150 Reasons to Have Pride in 2010
Also, check out our interview with another reason to be proud: Cynthia Nixon.
BECAUSE FAIR IS FAIR
When Montana’s supreme court ruled in favor of a lesbian who sued her former partner for joint custody of the children they’d raised together, Justice James Nelson called antigay discrimination “evil.” He went on to say that “lesbian and gay Montanans must not be forced to fight to marry, to raise their children, and to live with the same dignity that is accorded heterosexuals.”
In the face of proposed legislation that would have prohibited Maryland from recognizing same-sex marriages performed legally in other jurisdictions, state attorney general Douglas F. Gansler said no. In an opinion (one that antigay pols tried unsuccessfully to impeach him over) Gansler said that if such rights are legal elsewhere, they’re good for Maryland too.
Even though Nevada governor Jim Gibbons vetoed a bill to legalize domestic partnerships, both the senate and assembly overrode the veto with clear majorities.
BECAUSE WE MADE BROADWAY WHAT IT IS TODAY
Stephen Sondheim, the most Tony-winning composer, turned 80 in the spring and is being feted throughout the year for his body of work. I’ll drink to that! (We’ll be toasting with a vodka stinger.)
Yes, Arthur Laurents, the 91-year-old playwright and director, revived his West Side Story (featuring lyrics by Sondheim) in 2009 and has published a memoir, titled Original Story By, but we’re mostly excited by his advice for younger gay men: “First of all I want to say I’m active sexually, so there’s hope for anyone!”
BECAUSE GENE ROBINSON WON’T HAVE TO SIT BY HIMSELF ANYMORE IN THE
Mary Glasspool, widely regarded as a brilliant
and passionate Episcopal priest, was installed as the church’s second
openly gay bishop in May.
BECAUSE WE CAN THROW TOO
just half of the country would vote for an openly gay commander in
chief, a whopping 62% of people polled are ready for a gay quarterback
to lead his (or her) team to the Super Bowl, according to a poll
conducted by Vanity Fair/60 Minutes.
BECAUSE THERE WERE
NO GAY PEOPLE ON JERSEY SHORE
And we are not complaining.
BECAUSE FAMILY DOESN’T ALWAYS STICK TOGETHER
Adam Bouska has enlisted the family of a failed Republican presidential candidate in his “No H8” photo campaign for gay rights—with Meghan McCain and Cindy McCain posing for his camera. If only Bouska could duct-tape the mouth of John McCain’s former running mate…
BECAUSE EVEN REALITY STARS WANT A PIECE OF THE ACTION
Those Real Housewives of various locales may have plenty of gay BFFs, but at least one of the players in this pop culture phenomenon has tried the actual gay thing herself. The news came out earlier this year of a romance between Kim Zolciak of The Real Housewives of Atlanta and popular lesbian DJ Tracy Young. While Zolciak was cagey when the first reports surfaced, she finally acknowledged that she and Young were together, telling Life & Style, “I’m among the millions of parents who have been in a gay or lesbian relationship.”
BECAUSE AN ODE CAN GET YOU
When eight friends from New York City headed for
Fire Island Pines, slipped into their swimsuits, and filmed themselves
splashing in the ocean to Miley Cyrus’s “Party in the USA,” they became
overnight Internet sensations. Among their biggest fans? Cyrus herself,
who tweeted that she was “obsessed” with the video. And she wasn’t the
first star to find herself fascinated with a tribute from a gay fan.
Dancer Shane Mercado so impressed Beyoncé when he danced up a storm to
her “Single Ladies” that she invited him to join her on the red carpet
at the premiere for her film Cadillac Records.
BECAUSE YOU’VE BEEN TRAINING
Are you a competitive ballroom
dancer or a power lifter? Either way, it looks like you’ll find your
people at Gay Games VIII, which kicks off July 31 in Cologne, Germany.
WE KNOW WHAT’S GOOD FOR THE KIDS, AND IT ISN’T DISCRIMINATION
April, Chris Piazza, a circuit court judge in Arkansas, overturned a
state ban on unmarried couples living together—including same-sex
couples—adopting or fostering children. Piazza struck down the law,
approved by voters in 2008, saying it unduly limited the pool of
suitable foster and adoptive parents and didn’t serve the interests of
children who need a home.
