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Side of Guac With Your Hate?

L.A. eatery El Coyote, long known for attracting a heavily LGBT client base, is facing the heat now that bloggers have revealed one of the managers, who is a niece of the original owners, had donated to the pro-Proposition 8 campaign. El Coyote's answer: a free lunch/press conference giving her a forum to explain her decision. But the 70-some people in attendance were none too pleased with what they heard. Is a boycott the answer?
An Advocate.com exclusive posted November 12, 2008
Side of Guac With Your Hate?

The El Coyote Mexican café has been a staple of the Los Angeles restaurant scene for seven decades. Not too far from gay ground zero West Hollywood, the kitschy decor and cheap margaritas have been drawing customers for decades, particularly members of the LGBT community, who flock to the restaurant’s unofficial gay Thursdays for drinks and food.

But on Wednesday morning it wasn’t about enchilada plate specials. El Coyote opened its doors early to host about 70 opponents of Proposition 8, many of whom had been longtime customers. Marjorie Christoffersen -- a manager, regular fixture at the restaurant, and the niece of the original owner -- was revealed by bloggers and a local food website to be a $100 donor to the Yes on 8 campaign.

After getting hundreds of angry e-mails and phone calls, El Coyote staff invited customers to a free lunch with Christoffersen to explain her position. In the restaurant's back dining room, a visibly shaken and tearful Christoffersen trembled as she read from a prepared statement.

“I’m sick at heart if I offended anyone in the gay community,” Christoffersen said as family members flanked her. She pleaded with the crowd not to boycott the restaurant, telling them the only people to get hurt are the families of the El Coyote’s 89 employees. “This was a personal donation,” she said, “not the El Coyote’s.

“It saddens me that my faith may keep you away from the El Coyote,” she added.

But the press conference quickly went south when people in the crowd began asking questions. A man identifying himself as an ex-member of the Mormon Church asked if Marjorie was willing to donate to No on 8.

She started crying before saying... "I will not."

Chaos ensued, the crowd erupted -- many of them calling for a full on boycott of the restaurant.

Christoffersen and the employees of El Coyote are in the cross hairs of the next phase of the Prop. 8 protests. Will LGBTs punish businesses that espoused support for the passage of the marriage ban?

One of the restaurant’s managers, identifying himself as Bill, said he was upset by the reaction and the potential loss of loyal customers, but noted that so far business had “not at all” suffered since the news broke of Christoffersen’s donation. But Bill explained that the restaurant was making a donation to Lambda Legal and another LGBT-related charity, in support of what is expected to be a lengthy court battle over Prop. 8.

The debate on what to do continued after Christoffersen finished her remarks. A brief question-and-answer period deteriorated into a shouting match between some of the Prop. 8 opponents and Christoffersen. Her family then hustled her out of the restaurant.

One regular customer suggested Christoffersen didn’t understand what she had done. “We have to be compassionate,” he said.

Another Prop. 8 opponent disagreed, saying Christoffersen “is not taking any responsibility for how anyone feels.”

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Keywords:  California marriage  Prop 8 
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  • Name: sam
    Date posted: 2008-11-18 11:25 PM
    Hometown: palm springs

    Comment:

    If straight people were boycotting "gay" restaurants, the "gay" community and the ACLU would have a 100 lawsuits filed inside a week. Where is the tollerance for other peoples beliefs? Why is it ok for the gay community to act this way? She stood up for her standards and beliefs. You are acting like a bunch of cowards with a mob mentality. 52% of California doesent agree with you. Go to Watts and try to protest the "black" voye, get your asses kicked down there, COWARDS!


