state:
“God created Adam and Eve, not Eve and
Emily.”
• Know
that a lot of your crushes will be straight—that the
girl you like will turn you down for a guy and will
stop talking to you because she won’t know how
to react when you tell her how you feel.
• Some
kids become desperate for a relationship. Don’t. It
might be harder for you to find someone, but
don’t settle for just anyone.
• When you
find someone, remember that the two of you are no different
from any straight couple. Don’t be afraid to show
affection and love.
•
Encourage your gay and straight friends to fight for LGBT
rights. Talk to people who don’t accept gays.
There are many people who have been taught that gay is
bad, but you, just one person, can change their
perspective.
• Do what
you want with your life and don’t let bias keep you
from the job you want or the success you deserve.
Being gay has nothing to do with your talent or
ability in any field of work.
• When you
become comfortable with who you are, help others. There will
always be confused and scared kids who think they are alone.
Until they are helped by someone, they will remain
confused and alone. We are all alone until we are
reminded of all the people who have helped and loved
us through the times when we lost our way.
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