BECAUSE WE’RE HAPPY WHENEVER AND AT WHATEVER AGE YOU COME OUT
James Randi, famed debunker of paranormal phenomena, faith healing, and pseudoscientific claims, has also exploded the myth that it’s ever too late to come out of the closet. “I thought it’s about time,” says Randi, 81, adding he has always been out to close friends and colleagues but was inspired to make a public announcement—on his website in March—after viewing the film Milk and in anticipation of publishing his autobiography. Randi says he’s received overwhelmingly positive feedback, including some from young gays who say his coming out has helped them do the same. Randi, who says he would marry his partner of 25 years if their union would be recognized in their home state of Florida, says he plans to work for marriage equality and other gay and lesbian causes.
It’s been a decade since Barbara Walters asked Ricky Martin on national TV if he was gay. He didn’t deny it; he just didn’t want to talk about it, an approach he used many times in years to follow. Which is why the pop star stunned his fans in March when he posted these words on his website: “I am proud to say that I am a fortunate homosexual man. I am very blessed to be who I am.” The 38-year-old singer said working on his memoir and raising his two toddlers helped lead him to the decision to come out—a move Gay and Lesbian Alliance Against Defamation president Jarrett Barrios says has the potential to “spark the types of conversations that build common ground” among Latinos. Pop star Christian Chávez, who came out in 2007 with Martin’s support, says he’s thrilled his friend can finally be open and honest about who he is: “Ricky Martin has always been a figure to look up to, and right now I’m so proud to be his fan.”
Meredith Baxter gave a voice to women “of a certain age” when she came out in December at 62, followed quickly by a book deal, an impressive speech at a Human Rights Campaign dinner, and a headlining appearance at the Dinah Shore Weekend.
Until blond cutie Duncan James of the U.K. boy band Blue came out as bi last year, he’d kept it even from his bandmates. (He’d been publicly linked romantically with Geri Halliwell, but we’re guessing she knew the score.)
Chastity Bono (pictured) came out as a lesbian in 1995 on the cover of The Advocate. Fourteen years later he came out as Chaz Bono, confirming through his publicist that he is transgender and would be transitioning from female to male.
BECAUSE YOU CAN LET YOUR BODY MOVE TO THE MUSIC
While Glee’s Jane Lynch has reminded the country why voguing never goes out of style, another gay iconoclast gave context and a deeper understanding to the dance form. As part of this year’s Whitney Biennial, performance artist Rashaad Newsome (pictured) held a voguing competition—complete with a DJ and judges—and then had a computer produce a line drawing of the performance, effectively turning the spontaneity of the movement into something resembling data. Popularized by Madonna through her 1990 song and video but created in Harlem dance halls years earlier, voguing both mocks and grasps at the old-school glamour found in Hollywood publicity stills and the glossy pages of fashion magazines. Newsome’s African-American subjects pose convulsively, as if an old Rolleiflex is snapping furiously. A flamboyant black man is far from a fashion magazine’s typical subject, both during Hollywood’s golden age and now. And that’s part of the point of Newsome’s work, which also includes photography and collage. In all of his media Newsome works to expose the pressure placed on African-American women to homogenize their appearance and demeanor. At one show he placed a group of seemingly angry black women in front of an audience. Challenging the audience to laugh, the ladies snapped their fingers, moved their necks in a stereotypical fashion, and repeated phrases like “Child, please!” and “Girl!” No full sentences were used, nor were they needed. As Newsome told Time Out New York, “For me, art takes over where words stop.”
BECAUSE SOME OF THE BEST NEW THEATER FEATURES SMART STORIES ABOUT US (IN ADDITION TO BEING WRITTEN BY, DIRECTED BY, AND STARRING US)
History, intellect, and sex—all rarely mix so tantalizingly as in The Temperamentals (1). The new play by Jon Marans, directed by Jonathan Silverstein, stars Ugly Betty’s Michael Urie as one of the inner circle that devised the early gay rights group the Mattachine Society.
Though it’s not a gay show, Fela! (2) is directed and choreographed by Bill T. Jones, and it’s easily the most celebrated musical on Broadway. The New York Times has spilled a river of ink over the production about the life of titular Nigerian political maverick and musician Fela Anikulapo-Kuti.
The Pride (3), which went to New York City after a run in London, was written by Alexi Kaye Campbell, directed by Joe Mantello, and starred Ben Whishaw (all are gay) as well as Hugh Dancy and Andrea Riseborough. The three actors slipped seamlessly between London in 1958 and 2008, with gay love affairs torturing a trio of intimates.
