Getting Stoned

Reality shows are notorious for editing cast members in a not so flattering way, especially with gays and women of color. Was that a concern? That was my biggest concern--I'm a pretty cool person, and I didn't want any of that left on the editing-room floor. It was definitely a concern that they were going to spin it that I was this angry black lesbian. I'm not angry. Sometimes I felt I was getting a little pressure from the director to be that person, but I didn't let it happen.

You also have a girlfriend. How was that treated on camera? They were pressuring to show a lot of interaction between me and my girlfriend. However, my girlfriend was never on camera because my girlfriend is not out. Plus, I just wanted to keep something for myself, because the show wasn't about me and her; it was about me being a journalist. I was trying to make the show what I wanted it to be, not what they wanted it to be.

Did your sexuality ever hinder you in the competition? In general, heterosexual women have these pretty-girl privileges. I'm a handsome motherfucker, but I don't get away with the pretty-girl shit. But me being gay really wasn't a big deal, though I was the only gay person at Rolling Stone--as far as I know. There's definitely prejudice in the music journalism world, but at Rolling Stone I didn't have any problems. It's a boys' club over there--don't get me wrong--but they're a really great bunch of people.

Coming from a background in hip-hop journalism, how do you handle homophobia in that world? I definitely don't like it, but at the same time, what am I supposed to do about it? I just have to deal with it. I'm a big butch lesbian--it's very obvious that I'm gay--but when I interview different artists or deal with people from hip-hop magazines, I just try not to make it an issue. It's not about who I'm sleeping with, it's not about who I love, it's about me doing this interview and writing you a bomb-ass story.

Would you ever fem it up for your career's sake? Hell, no. That would be such a fuckin' freak show. [Laughs] Last time I wore a dress was in 1999 at my uncle's funeral.

You wouldn't slip on a miniskirt if you found out that a Jay-Z or a Kanye West was more comfortable with a more feminine and submissive female interviewer? Hell, never! But hey, I like my ladies submissive and in miniskirts too.