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How Gay Hearts Can Beat the Valentine's Day Blues

Relationship expert Adam D. Blum gives advice to gay lonely hearts.

Why Won't My Boyfriend Get Close to Me?

Our love and sex columnist Adam Blum on gays and intimacy reticence.

Gay Men Seem So Busy and Stressed, Why Aren't Straight Men?

There may be a reason so many queer men cannot sit still for long, says our advice columnist, Adam Blum.

Gay People Have Been Taught to Be People-Pleasing Push-Overs

Our love and sex columnist offers advice on how to start making yourself priority number one.

Why Do Hot Guys Make Me Feel Insecure?

Our love and sex columnist dives into those complicated feelings that intense beauty can stir up.

Are Most Gay Men Lonely?

The short answer is yes, writes our love and sex columnist, psychotherapist Adam D. Blum.

Ask Adam: How Do I Have Better Sex With My Boyfriend?

The first step is admitting you're not entirely satisfied, writes our love and sex columnist. 

Ask Adam: Why Are Gays Obsessed With Being Perfect?

Our love and sex columnist on the pressure to be flawless.

Ask Adam: Why Is My Boyfriend So Annoying?

Our love and sex columnist helps a couple understand the genesis of frustrating behavior.

Is Testosterone Sabotaging Gay Relationships?

The male sex drive doesn't have to ruin a good thing, our love and sex columnist writes. 

The Gay Midlife Crisis: It’s a Thing

Our advice columnist Adam Blum shares tips on dealing with the fidgety 40s and 50s.

Ask Adam: Do I Have to Come Out?

A young man questions the necessity of disclosure.

Ask Adam: The One Tried-and-True Rule of Open Relationships

Our love and sex columnist on navigating rules that leave everyone satisfied.

Ask Adam: How Do I Stop Bickering With My Partner?

Those fights about laundry aren't always about dirty clothes, says our love and sex columnist.

Ask Adam: Is It OK for Men to Be Needy?

Our love and sex columnist advises that dependency can be a good thing, in response to a reader who is anxious about his open relationship.

Ask Adam: Why Am I Attracted to Younger Men?

Our advice columnist, Adam Blum of San Francisco's Gay Therapy Center, on the conflict over desire and personal objectives.

Ask Adam: Is This All There Is?

Our advice columnist on what happens after you check off "career" and "partner" from your to-do list.

Ask Adam: Making Friends as a Gay Guy

Get ready to work, but the payoff is worth it.

Ask Adam: Am I Being a Selfish Boyfriend?

Our advice columnist, Adam Blum of San Francisco's Gay Therapy Center, says don't be ashamed to tell your partner you want him home more — and what you want him to do once he's there.