Can anyone imagine a movie more suited to a stage adaptation than Priscilla, Queen of the Desert (4)? After runs in Sydney, Melbourne, and London, the boas and bell-bottoms are headed stateside in 2011. Just what this country needs: a cock in a frock on a rock.
The Intelligent Homosexual’s Guide to Capitalism and Socialism With a Key to Scripture, by Angels in America playwright Tony Kushner, tackles the labor movement, sex, and radicalism and will be presented at New York’s Public Theater in the spring of 2011. Angels, meanwhile, will have its first New York revival this fall.
Not that Next Fall, a much-lauded intimate family drama, needed Elton John and David Furnish as producers, but the star power could hardly hurt. Written by Geoffrey Nauffts and directed by Sheryl Kaller, the Broadway play stars Patrick Breen and Patrick Heusinger as a gay couple grappling with cosmic-size questions and human-size heartache.
BECAUSE IT’S GREAT TO SPEAK TRUE
We’ve always adored Anna Paquin, but fantasies of the sexy star of True Blood have a new specificity now that she’s come out as bisexual in a public-service announcement for Cyndi Lauper’s “Give a Damn” campaign.
BECAUSE HE’S TAKING IT TO THE MAT
Hudson Taylor, a straight wrestler for the University of Maryland who wore a Human Rights Campaign sticker on his ear covers during matches, finished fourth in the national championships. Congratulations!
BECAUSE CASTER SEMENYA REFUSES TO HANG UP HER RUNNING SHOES
There’s no Achilles’ heel on this South African sprinter. After unending international speculation about her gender—leaving little semblance of privacy to the 19-year-old phenom—Caster Semenya announced her return to competitive racing in March. Let the girl run!
BECAUSE GLAM IS GOOD
Scissor Sisters will release a new album
in June, one they describe as “supersexual and sleazy.” We cannot wait!
BECAUSE WE ARE GOING TO PROM, DAMN IT
Constance McMillen took a stand for equal rights when she sued her Mississippi school for forbidding her to take her girlfriend to prom. Derrick Martin was more successful; after balking at first, officials at his Cochran, Ga., school are allowing him to take his boyfriend.
BECAUSE WE CARE, SO WHAT?
Whether it’s on The View or her eponymous talk show, Joy Behar continues to kick ass on issues that matter to us.
BECAUSE NOT EVERYONE NEEDS TO BE TOLD HOW TO DRESS
Barbie and G.I. Joe don’t resonate in Samoa like they do on this side of the Pacific. In fact, the two tiny islands and their 180,000 people don’t buy into rigid gender roles, instead celebrating gender diversity and their fa’afafine culture of biological men living as women. For generations, Samoan boys born into families with few or no girls were tasked with performing “female” duties their mothers needed assistance with, such as cooking and cleaning; they also often were dressed as girls and called fa’afafine (literally meaning “in the manner of a woman”). The culture, sometimes referred to as the “third gender,” has now evolved to a point where most Samoan boys who express an interest in acting as women are recognized and accepted as fa’afafine. As Radio Australia described it, “[Effeminate boys] will usually be neither encouraged nor discouraged to dress and behave as women. They will simply be allowed to follow the path they choose.”
BECAUSE WE LOOK GOOD IN PICTURES
Wait, you want to show off your iPhone and your junk? There’s an app—er—a site for that! It’s GuysWithiPhones.com.
BECAUSE BIG GIRLS GOTTA REPRESENT
How did a size 28 lesbian from Arkansas become an It girl, fawned over by fashion arbiters such as the notoriously sizeist Karl Lagerfeld and the late Alexander McQueen (who rarely designed a garment for any woman a few inches larger than a size 0)? If you have to ask, you’ve never seen Beth Ditto perform live. Gossip’s lead singer is set for a summer rocking the latest incarnation of Sarah McLachlan’s Lilith Fair. And thank heaven for that: The show could use a little punk rock and ball sweat—both of which Ditto is more than capable of delivering.