  • Name: Marc
    Date posted: 2008-11-17 7:54 PM
    Hometown: Los Angeles

    Comment:

    The manager has ever right to donate money to whomever she chooses and I have every right to not to support an establishment that I choose. End of discussion! Marc Ex El Coyote patron of 30 years


  • Name: Gary R Cohan, M.D.
    Date posted: 2008-11-16 11:24 AM
    Hometown: Los Angeles

    Comment:

    These hateful people who hide behind their "religion" and who deem it appropriate to quote selective passages from the Bible as a weapon in their culture wars are being faced with enormous embarrassment and a robust -- and thoroughly justified -- backlash. Though they quote Leviticus (20:13) in their self-justifications, whatever to the rest of that sectionor for that matter, what happened to Leviticus 19:18 ? "Thou shalt not avenge, nor bear any grudge against the children of thy people, but thou shalt love thy neighbour as thyself" It has come as a BIG surprise to many closeted bigots-in-business who gladly take "gay dollars" on a daily basis to now see their names in print and their places of business being boycotted by the gay community for betraying their gay patrons. Boycotts and non-violent protests are legendaryily effective -- just think Gandhi and MLK. Our demands for full civil rights are non negotiable.


  • Name: Jeffrey
    Date posted: 2008-11-15 3:52 PM
    Hometown: Mount Vernon

    Comment:

    If the restaurant is giving to Lambda to support overturning the ban, and it truly was just a personal donation of one person, then I have to say that a boycott would probably do more harm to our community than good. About 10 years ago, we had a similar situation where I live, but the difference was the restaurant owner posted political signs supporting an antigay initiative in our state. We chose to boycott in this case, but the situation at El Coyote is different. It sounds like this is a predominatly gay-friendly business that employs gay and lesbian workers. Maybe it would be more productive if the community supports this business and continues communicating with the manager who is probably just doing what her priest tells her to do on Sunday morning. Maybe we can change her heart without hurting gay and gay friendly workers.


  • Name: Bill Wall
    Date posted: 2008-11-15 2:29 PM
    Hometown: Denver, CO

    Comment:

    I can understand a person having and acting on their personal convictions, but if one is in the public eye or owns a public business, then one must be prepared to accept responsibility for those actions. If the restaurant was here in Denver, we would definitely boycott.


  • Name: Allan
    Date posted: 2008-11-15 1:43 PM
    Hometown: Los Angeles

    Comment:

    Hey Bob: It is plain to the average person that you are naive. Do you hate blacks? Do you hate hetersexuals? It most likely comes from an internal disdain for yourself. I can assure you that you are simply attempting to rationalize your own juvenile and selfish agenda. I respect your right and that of the homosexuals to protest with civility. However, I would imagine that if the protests continue to escalate, the conservative population, both black and white will turn against you in ways you cannot even comprehend. Why don't you go into the black communities and protest? You are aware that 70% voted to support Prop 8, yet you don't rally and rant in their neighborhoods. We both know why...it would not be healthy for you.


  • Name: Timothy
    Date posted: 2008-11-15 1:35 PM
    Hometown: Dana Point

    Comment:

    To the homosexuals - how narcissistic, self-absorbed, vain, egotisical, and narrow minded. Get over it! The discussion and debate is not whether you were born having physical attraction to the same-sex, but whether you CHOOSE to act on those feelings. So please, quit playing the victim and the martyr, you don't want equal rights, you want SPECIAL rights so you can assuage your feelings and justify your behavior.


  • Name: Bob
    Date posted: 2008-11-14 5:56 PM
    Hometown: Los Angeles

    Comment:

    Allan writes: What a bunch of mean-spirited, spiteful, spoiled, little brats you are who take the position of hate. Quit throwing your tantrums. The election is over and you lost the vote by a majority of the population of California. Boy, it's a good thing those blacks in Alabama and Mississippi and Texas and everywhere else in the South didn't just "quit throwing tantrums" when they were discriminated against, huh, Allan? Or do you hate blacks and much as you hate gays? Honestly, are you so naive to believe that gays would just quietly accept bigotry, hate, and discrimination? Are we really supposed to just accept that businesses take our money and use it to discriminate against us? Are we really supposed to just let bigots suppress our rights without fighting back? So very naive.


  • Name: Ray T. Daniels
    Date posted: 2008-11-14 5:45 PM
    Hometown: Washington, DC

    Comment:

    I believe in using my money to support those that support me. I have said many times over that we are financing our own oppression. If we make this an economic decision, we will rapidly see how long people's "faith" lasts. But, if we really want to see legislation change, why not boycott the wedding industry? Stop doing bridal hair and makeup. Stop playing the organ and singing solos. Stop attending and buying gifts for those who deny you. The message will be delivered loud and clear. Those who are in alliance with you, will understand and not be offended.


