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N.Y. Unwittingly Marries Same-sex Couple

Two young men recently fooled the New York City clerk's office into certifying what is believed to be the first same-sex marriage in the state.


Two men fooled the New York City Clerk's office into certifying what is believed to be the first same-sex marriage performed in the state, reports the New York Post, which published the couple's photo on its front page on Sunday.

Hakim Nelson and Jason Stenson were married in a ceremony at the clerk's office on Mary 26, 10 days after obtaining a marriage license at the office. Same-sex marriage is illegal in New York, although the state recognizes same-sex marriages performed elsewhere.

Nelson, 18, and Stenson, 21, said that when they applied in person for the license, Nelson used a state benefit card that lists his sex as female. The clerk did not ask him about the male-sounding first name -- Hakim -- that appears on his identification. He wore an orange dress and white leggings, with his hair falling at his shoulders.

Nelson goes by the name "Kimah" and hopes to have transition surgery one day. Stenson views Nelson as a woman, and does not consider himself gay.

Nelson and Stenson said they told another male couple about their successful experience at the clerk's office, prompting the other two men to wed. The clerk's office said it stopped a third male couple's attempt to marry on Friday by requesting birth certificates, and it maintains that Nelson and Stenson's union is not valid.

Meanwhile, Nelson and Stenson, who currently live as a married couple in a Brooklyn shelter, have not achieved similar success in obtaining couples' housing. A city intake officer demanded more information about Nelson's sex when they applied.

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Reader Comments
  • Name: Enrique TorreMolina
    Date posted: 6/18/2009 12:20:00 PM
    Hometown: New York, NY

    Comment:

    The way this article is written and how the issue is addressed in The Advocate is SUCH a disappointment.

  • Name: Julie Marin/TCOPS International
    Date posted: 6/17/2009 2:22:00 PM
    Hometown: San Jose, CA

    Comment:

    For a media outlet that is "supposed" to be friendly and understanding of transgender issues, your reporter and editors sure FAILED the transgender community on this one. This was a horribly insensitive article. It is apparent that the reporter is clueless and ignorant on gender issues, transgender issues or common sense. The editorial staff was no better since they let the story fly as is without, correction, editorial comment, or training their employee on the intricacies of the LGBT politics. How RUDE can you be without actually saying the words "You're a FREAK!" The comment made earlier about being "step-children" was not quite spot-on; "Bastard-Children" is more applicable with this kind of sentiment inferred here. SHAMEFUL!

  • Name: Alex Blaze
    Date posted: 6/17/2009 1:13:00 PM
    Hometown: Indiana

    Comment:

    I'm not really surprised that the NY Post would be so insensitive to the issue: GLAAD was formed out of protests of that paper. But I'd expect more from the Advocate when it comes to covering transsexual/transgender issues and people. Kimah is a woman because that's her gender identity, and they didn't fool anyone. It's the government who's wrong on this in not recognizing her as the woman she is, not her for living her life as the gender she is. I hope that the Advocate prints a correction about this, because I have come to expect better from you all.

  • Name: Liz Levitt
    Date posted: 6/17/2009 9:03:00 AM
    Hometown: Mastic NY

    Comment:

    Typical treatment of " T " people by the gay community. WE are your step children, to be mocked, laughed at, made the brunt of jokes. That was the way the world treated gay men and women for years, the you all turn around and treat the " T " part of GLBt just as bad, shame on you.

  • Name: Paul
    Date posted: 6/17/2009 7:01:00 AM
    Hometown: Durham, UK

    Comment:

    Way to fail at remembering what the T in the "LGBT" you've so prominently placed at the top of the page stands for, Advocate.

  • Name: Ace
    Date posted: 6/17/2009 2:25:00 AM
    Hometown: Vancouver

    Comment:

    how about stating that Kimah is a woman, rather than using no pronouns, using surgery to try to explain her gender, and then only referring to the fact that her husband views her as woman. why is it necessary to talk about her gender in terms of how her husband views her? sexist as well as transphobic.

  • Name: Martin
    Date posted: 6/16/2009 9:32:00 PM
    Hometown: Ft. Collins

    Comment:

    As others have said, this is not a "same-sex couple" and they did not fool anyone. Furthermore, could you please write an article about a trans person that does not mention the status of their genitals or what name they previously had? To be an advocate to glbT people, basic respect is required.

  • Name: Jade Foxx
    Date posted: 6/16/2009 7:24:00 PM
    Hometown: Red Wing, MN

    Comment:

    Way to be Harsh to The T of LGBT Advocate!! Im T myself, and this article pisses me off in the way you handled it

  • Name: Meagh
    Date posted: 6/16/2009 7:04:00 PM
    Hometown: Peterborough

    Comment:

    How is it possible that the Advocate published this article? Kimah is a woman. She is not a gay man, and this marriage is not a same sex marriage. The rights of transgendered people are one of the most important struggles that the queer community is tackling right now. It is shocking to me that the Advocate would be so behind this curve. Pull up the people. May we be concerned with the struggles of all queer and oppressed people and not simply with our own struggles. May we be allies and not oppressors.

  • Name: k
    Date posted: 6/16/2009 4:43:00 PM
    Hometown: seattle

    Comment:

    Unfortunately, this is yet another demonstration of the fact that what gay people and transgender people have in common is that we tend to get beat up by the same people. You exploit Ms Nelson by repeating the error of referring to her as he. You're giggling and smirking that -- ha ha! -- two men succeeding in marrying in spite of the law. Well, they are not two men. The comments here are pretty consistent: call for you guys on the clue phone.

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