BECAUSE WE’VE GOT MIKE MULLEN ON OUR SIDE
Enactment of “don’t ask, don’t tell” was sealed in 1993, when Gen. Colin Powell, then chairman of the Joint Chiefs of Staff, appeared before the Senate Armed Services Committee to testify in favor of the antigay policy. In turn, DADT’s eventual undoing would be locked in 17 years later when Powell’s contemporary counterpart, Adm. Mike Mullen, delivered a stoic but resolute rebuke of the military ban before the very same committee. “Mr. Chairman, speaking for myself and myself only, it is my personal belief that allowing gays and lesbians to serve openly would be the right thing to do,” Mullen said. “No matter how I look at the issue, I cannot escape being troubled by the fact that we have in place a policy which forces young men and women to lie about who they are in order to defend their fellow citizens. For me, personally, it comes down to integrity—theirs as individuals and ours as an institution.” Since Mullen’s pronouncement, a string of retired and active-duty officers have weighed in for equality. Maj. Gen. Raymond Odierno, the commanding officer in Iraq, said “everyone should be allowed to serve, as long as we’re still able to fight our wars” and retired major general Paul Eaton observed, “Discrimination based on sexual orientation is inappropriate in our society—it is inappropriate to ask somebody to lie if he wants to keep his job as a solider, airman, seaman, or marine.” Even Powell himself now says times have changed and that he supports the direction taken by Mullen and Secretary of Defense Robert Gates—a 180-degree turn that certainly portends the end of the military’s closet.
BECAUSE WE APPRECIATE GOOD LIGHTING
It’s hard to call Exterface.com’s images smut (even if they do) when the taut bodies are depicted in such a gauzy, dreamy, and halcyon manner. The artistic descendants (right down to the ampersand) of Pierre & Gilles, Stephane & Julien have figured out how to make pink unicorns swoon-worthy.
BECAUSE WE’RE STILL FIGHTING OVER WORDS
While some embrace queer as more specific than gay, more political than homosexual, or less clinical than LGBT, others blanch at the moniker, viewing it as a not fully reclaimed slur that too many still use against us (William F. Buckley presumably wasn’t thinking nice things when he used the word to describe Gore Vidal).
Fashion designer Christian Siriano (pictured) and the CW’s High Society reality cast members got into hot water after using “tranny,” but no one made a fuss when Drew Barrymore said the same word at the GLAAD Awards referring to “the tranny on the corner” in the West Hollywood neighborhood where she grew up. Truth be told, GLAAD officials would have a lot more time on their hands if the word were retired altogether, and yet the film Ticked-Off Trannies With Knives uses it with abandon—but for political or comic effect?
Ann Coulter caught flak when she uttered “faggot” as an insult to John Edwards; Jerry Lewis was forced to apologize after saying the same word on a telethon; and Isaiah Washington lost his TV job over it. While faggot (and fag) is still undeniably harmful on the playground, some people (Dan Savage and many self-described “hags”) use it as a badge of defiant honor. Yet the word seems squarely entrenched in the we-can-use-it-but-haters-can’t category. So if you use it, we’ll assume you’re one too.
BECAUSE STANDING UP FOR EQUALITY SHOULDN’T COST YOU
Maine’s Preble Street Homeless Voices for Justice publicly supported gay
marriage during a 2009 referendum, the Roman Catholic diocese of
Portland, a major funding source for the agency that provides assistance
to the poor, yanked its grant money. In April, Gov. John Baldacci, a
same-sex marriage supporter and practicing Catholic, hosted a spaghetti
dinner fundraiser to help replace some of the money lost, and more than
900 residents of Maine attended. Catholics for Marriage Equality also
will help offset the $17,400 in grants rescinded this year and the
estimated $30,000 for 2011.
BECAUSE WE LOVE TO CAMP
people in Wyoming, camp isn’t just a feature of drag shows and old
movies; it’s an activity you do in the great outdoors to celebrate
pride. The statewide pride event Rendezvous is a five-day campout in
Medicine Bow National Forest, happening August 4–8 this year, with ample
entertainment options amid the natural beauty and campfire communion.
BECAUSE IF DAN CHOI IS IMPATIENT, YOU SHOULD BE TOO
If handcuffing yourself to the White House fence (twice!) was all it took to end “don’t ask, don’t tell,” a battalion of discharged troops would have already done so. But every civil rights cause needs a symbol—a bus seat, a monk engulfed in flames, a protest chorus of “Si, se puede!”—so thanks to Lt. Dan Choi for the much needed visual.
BECAUSE WE'RE GREENER
Gay people are way more concerned with the destruction of the planet than our straight neighbors, who don’t recycle or know squat about composting. According to a Harris Interactive poll in October, not only are we more concerned, but 21% of LGBT people would consider themselves environmentalists, as opposed to 13% of straight people. Furthermore, 66% of gay people, opposed to 56% of nongays, agree that it’s important to support environmental causes. Bob Witeck, chief executive of Witeck-Combs Communication, thinks the difference reflects that gay people are simply less cynical about the state of the environment. It also shows our strong sense of community, he says: “Although LGBT households are not parenting as frequently as our nongay counterparts, 51% say they are concerned about the planet we are leaving behind for future generations—compared with 42% of heterosexual adults.”