  • Name: Barbara Karlin
    Date posted: 2008-11-14 5:05 PM
    Hometown: Boston

    Comment:

    I believe everyone has a right to believe as they will, and I believe I have the right to not support any business or person in return. So, if your 'faith' encourages you to be against a person's right to equal marriage under the law, my belief system tells me to boycott your business, performance, etc.


  • Name: Barbara Karlin
    Date posted: 2008-11-14 5:00 PM
    Hometown: Boston

    Comment:

    I think everyone has a right to believe as they will....and we have a right to not do business or in any way support them in return. People should be held accountable for their actions. So, feel free to honor your 'faith' and I'll feel free to boycott your place of business.


  • Name: Josh
    Date posted: 2008-11-14 4:30 PM
    Hometown: Orlando

    Comment:

    The answer is simple: If any company chooses to take our money and then use any part of that money to deny our rights --- that equals BOYCOTT. No stupid free lunch backed up by stupid tears -- whether those tears are real or fake -- I want my rights. BOYCOTT BOYCOTT BOYCOTT


  • Name: Dominick J. DiNoto
    Date posted: 2008-11-14 12:48 PM
    Hometown: Cloverdale

    Comment:

    NO on 8 was a vote for the GLBT community to gain Civil Rights to be equal with the rest of the country but these punks feel they're the only ones to receive the good life. Well PISS on them and in this economy It would be nice to see this chain FOLD! Who needs them anyway, DVDs man, that's the way to go. BYE Dick heads! I can pop my own popcorn at home way cheaper than what you ask for and the candy a soda too. So stuff your your overpriced theatres up your homophobic arses. BOYCOTT!!! AND RALLY all for the GLBTs cause! I'm sick of these friggin' bullies who make money off of our backs and then keep trying t make us 2nd class citizens!


  • Name: Pedro
    Date posted: 2008-11-14 11:18 AM
    Hometown: Long Beach

    Comment:

    IT'S ON BITCH !!! BOYCUTT IS IN ORDER AND IN EFFECT !!


  • Name: Allan
    Date posted: 2008-11-14 10:19 AM
    Hometown: Fullerton

    Comment:

    What a bunch of mean-spirited, spiteful, spoiled, little brats you are who take the position of hate. Who is really spewing the hate? Look in the mirror and grow up. Quit throwing your tantrums. The election is over and you lost the vote by a majority of the population of California.


  • Name: Robert
    Date posted: 2008-11-14 6:51 AM
    Hometown: West Hollywood

    Comment:

    I just couldn't go back to any of these businesses that contributed to depriving me of my rights. That's important. But I hope there's more discussion about the people who supported us as well. Entertainers like Ellen, Brad Pitt, Fall Out Boy and TR Knight along with companies like Apple (yay!), Levi's, Lucasfilm, Google and all the others took a risk by taking a stand. I hope all of those who contributed to the No on 8 campaign get the attention they deserve.


  • Name: Sara Durben
    Date posted: 2008-11-14 2:28 AM
    Hometown: San Mrcos, CA

    Comment:

    To Bob in LA Thanks for clearing it up! Sometimes it's difficult to discern intent, especially since I wasn't there and especially since it was a small part of the overall piece! ^^ I wholeheartedly agree with your comment!


  • Name: Sam
    Date posted: 2008-11-14 2:20 AM
    Hometown: North Caldwell, NJ

    Comment:

    I understand the outrage against El Coyote but I nevertheless feel bad for Marjorie. As mentioned in the article, she did, unlike other Yes-on-8 supporters, make herself available to her critics; and she organized the 'free lunch' not only to plea for her business but also to express how sorry she felt. A woman who's crying and trembling clearly feels bad-- certainly that's better than feeling happy or self-righteous? I think the way the meeting appeared to spin out of control is appalling. Just boycott the restaurant; you don't need to harass her.


  • Name: Granny
    Date posted: 2008-11-14 1:18 AM
    Hometown: Menifee, CA

    Comment:

    Paul I apologize to you and the rest of the readers for accepting what soqueer said about Levi's, Apple and Brad Pitt. I should have followed it up more closely. I will try not to do it again.


