Were you surprised when The Advocate asked you to
participate in Big Gay Following?
Not really. We like everybody. The more people that like
our band, it’s amazing.
Do you have a lot of gay people in your life?
Yeah, I do. It’s funny how there are actually
magazines that are gay magazines and you focus on a
specific type of person in your demographic. Just
because I’ve never been that way, it’s funny
to have that conversation. Yeah, there are important
gay people, straight people, blue people, orange
people.
Do guys ever hit on you?
Not outwardly. Not “Hey, you wanna make
out?” It doesn’t happen to me. I
don’t know why. But I never really pick up on when
I’m hit on anyway—unless I’m into
it, and then I just convince myself that they’re
hitting on me.
So we shouldn’t expect a sequel to your first
album, Songs About Jane, called Songs
About Dick?
No, I’m not into dick. I wish I were. It
would be so much easier. Because, you know, men have a
certain camaraderie with each other that’s
easygoing and kind of simple, when you think about it.
Sometimes men and women clash mentally, although
physically it works out.
If you were into guys, who would be your type?
Oh, there are beautiful men out there. Antonio Banderas
is gorgeous. Well, maybe not so much anymore. He
peaked around Desperado. I mean, every male
secretly wants to have sex with Brad Pitt, but that’s
a given.
It’s hard enough to lust after an unattainable
celebrity without his simulating sex like you did
in the racy “This Love” video. Are you
trying to torture fans—particularly gay men?
Yes, the whole reason I started playing music
was specifically to torture gay men. No, I’ve
always been a very sexually open person. America has a
problem with sexuality, and it all seems too preposterous to
me—even debating over it. I’m most
definitely straight, but I grew up with amazing
parents who taught me what’s really important:
character. It makes no difference to me what
someone’s sexual orientation is. If
they’re a dickhead, they’re a dickhead.
How did you feel when they made the video PG-rated by
covering you up with computer-generated flowers?
That was ridiculous. That was Janet [Jackson]
and Justin’s [Timberlake] fault. That whole
thing happened—I don’t know even know what it
was. I just know her tit was hanging out. All of a
sudden we were in the ’50s again. I’m
all about public displays of nudity, but if you’re
going to do it, don’t do it that way. It just
seemed kind of odd. I wish they had gone further with
it and done the song naked.
Have you always been an exhibitionist?
Yeah. Part of that has to be with being comfortable with
myself and comfortable with my sexuality in general. I
like to do things like that. For no reason? No. But
artistically there’s a tie-in to what I do because
the lyrics that I write are pretty sexual.
You also steamed up your “She Will Be
Loved” video with Kelly Preston. What did
her husband, John Travolta, think?
I met him, and he said to me, “If I was
ever going to let anyone make out with my wife, it
would be you.” I thought he was going to kick my ass,
but he was totally cool.
If anyone has a sex tape just waiting to surface,
it’s totally you, isn’t it?
No. Everyone thinks that! You don’t make a sex
tape if you’re a celebrity. The only reason why
you would make a sex tape is if you secretly wanted it
to get out. Listen, if I wanted to have a sex tape out
there, I’d have 10. But it’s just in poor
taste to divulge the gory details of your sex life in
public. It’s just really not attractive to me.
It’s not that I’m a square or anything. There
are just some things you need to keep sacred and
private.
Your old band, Kara’s Flowers, performed once on
Beverly Hills, 90210.
We were 17, yeah, and I had been obsessed with
that show. Any young boy knew that in order to start
talking to girls, you needed to be into 90210.
So we went on the show, and Tiffani-Amber Thiessen thought
we were all on blow. We were just excited! She said,
“You guys are partying, right?”
We’re like, “We’re 17, Tiffani-Amber
Thiessen. What are you talking about?” Tori
Spelling hung out with us backstage and gave us the
lowdown. Brian Austin Green kept telling us about his music.
Ian Ziering was kind of a dick. Maybe he was having a
bad day.
Now Ziering’s on Dancing with the Stars.
Hey, good for him, man. That’s awesome. I
could never do that. I don’t understand how men
are capable of learning how to dance. I feel so silly
when I try. Dancing is an attempt to really express
yourself, but when the music moves you, you have no
choice—you just move.
You’ve been friends with Jake Gyllenhaal since
childhood. Why do we never see you hanging out
with him, Lance, and Matthew McConaughey?
I don’t know. I’m not a cyclist.
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