BECAUSE IT’S A MIRACLE (TO BORROW FROM A CULTURE CLUB HIT)
Once bitchy rivals, out pop singers Boy George and George Michael have stopped the name-calling, ended their quarter-century–long feud, and seem to like each other again.
BECAUSE WE’VE EARNED IT
The chairman of the University of Alabama at Birmingham’s gay-straight alliance was named a prestigious Harry S. Truman scholar this year. Logan Talbot, a 20-year-old junior, joins Secretary of Homeland Security Janet Napolitano, The New Yorker’s Jeffrey Toobin, and George Stephanopoulos as a recipient of the hard-as-hell-to-get federal scholarship.
BECAUSE OUR STORIES ARE WORTH KEEPING
The Mississippi Safe Schools Coalition, which is run primarily by high school and college-age people, is recording gay history. Members are gathering stories from LGBTQ youths, allies, parents, and others to capture the experience of gay Mississippians. The coalition plans to use the stories, collected through its website, to help policy makers understand what gay youths in the state go through.
BECAUSE MOCKERY IS THE SINCEREST FORM OF FLATTERY
And no one ridicules antigay talking heads like The Daily Show’s Jon Stewart.
BECAUSE WE’RE ALL HER LITTLE MONSTERS
And Lady Gaga has proclaimed she wants to turn the whole world gay.
BECAUSE WE LIKE MOVIES ABOUT GLADIATORS, JOEY
If you’re complaining about the historical accuracy of Spartacus: Blood and Sand, you’re completely missing the point. The sweaty, sex-obsessed sword-and-sandals series on cable network Starz features enough glistening, chiseled, and usually nude bodies to make the cast of 300 turn green with envy. Star (and lesbian icon) Lucy Lawless’s return to scanty period garb is just icing.
BECAUSE WE’RE HELPING TO MAKE SURE EVERYONE HAS EQUAL TREATMENT
“Gay sex is morally good,” lesbian law professor Chai Feldblum said as part of a 2004 speech she gave at the University of California, Los Angeles, on the societal benefits of intimacy. Feldblum, after being nominated by President Obama, was sworn in this year as one of five commissioners to the U.S. Equal Opportunity Commission—the group that enforces federal laws prohibiting discrimination based on traits such as race and religion. The far right, and some Republican senators, tried to use the aforementioned aside to sink Feldblum’s nomination, but this woman was simply too good at her job for them to get their way. Educated at Harvard, Feldblum helped draft 1990’s landmark Americans With Disabilities Act, assisted in forming the language of the proposed Employment Non-Discrimination Act, and has taught law for the past 19 years at Georgetown University. Feldblum’s appointment suggests ability now trumps sexual orientation, at least in Obama’s Washington. If right-wingers are frightened about ENDA, which would prohibit workplace discrimination against LGBT people, they have reason to fear Feldblum. Should the legislation be passed, Feldblum will help write the guidelines of its implementation.
BECAUSE WE’RE THE BEST PART OF THE SUPER BOWL
Who else but
Ross Matthews could get a roomful of uniformed athletes about to take
the field for the biggest game of the year to channel their inner gay
BECAUSE BILL MAHER MAKES RULES WE CAN LIVE BY
Our favorite from the Real Time host: “Everyone deserves equal rights. That’s why they’re called ‘equal’ and ‘rights.’ ”
BECAUSE TRANS ACTRESSES ARE WORKING IN HOLLYWOOD
“It’s not such a bad word anymore, the t word,” says Candis Cayne, one of several transgender actresses enjoying a heightened profile in Hollywood these days. Cayne’s work on ABC’s Dirty Sexy Money played a major part in raising that profile, and since the end of that gig she’s been staying busy: Her schedule this year includes a weekly music and comedy show at the popular Abbey club in West Hollywood, a guest shot on Lifetime’s Drop Dead Diva, and being grand marshal of the Vancouver gay pride parade.