  • Name: Robert
    Date posted: 2008-11-13 10:41 PM
    Hometown: Worcester, MA

    Comment:

    I'm from L.A. and grew up with El Coyote...which was popular with my family in the sixties. Then came the GLBT movement... and this restuarant became very accepting of us...and it was cool hanging out there as GLBT folk. However Mexican families began to stop going... considering the size of the Mexican American community in L.A....a well publicize GLBT boycott of this establishment could motivate the conservative Mexicano/Latino community to support this establishment and "reclaim it from los gays". Boycott if you must...but predicting it would spell the end of El Coyote...I don't think so! Let's face it...this was ONE person who donated to a cause she believes in. ONE! I work for cable...and LOTS of CA cable folks voted for Prop 8...are you all ready to unplug your laptops and digital high def dvrs too?


  • Name: Paul
    Date posted: 2008-11-13 9:53 PM
    Hometown: Minneapolis

    Comment:

    Apple, Levi's and Brad Pitt supported NO on 8; please do NOT boycott them! soqueer.blogspot worded things poorly, but if you click the links you'll find articles that clearly state that these organizations and people supported marriage equality.


  • Name: Granny
    Date posted: 2008-11-13 6:03 PM
    Hometown: Menifee, CA

    Comment:

    Short list of big donors for passing Prop 8: Panda Restaurants; Caldwell Banker; A-1 Self Storage; Container Supply Co.; Hoehn Motors, Carlsbad; HI-Torque Publications; Lamsen Golden Spoon, San Diego; WKS Restaurant Group;, Long Beach; Auto Club of Southern California; San Diego Marriott Hotel and Marina, Saan Diego; Apple Computers, etc.; Levi's; Brad Pitt. Longs Drug Stores. Lots more too, check sites above.


  • Name: Debbie Golden
    Date posted: 2008-11-13 5:36 PM
    Hometown: albuquerque

    Comment:

    I think the guys should be fired! Making guacamole isn't all that hard - he can be replaced.


  • Name: Steve
    Date posted: 2008-11-13 5:08 PM
    Hometown: Menefee

    Comment:

    This is the LA Times list of donors. Try putting in your zip code to see who did what in your neighborhood latimes.com/news/local/la-metro-prop-8


  • Name: Gus
    Date posted: 2008-11-13 5:01 PM
    Hometown: Santa Barbara

    Comment:

    BOYCOTT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!


  • Name: Stephany
    Date posted: 2008-11-13 4:59 PM
    Hometown: Sun City

    Comment:

    This is the L A Times site: latimes.com/news/local/la-metro-prop-8


  • Name: Belchy
    Date posted: 2008-11-13 4:57 PM
    Hometown: NYC

    Comment:

    I'm sure there were employees of the bus company in Montgomery, AL that were not segregationists. That does not mean that MLK's boycott of that company was not justifiable and effective. These people have balls undercutting their own clientele. Sure it's their right, but the customers have a right to NOT fork over their cash too!


  • Name: Granny
    Date posted: 2008-11-13 4:46 PM
    Hometown: Menifee, CA

    Comment:

    Here is a list of the big donors to Yes on Prop 8 from the LA Times: soqueer.blogspot.com


  • Name: Marcus Summers
    Date posted: 2008-11-13 4:41 PM
    Hometown: Nantucket, MA

    Comment:

    I spend a lot of time in Los Angeles and have ate at El Coyote many times. I was also there (in LA) when Question 8 was voted on... I think El Coyote just has bad karma, Sharon Tate and her friends ate there the night they were brutally murdered at the hands of the Manson Family.


  • Name: Granny
    Date posted: 2008-11-13 4:12 PM
    Hometown: Menifee, CA

    Comment:

    Boycotting is the right word. We must do this and do it strongly. El Pollo Loco also donated to the Yes on Prop 8. No more meals there for me. Please publish a list of those business who donated to Yes on Prop 8. We can show them Gay Power at its best but hitting them where it hurts the most, in the pocket. I refuse to buy anything from a Yes on Prop 8 supporter. Find out where your church donations are going too. If you are a church going giver then stop giving if it is being used to support Prop 8 and other anti gay measures. I read about a terrible threat to our political electorate yesterday. The Catholic Conference of Bishops voted that no Catholic politician can take communion unless he or she supports the dictates of the Catholic Church. That sounds like blackmail to me. I don't hate Catholics, I am one who is gay.


