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Bitter McGreevey Divorce Case Finally Over

Dina Matos took a calculated risk and lost. Offered a settlement said to top $300,000 early in divorce talks with her gay ex-husband, former New Jersey governor James E. McGreevey, Matos turned it down. The epic four-year drama that ensued cost each a half-million dollars and further drained the well in the court of public favor.


Dina Matos took a calculated risk and lost. Offered a settlement said to top $300,000 early in divorce talks with her gay ex-husband, former New Jersey governor James E. McGreevey, Matos turned it down. The epic four-year drama that ensued cost each a half-million dollars and further drained the well in the court of public favor.

''She got a little greedy,'' said matrimonial lawyer Joshua Forman, who has watched the McGreevey case closely. ''Plain and simple, the guy was governor of New Jersey. He wasn't working for some huge corporation, making a lot of money.''

What did Matos get for all the bother? A lump-sum payment of $110,000, which represents half the assets the McGreeveys accumulated during the four years they lived together as Mr. and Mrs., much of that spent in the New Jersey governor's mansion in Princeton.

McGreevey also was ordered to pay $250 per week in support for the couple's only daughter, 6. The calculation was based on McGreevey's earnings in his last sustained full-time job -- as governor -- and his ex-wife's income in her prior job as a fund-raiser at Columbus Hospital in Newark.

The judge overseeing the McGreeveys' acerbic divorce admonished both afterward.

''The McGreeveys clearly had agendas,'' wrote Union County superior court judge Karen Cassidy. ''As previously addressed, their anger seemed to override any ability to testify credibly or to be reasonable.''

The ruling in the monthlong divorce case came nearly four years after McGreevey announced he was a ''gay American'' and said he had an affair with a male staffer. The aide denied the affair and said he was sexually harassed by the governor.

McGreevey, 51, is now a full-time Episcopal seminary student who testified during the trial that he relies on his boyfriend for household expenses and legal fees. He said that if he were not in school, he'd have trouble finding a job because his name is tainted by political and sexual scandal.

Matos, 41, accused the former governor during the divorce trial of intentionally not working to avoid paying alimony and support.

The judge found some credibility in both arguments but factored the income of McGreevey's partner into the decision.

''We honor the principle that a current spouse has no obligation to support someone else's child while accounting for the reality that the current spouse may provide economic resources to the household,'' the judge wrote.

That touched off a wave of protest among gays and lesbians, with activists wondering how a partner's assets could be considered if the couple could not be married under state law. New Jersey does offer civil unions.

''The problem is, New Jersey does not give same-sex couples like Jim and Mark [O'Donnell] the freedom to marry and to be legally equal spouses,'' said Steven Goldstein, head of Garden State Equality, the state's largest gay rights organization. ''When the law gives a couple responsibilities without equality, the law must be changed.''

The only issue yet to be decided is a separate fraud claim filed by Matos.

In it, she claims she is entitled to damages for being duped into marriage by a gay man who needed the cover of a wife to advance his political career.

While Cassidy did not specifically rule on the merits of the claim, she did strike down Matos's request to be compensated for the 13 months she would have spent in the governor's mansion had McGreevey not resigned in disgrace.

''She was asking for the perks of a governor -- car, driver, clothing allowance,'' said Forman. ''You get certain things when you have a job, not when you leave it, especially when you leave in disgrace.''

Though each spent days on the stand publicly discussing the rise and fall of their marriage and the sordid details in between, neither has been willing to speak since it came to an end. (Angela Delli Santi, AP)

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Reader Comments
  • Name: Arkiebubba
    Date posted: 8/13/2008 6:32:00 PM
    Hometown: Little Rock

    Comment:

    Let's all put this behind us, including the Advocate. Let these people be.

  • Name: Rosey Cheekies
    Date posted: 8/13/2008 6:07:00 PM
    Hometown: New York, NY

    Comment:

    I'm glad that this circus is somewhat over. If there were ever two more contemptible people, these two are the poster children. He was/is slimy and she/is was looking for status and perks and just as slimy. Jim had been attending gay parties with men in New Jersey well before his announcement and she knew about it. Now she claims that she was duped. Funny. The real victims are the daughter and the partner. Although in the partner's case, "you lie down with dogs..." The irony of the situation with Jim's partner is that as governor of New Jersey, McGreevey was a staunch opponent of gay marriage. Hmmm.

  • Name: Eric Fox
    Date posted: 8/13/2008 1:10:00 PM
    Hometown: Atlanta, GA

    Comment:

    I wish she had been awarded a lot more than she was and had bled him dry. Why do we tolerate these cowardly closeted married men who destroy the lives of their straight spouses? I have nothing but utter contempt for Mr McGreevey. He makes all gay men look bad.

  • Name: Roger Burr
    Date posted: 8/13/2008 10:00:00 AM
    Hometown: Marble Hill, MO

    Comment:

    I partially rejoice at the final settlement. I'm pleased Dina got what she ligitimately had coming, rather than what she wanted. Financially speaking; her reach exceeded her grasp. She should have taken the $300K at the outset. Now, for her greed, she gets considerably less. What INFURIATES me is the inclusion of the partners finances in the settlement calculations. Jim and his partner can't marry in New Jersey. Nor, at present, does Jersey recognize same-sex marriages performed in other states. How then can the partners finances be treated as if they were community property? This alone, should push New Jersey to legalize same-sex marriage by legislation; since they appear to have done so by fiat.



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