How AIDS Changed the Landscape of Literary Gay Romance

Authors David DeBacco and Sedonia Guillone discuss the epidemic, love, loss, and gay romance in this exclusive author conversation.



De Bacco: [Laughs] I agree. We’re told to write from our heart and to write what we know. I must tell you, I’m impressed with Fallon’s Jewel, at how realistic the emotions and sexuality between the two men are. As you’re not a gay man, how are you able to achieve this level of empathy?

Guillone: To be honest, part of it is simply being a writer. Writers seem to have an openness that allows us to channel people of all kinds, no matter their race, gender, or sexual orientation. That said, there is also a deeply personal connection for me. My father is gay. He came out when I was 9 and moved in with the man who would be my stepfather for the next 33 years, until my stepfather’s death from AIDS. I was raised by and grew up around gay men. As an impressionable, sensitive child, I must have absorbed the concerns, experiences, and desires of the people who were most important to me.

De Bacco: Writers are like sponges. We watch, listen and observe all people and then we go home to our desk — all alone — and write about what we see, feel, and experience. My book follows the life of an aspiring writer, who makes his living as a waiter, and his relationship with a sushi chef. But this is a fictional tale that’s loosely based on my relationship in ’90s NYC — a time when the gay community was struggling with the AIDS epidemic and Madonna had just released Sex and Erotica. I’m just happy that I’m alive to write about it, because AIDS ravaged our community and in many ways we’re still recovering. I escaped the disease, but the purpose of writing the book is a result of the lessons I learned because of it.

Guillone: Well, David, you did a beautiful job. I really felt John Clute’s world. Even if I hadn’t gone through that same heart-wrenching time in my father and stepfather’s life — when people I had known as a child were simply gone — I would have experienced the poignancy and horror of it through your powerful writing. The sensitive and loving way you dealt with this period is just perfect and something so many readers will be able to relate to. You mentioned how writing the book taught you many lessons.

De Bacco: The lessons were rather simple but life-changing: how to be honest in a relationship; how to speak the truth, and to embrace the old adage — love yourself first in order to receive love from others. Having a relationship with people who live with HIV showed me how to lift myself up when life’s punches tried to knock me down. Compared to gay romance, I feel contemporary fiction allows a reader to relate more to the author because we’re pulling from real-life situations. Is it this way in gay romance, or is it as I imagine — writing from a fantasyland?

Guillone: You know, that’s actually a tough question to answer because it’s complex. There are ways in which the gay romance genre is fantasyland. I mean, in a romance-specific book, the reader knows he’s going to get an HEA, or at least a happy for now. Many of the characters in romance novels are larger than life while still being human. For example, in Fallon’s Jewel, Jake Fallon is a big, brawny, intergalactic cop, and his love interest, Kenji  — no spoilers here — has amnesia. But when we find out who he really is, wow! The beauty, however, is that these two men are in love with each other and that’s as much an important part of the story as the adventure itself.

De Bacco: You said it perfectly. One of the best parts of getting The Sushi Chef published has been getting to know you and to read your take on love. Hopefully younger readers will read our work and discover that it’s OK to be who they are and love whom they want, even if it’s an intergalactic space cop.

Guillone: Thank you so much for the kind words, David! I feel the same way. I’m so glad to know you and to have had the privilege of reading your beautiful story. What I respect about you is how strongly you live by your convictions and by the way you strive to learn and grow. I believe completely in the healing power of love and I want to share my conviction through my writing. In that regard, my stories aren’t merely escapist reading, although they can certainly serve that purpose.

De Bacco: I always enjoy chatting about love. This discussion reminds me of a favorite quote from Evelyn Waugh’s Brideshead Revisited: "How good it is to sit in the shade and talk of love."


About the Authors

David De Bacco has worked in New York, London, Tokyo, Moscow, Paris, and Milan for some of the world’s most acclaimed chefs, including "Nobu" Matsuhisa and Iron Chef Masaharu "Morimoto." David currently lives and celebrates life in Los Angeles, where he is a freelance writer for Edge Publications, a columnist on Fresh From the Farmers Market for AOL’s, and the creator of Cookin’ With Mama, a foodie blog. The Sushi Chef is his first novel.

Sedonia Guillone is the author of more than 50 novels, novellas, and short stories, including her critically acclaimed White Tigers series about a gay men’s hotel full of hot guys set in Tokyo (Men of Tokyo: Sudden Bliss, Men of Tokyo: Sudden Surrender, et al. Total-E-Bound Publishing). In 2010 she founded Ai Press (“ai” means love in Japanese), an up-and-coming small press that publishes mostly gay romance titles. When she’s not writing, she spends her days writing deliciously naughty romances, watching kung fu and samurai films and eating chocolate. Sedonia loves to chat with readers. You can find her website and email address on her author bio page at

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