  • Name: Ken M
    Date posted: 2008-11-13 4:11 PM
    Hometown: Boston, Massachusetts

    Comment:

    I don't believe it is fair to boycott a business because of what one of their employees do independent of the business. The business donated to Lamda Legal, so I'm not sure what else they can do. The employees (who likely make half of minimum wage plus tips) will suffer from this careless vengence. What's next, boycotting The Advocate because one of their employees attends a Catholic Church?


  • Name: Steve
    Date posted: 2008-11-13 4:05 PM
    Hometown: Menefee

    Comment:

    The gay-marriage battle: Follow the donors - Los Angeles Times


  • Name: Sam Page
    Date posted: 2008-11-13 3:59 PM
    Hometown: Los Angeles

    Comment:

    I'm the man who asked Christofferson if she would make equal reparations to "No on 8." The gay community is angry about the passage of Prop. 8, and we have a right to be. We have a right to demonstrate, and yes—a right to boycott. We can bring giants down when we want to. But I submit that an El Coyote boycott isn’t the right place to put our energy right now. I understand the deep conflict that her religious convictions can cause. I grew up in Utah, raised by both Mormons and Catholics, and I pretty much lost my family after coming out. So I could empathize with Marjorie, who was clearly conflicted. A boycott would probably put El Coyote out of business and 89 families out of work. Is that the best strategy for winning those undecided minds to our cause? And when the business is gone, then what? Is there any amount of money she could donate to our cause that would quell our anger? I doubt it. It goes much, much deeper than a $100 campaign contribution.


  • Name: Steve
    Date posted: 2008-11-13 3:58 PM
    Hometown: Menefee

    Comment:

    I believe that a boycott of all of the businesses that supported Prop 8 is quite in order. In this economy, the only clout we have is our wallets. I do think that singeling out El Coyote was a bit harsh...after all she was pressured by her church to donate and from what I can see she only donated $100; whereas the owner of El Pollo Loco donated $6000. So why is not everyone up in arms about him? And all the others that donated thousands. I read in the LA Times donors list of one "person" that donated $40,000 in support of Prop 8. I think that everyone has a right to express theirselves in whatever manner they think does the most good. But by boycotting a restaurant with a large GLBT staff only hurts our cause. Get the big guys first!


  • Name: Sam C.
    Date posted: 2008-11-13 3:57 PM
    Hometown: menlo park

    Comment:

    Ya know what, Steve? Not only is SHE entitled to do with her money as she wants. ALL THE GAY PEOPLE BOYCOTTING THE HATEFUL BITCH ARE DOING WHAT THEY WANT. Why do you politically correct (or are you just homophobes pretending to be gay or gay friendly?) jerks think that only the H8ers are allowed to have an opinion???


  • Name: Steve
    Date posted: 2008-11-13 3:51 PM
    Hometown: Santa Monica

    Comment:

    I agree that the LGBTQI community is not boycotting but choosing to do business with those businesses that share our values. We just found out that our personal lines state farm insurance agent (Mormon) gave $19K in support of Prop 8. Needless to say, we have transferred these policies to a gay-friendly state farm agent now. I don't want to start any rumors that state farm supported Prop 8 ONLY our agent from what I can tell. We have a choice, just as this manager had a choice. The Mormon Church had no problems threatening "No on Prop 8" corporate donors before the election and what goes around comes around.


  • Name: steve
    Date posted: 2008-11-13 3:29 PM
    Hometown: roswell, georgia

    Comment:

    Like it or not she's entitled to do with her money exactly what she wants. She's entitled to believe what she wants and say what she feels, I believe our constitution guarantees that! Obviously most off the staff doesn't have an issue with gays so why hurt them and the emplyees and family members that are gay? Wouldn't it be better served if the anger and frustration over the defeat of prop 8 could be focused on the bigger opponents. This place has a long history of being gay friendly so why would you want to do damage to it and it's staff?


