Gays have been very good to you, Bobby. Would you like to
thank us by taking us out for a drink?
All of you? Oh, my God. Well, the thing about
gay people is that they like to pick up the check more
than straight people, so yes, of course.
Do you remember the first gay person you met growing up?
Well, you’re talking about the late ’70s
in Jersey. I didn’t think I knew any gay people
when I was a kid, but actually, there was this one
person, the pianist in the church choir, and we all knew
about his “friend.” But it wasn’t
until I went to high school in Florida that the other
guy that was in all the plays with me -- he was the first
gay person I really knew. I’m positive that he
was gay, but (a) he wasn’t out and (b) he
hadn’t had any relationships yet. To me, he was just
annoying, but I don’t know if it had anything
to with being gay. [Laughs] Look, you’re
either an asshole or you’re not an asshole. If you
happen to be gay and an asshole, you’re still
just an asshole.
Your TV career was launched after producer John Wells saw
you play Steve in Paul Rudnick’s The
Most Fabulous Story Ever Told at
Williamstown Theatre Festival in 1998. What a gay way to
get discovered!
Pretty much, yeah. It opens with me having anal sex with
my lover -- Adam and Steve doin’ it. You want
to hear a funny story? So it’s me and Alan
Tudyk, who played Adam -- both of us not gay. We rehearse
this play for 3 1/2 weeks, and we go three weeks
before we even touch that opening scene. [Director]
Chris Ashley and Paul decide we’re going to wait on
that, so we skip over that every day in rehearsal. We
finally get to it, and Chris says, “So how do
you guys want to approach this?” And we’re
like, “Let us just do our thing, and you tell us how
it is.” So we get down there, we’re
wearing jockstraps, laughing, doing the whole “This
is weird!” thing. Then we start doing the lines
and Chris stops us, and he and Paul are both laughing
hysterically. We’re like, “What?” And
Chris goes, “Well, the thing is, it’s
not that painful!” Apparently the both of us
had looks on our face like we were being tortured.
Did the sexual content make you hesitate in taking the role?
No, I read the play and laughed my ass off. That was
just a story about two people who loved each other, so
it wasn’t a big deal. I gotta be honest with
you, my whole thing with acting is that I want to do
things that I’ve never done before. It’s
really my chance to educate myself and try to
empathize with people who have different interests than
I do. I didn’t go to college, so I do all that
through my work. My first gay role was in [Larry
Kramer’s] The Normal Heart at La MaMa about
13 years ago opposite an excellent openly gay actor, Tony
Quinn, who introduced me to my first wife, actually,
and became a really good friend. I played his dying
lover, and there was never an issue there. That was a
big break for me because Lanford Wilson, a great American
playwright, was in the audience, he introduced me to Circle
Rep, and that’s how I got into that theater
company and met even more gay people!
When you play gay, do you feel a responsibility to
represent the community respectfully?
I would normally say no because I don’t ever let
my own politics inform the choices I make in terms of
roles. But for gay characters, I have turned things
down that were just offensive. Like, I don’t think
[I Now Pronounce You] Chuck & Larry
does a particularly good service to gay people. But I
also don’t think it’s very funny.
Something like Kiss Me, Guido I think is funny.
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