Meanwhile, Calpernia Addams, of Transamerican Love Story fame, has the indie film A Woman’s Picture due out this year and is producing music videos and other projects with business partner Andrea James. Addams adds that transgender actresses have been in Hollywood for years, such as Bond girl Caroline Cossey and Aleshia Brevard, who appeared alongside Don Knotts and Dean Martin. “We all stand on the shoulders of the people who came before us,” Addams says.
Alexandra Billings, noted for a prominent guest role on Grey’s Anatomy, is in the horror film 4.5: A Love Story, which is drawing interest from distributors, and she continues to teach acting and appear onstage. Trans actresses still face some barriers—most of the roles they get cast in are trans parts, and while they are glad to raise visibility, they long to simply be cast as any other actress would be. “That’s sort of the next glass ceiling,” Billings says. One exception is theater; Billings, a veteran of Chicago and New York stages, played Princess Puffer in a Los Angeles production of The Mystery of Edwin Drood and will play Amanda in Noël Coward’s Private Lives in L.A. this fall. She will also do cabaret, as herself, at Feinstein’s in Manhattan in August.
BECAUSE WE HAVE A STRONG PRESENCE ON DAYTIME…
Actress Eden Riegel may have left All My Children, but producers say they plan to search for the right actress and recast the role of Erica Kane’s lesbian daughter, Bianca Montgomery.
…AND WHEN WE DON’T, WE TAKE ACTION
One Life to Live has written off gay couple “Kish” (pictured above)—Brett Claywell as Kyle and Scott Evans as Fish—prompting a mini revolution among soap fans to bring them back. Producers say they have no plans to continue the story at this time but leave the door open for the couple’s return.
A similar protest against the cancellation of Guiding Light led actress Crystal Chappell to create Venice, a Web series for herself and the actress playing her lover on the show, Jessica Leccia.
BECAUSE RUFUS RESPONDS WITH LOVE
Although 50 Cent once told Playboy, “I ain’t into faggots,” Rufus Wainwright, rather than fume, extended an invitation to the rapper in a recent Details interview: “I love, love 50 Cent. I think he’s just the sexiest, and a brilliant writer. And I know he’s gay.… That cute little voice of his. It’s OK, 50 Cent. Feel free to call me anytime. My boyfriend and I are experts. You can come over for dinner. And maybe dessert.” Perhaps they’ll make beautiful music together.
BECAUSE WE LIKE BANGS
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BECAUSE WE'RE LEARNING TO RESPECT OUR ELDERS
Rep. Tammy Baldwin sees that gay issues extend beyond marriage and the military. She was the keynote speaker at an April panel discussion on understanding and meeting the needs of LGBT elders. It’s high time we do so. According to a March report titled “Improving the Lives of LGBT Older Adults,” 80% of long-term care in the United States is provided by family members, yet gay seniors are more likely to be single, childless, and estranged from biological family members.
BECAUSE THE KID IS HOT TONIGHT
We’ve always appreciated Dan Savage’s unbridled tell-it-like-he-sees-it (decidedly not kid-friendly) syndicated advice column. Theater buffs have gotten a taste of savage love since the musical version of his book The Kid: What Happened After My Boyfriend and I Decided to Go Get Pregnant (shortened to the more marquee-friendly The Kid) hit the boards in New York this spring, starring hunky out actor Christopher Sieber.
BECAUSE WE MAKE THE BEST DIRECTORS
Lee Daniels made a star out of Gabourey Sidibe, an Academy Award winner out of Mo’Nique, and an actress out of Mariah Carey in Precious. Next up? Daniels will tackle Selma, a civil rights drama about the life of the Reverend Martin Luther King Jr.
BECAUSE WE HAD THE MOST MEMORABLE OSCAR MOMENTS
Forget what happened after Sandra Bullock won the Oscar for Best Actress. It’s what she said during her acceptance speech that really mattered to the gay men and women watching. Bullock thanked her late mother for teaching her that there is “no race, no religion, no class system, no color…no sexual orientation that makes us better than anyone else.” And then she noted that Meryl Streep is an excellent kisser. It was a major moment for inclusiveness, and the icing on the cake for what had already been a very gay evening. Also that night, Neil Patrick Harris wowed the crowd in a song-and-dance number choreographed by Adam Shankman, but not until after documentary and drama collided when director Roger Ross Williams skipped up to the stage to accept the Academy Award for Best Documentary for Music by Prudence; he was promptly upstaged when a disgruntled former producer from the film, Elinor Burkett, grabbed the mike during his acceptance speech.