  • Name: Lamont
    Date posted: 2008-11-13 3:21 PM
    Hometown: Louisville, KY

    Comment:

    There is the appeal to not boycott the restaurant because it will harm others that work for the restaurant and might be GLBT or family of GLBT and it could harm them but Marjorie didn't take that into consideration when she made her donation. If she was so concerned about the welfare of her employees she could have skipped the donation. If she is running abusiness hse had to know the ramifications of her donation (and I am sure her vote) had on the countless GLBT Californians. She wasn't concerned about that! Boycott El Coyote and every business that can be shown to have supported Prop 8. Let them feel the might of the people they think aren't worthy of the same benefits all Americans are entitled.


  • Name: Jerry
    Date posted: 2008-11-13 3:18 PM
    Hometown: Dallas

    Comment:

    El Coyote Mexican café appears to be about hate instead of food. It is time for all of her gay customers to go elsewhere. I bet she loves counting their money. Please support gay establishments over hatemongers.


  • Name: Jay in Nashville
    Date posted: 2008-11-13 2:47 PM
    Hometown: Nashville TN

    Comment:

    I'm confused as to what Marjorie Christoffersen's motives were and what she thought she was doing. From reading this story, she obviously has numerous gay employees and a huge gay customer base. So what was she thinking? Does she like her gay customers, is happy to have their money, but secretly doesn't respect them or their relationships? Was she simply horrified of the word "marriage" as some seem to be and, not thinking, got caught up in the drama of the campaign? I'm wondering if she's torn between her personal, positive feelings about gays and the negative ideas that her religion has been teaching her. Whatever the case, she had to know her donation was not a secret and that gays would be angry, offended, and take their business elsewhere. I'd like to know the rest of the story behind her donation, but I still could not knowingly spend my money with someone working against me.


  • Name: Paul
    Date posted: 2008-11-13 2:46 PM
    Hometown: Kansas city

    Comment:

    boycott is not the right word. We aren't boycotting, we're choosing not to patronize those who do not respect us. No one should expect the LGBT community to support them if that support is not mutual. I do not share this woman's faith, she has no right to force me to abide by her beliefs.


  • Name: JimB
    Date posted: 2008-11-13 2:27 PM
    Hometown: Central IL

    Comment:

    I can't believe these people (this manager and the guy that got fired from the Sacramento Theatre) actually have the gall to act like they didn't mean to offend anyone. You not only vote for, but also provide financial support for a state ammendment that relegates glbt's to second class status and you really believe your actions wouldn't offend anyone? I think that the West Hollywood gay community should boycott the restaurant for three months and then approach Marjorie again and ask her if she would continue to support government actions against gays. If she's had a change of heart, then of course give her a second chance. If not, peace be with you Marjorie but you'll get no more of our support. There isn't any need to be mean or hatefull about it, but boycotting a business because it's leaders support measures against you isn't, in and of itself, mean or hatefull.


  • Name: Sergio C.
    Date posted: 2008-11-13 1:26 PM
    Hometown: Eureka, CA

    Comment:

    The fact that she brings religion as her guide to giving for Prop. 8 makes me wonder what part of the Bible she is unfamiliar with? All the verses about tolerance and loving your neighbor as yourself, or the part about treating others as you would want to be treated? If you are going to bring religion into this then you had better practice what it teaches and I never read a verse about hating others. I will admit I am a lapsed christian, but there are some things one never forgets, whether they believe it or not. I lived in LA for 20 years and patronized El Coyote regularly. Mostly for the drinks as the food was OK at best. Boycott! Boycott! Boycott! Invite friends over and make your own drinks and order out. I will also be boycotting Wendy's, and any other establishment that has chosen to hate me. Eye for an eye and all that.


  • Name: Drew Ward
    Date posted: 2008-11-13 1:07 PM
    Hometown: Berkeley, CA

    Comment:

    This restaurant should be closed by boycott. The owner pleading for the employees is like a criminal using a human shield to protect themselves from the police. The crime against the gay community was gravely serious, and those who supported Prop. 8 for whatever reason, deserve to bear the consequences. If African-Americans in the '60's had been quietly respectful of the bigots' freedom of speech, there would still be "separate but equal" facilities for them nationwide. If the Civil Rights Act of 1964 had been put to the voters, it would have never been passed! The hateful and ignorant will always dash to the polls to take away the rights of people they deem unworthy of equality. My partner of 20 years and I deserve the option of marriage like anyone else.


  • Name: Jeffrey1234
    Date posted: 2008-11-13 12:55 PM
    Hometown: Long Beach, CA

    Comment:

    Where can we get an offical list or website of Prop. 8 business supporters? We all want to start boycotting the businesses.


  • Name: Jeffrey1234
    Date posted: 2008-11-13 12:54 PM
    Hometown: Long Beach, CA

    Comment:

    Where can we get an offical list or website of Prop. 8 business supporters? We all want to start boycotting the businesses.


  • Name: Bob
    Date posted: 2008-11-13 11:48 AM
    Hometown: Los Angeles

    Comment:

    Californians and folks on the West Coast -- we must also boycott El Pollo Loco chain restaurants. The owner donated $6,000 to Yes on 8.


  • Name: Bob
    Date posted: 2008-11-13 11:44 AM
    Hometown: Los Angeles

    Comment:

    Sara, asking Marjorie to donate to No on 8 wasn't an effort to get her to "counter" her previous donation to Yes on 8. It was an effort to see whether her newfound love and support of our community was genuine or if it was merely empty words delivered when she realized her bigotry might cost her our business. Extortion? Hardly. It was an attempt to see if Marjorie really had changed her views and really was an ally, or if she is a liar in addition to being a bigot. Turns out she's a lair and a bigot. Taking steps to see whether those who are oh-so sad and contrite now that their bigotry has been discovered are truly new allies or are merely covering their financial asses is entirely fair game.


  • Name: Jay
    Date posted: 2008-11-13 10:00 AM
    Hometown: New Orleans

    Comment:

    I hope someone will organize an effective boycott of El Coyote. As Kristin points out, the question is not so much how Marjorie uses her money, but how we use ours. I would never eat at any restaurant whose owner votes against my civil rights.


  • Name: Bill Courson
    Date posted: 2008-11-13 7:45 AM
    Hometown: Montclair, New Jersey, USA

    Comment:

    Of course, El Coyote should be boycotted. Why would the question even arise? Of all of the hypocritical comments I've heard in the entire Prop 8 campaign, "I’m sick at heart if I offended anyone in the gay community” must surely be among the most nauseatingly obsequious. If Marjorie Christoffersen is going to use her income to support laws that oppress me or deny me my equal status, I'm surely not going to supply her with that income. Indeed, I have a moral obligation to do whatever I lawfully can to curtail the availability of funds to her. Isn't this capitalism - voting with one's purse? Isn't this what we are all supposed to believe in - the sovereignty of the consumer? Throw El Coyote to the lions, I say. Surely, gay and lesbian restaurant operators in the area can do far, far better than this greasy spoon o' homophobia.


  • Name: Sara Durben
    Date posted: 2008-11-13 3:55 AM
    Hometown: San Marcos, CA

    Comment:

    I wholeheartedly agree that power comes with the purse. However, I must disagree with one customer who asked if Marjorie would make a donation to No on 8 to counter her prior donation. During the campaign, Yes on 8 sent out what were essentially extortion letters to businesses backing No on 8 demanding an equal donation to Yes or a boycott and public "outing" would ensue. The threat was rediculous and shameful, and I'd rather boycott a business than use the dirty tactics promoted by Yes on 8. And for the naysayers: While No on 8 DID publish the names of donators to the Yes campaign, they DID NOT send out extortion letters demanding donations from Yes supporters.


  • Name: Bob
    Date posted: 2008-11-13 1:21 AM
    Hometown: LOs Angeles

    Comment:

    I'm tired of the pathetic discussions of "should we do this?" "It's so drastic." "It's so mean." Jesus Christ, these people just voted for and funded a ballot initiative that told us we are subhuman. Hell, they voted to treat chickens and pigs doomed for slaughter better than us. And we're supposed to make nice, plead our case, and hope they learn to love? Bullshit. We have got to stop being doormats and start exercising our financial power, which we have a lot of. I'm sorry if other workers at El Coyote -- or any business -- that are gay or gay friendly lose their jobs over this, but we MUST show the bigots in this state that we will not line their pockets so they can turn around and spend OUR money to hurt us. Stop being such pussies! It's time to FIGHT!


  • Name: Rich
    Date posted: 2008-11-13 12:44 AM
    Hometown: San Diego

    Comment:

    Marjorie Christoffersen stated 'It saddens me that my faith may keep you away from the El Coyote'. Well, it is pathetic that you used your "faith" to help strip thousands of California couples of their rights. It is pathetic that you helped use the Constitution to take AWAY rights of your customers. This woman's actions are disgusting in that she takes money from the gay community and then shows surprise when the community mobilizes to stop supporting her business. Good riddance.


  • Name: Elizabeth
    Date posted: 2008-11-12 11:06 PM
    Hometown: Allen, TX

    Comment:

    A boycott is entirely appropriate and might even be effective. Look up "Birmingham campaign" on Wikipedia for an example of a very effective boycott that resulted in positive change.


  • Name: Eric
    Date posted: 2008-11-12 10:51 PM
    Hometown: Los Angeles

    Comment:

    Well Marjorie, you certainly screwed up your families 70 year business. Might as well shut the door. You are toast.


  • Name: Bruce Fairbanks
    Date posted: 2008-11-12 10:17 PM
    Hometown: Sacramento, CA

    Comment:

    What's amazing is that these business owners are actually SHOCKED that the gay community is angry with them. You help to take away our rights and we should be okay with that and continue to spend our money at your business? That's a serious disconnect. I certainly will not knowingly spend my hard earned cash at any business that supported the idea that I'm a second class citizen not entitled to the same rights as everyone else.


  • Name: Paul
    Date posted: 2008-11-12 9:13 PM
    Hometown: San Francisco

    Comment:

    It is exactly about how we spend our money. And making sure our money doesn't go into the pockets of those who will use that money against us. I am tired of people arguing for a soft approach. We've tried soft. Now it's time to fight back and show we aren't going to be pushed around. I say we use every tool at our disposal to send a clear message that we are serious. If a couple waiters and waitresses have to find a new job, so be it. Perhaps they will learn there are consequences to working against equal rights.


  • Name: Samuel Borelli
    Date posted: 2008-11-12 9:13 PM
    Hometown: West Hollywood

    Comment:

    We all need to make a personal decision to not support those that actively participated in stripping rights from others. Marjorie made a choice - and being there today the facts are clear. My choice is to make an informed decision on where my hard earn money goes!


  • Name: Diane
    Date posted: 2008-11-12 9:13 PM
    Hometown: Northampton, Mass

    Comment:

    It takes a special kind of self-hating queer to give his/her money to a business owner who is going use it to eliminate his/her equal rights. Boycotting businesses of those who gave to the Yes on 8 campaign should not be a controversial step -- it's basic self-interest. Why is that so hard to understand?


  • Name: Jamie
    Date posted: 2008-11-12 8:26 PM
    Hometown: Sydney, Australia

    Comment:

    We need to be angry to carry our movement forward - but should this include effectively lynching people for their beliefs? Ultimately it was Marjorie Christoffersen's hipocrisy that has lead to this - she has been willing to accept our money, but not our equal humanity. Perhaps one day she will be honest enough to recognise that her position of 'faith' is not without its own contradictions. Why should we accept the shallow acceptance of someone who only cares about the money we might spend there? We deserve better. But I can see that the noblest path is to accept HER. Whether or not we are willing to do that is something else entirely, and something each of us will ultimately decide on our own. Is the path we are undertaking one of acceptance through fear of reprisals, or something more profound?


  • Name: Kristin
    Date posted: 2008-11-12 8:10 PM
    Hometown: Los Angeles

    Comment:

    I don't think that this is an issue of how she uses her money, but how we customers use ours. If a person doesn't want their money going to her and then her giving it to an organization that they disagree with, then that is their choice, I personally don't live near the restaurant and haven't ever been there, but I personally like to feel comfortable when I go out to dinner and I wouldn't feel comfortable if the owner was against me having civil rights.


  • Name: Jim Dobson
    Date posted: 2008-11-12 7:56 PM
    Hometown: Los Angeles

    Comment:

    Marjorie is not a manager she is actually the OWNER of El Coyote after taking over the family business.


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