BECAUSE SHE IS THE BEST PERSON FOR THE JOB
Winnie Stachelberg specializes in a sort of modest, self-deprecating humor that belies her relative influence. As senior vice president for external communications at the Center for American Progress—the Washington think tank that spearheaded the Obama transition team—she was privy to the very behind-the-scenes conversations that ultimately shaped the administration. “But that’s not unusual for those like me who are…” she pauses, summoning the word, “experienced, I guess, is a nicer way of saying old.” Old may be a stretch; experienced is not. The 45-year-old New York native has spent the better part of her past 25 years in D.C. after attending Georgetown University. She worked in the Office of Management and Budget before spending nearly 12 years at the Human Rights Campaign. The varied roles are an advantage in her eyes. “It’s really important to have a broader context into which to put these issues,” she says, “so that when you’re going to talk with the Pentagon or the administration about ‘don’t ask, don’t tell,’ you have a fuller comprehension of what’s happening.” Stachelberg has attended her share of meetings between LGBT advocates and White House officials and admits she’s sometimes frustrated by the slow pace of advancement. But she remains optimistic: “We’ve built a mutual trust and respect that I believe creates a foundation on which we can build more progress over the next several years.”
BECAUSE THE CAR COMPANY WE LOVE IS DOING WELL
One auto manufacturer that didn’t see a drop in sales last year but rather a 10% increase was Subaru, which perhaps not so coincidentally has courted the gay and lesbian market in ads and promotions for nearly 20 years.
BECAUSE JOAN RIVERS IS STILL TALKING
“I’ve always had a special relationship with the gays. It started with my first college boyfriend, and since then I gravitate toward them like Amy Winehouse to a crack pipe.” —Joan Rivers. Her new documentary, Joan Rivers: A Piece of Work (in theaters June 11), reveals the humanity behind the mask she wears on the red carpet.
BECAUSE WE SET THE EXAMPLE
After years of uncertainty and even suicidal thoughts, 23-year-old State University of New York College at Oneonta student, lacrosse team member, and Putnam Valley native Andrew McIntosh decided it was time to stop hiding in the closet. He came out on Outsports.com, a website dedicated to athletes.
The Advocate: What has your experience been since you came out to your teammates and coaches? McIntosh: After the story broke, I decided to come out to my team. I didn’t want them to find out from a second source, so I decided to tell them. I was pretty nervous, but they greeted me with open arms. And I received a bunch of feedback from athletes in high school and college and even people in the professional world. I get e-mails that say, “I was thinking about suicide until I read your article.” It’s pretty powerful. Those were the e-mails I was sending out before I came out.
How is your season going? We’re 3-0 in our conference [the SUNY Athletic Conference] and 7-4 total. We’ve been pretty successful, but we’re focusing on it one game at a time. And luckily, there’s been no name-calling from opposing teams or anything like that at all. I feel like I’m playing some of the best lacrosse in my life. Even rival coaches that I’ve played against have expressed their support.
What’s going on in the future for you? I’ll be student-teaching in social studies next semester and graduating in December. Maybe work in higher education for a while or work at another college. I’m just really excited for the future, because now I’m out and I’m OK with that.
BECAUSE WE LIKE FOOTBALL TOO
Baltimore Ravens linebacker Brendon Ayanbedejo wrote an essay for The Huffington Post last year supporting marriage equality. New Orleans Saints linebacker Scott Fujita (pictured) publicly supported him, and both guys took some heat for their stance but refused to back down. Perhaps not to be outdone by Fujita, teammate Jeremy Shockey allowed people of any gender to enter a Facebook contest to win a dinner date with him.
BECAUSE THE GREAT SCOT IS FEARLESS
Whether frequently dropping trou on screen, believably playing gay characters, or expressing indignation at homophobic laughter on Good Morning America, Ewan McGregor has our eternal admiration.
BECAUSE THE NEWEST CAPED CRUSADER LIKES GIRLS
DC Comics’ Batwoman is the first lesbian character with her own ongoing series. Pow!
BECAUSE MASSACHUSETTS REPRESENTATIVE BARNEY FRANK SAYS EVERYTHING EVERYONE ELSE IS TOO AFRAID OR TOO EMBARRASSED TO
Is there such a thing as too frank? No.
BECAUSE WE’VE GOT POWER IN NUMBERS
When one antigay man showed up to protest a production of The Laramie Project at Dutchtown High School in Geismar, La., he found himself facing 500 gay-positive counterprotesters.
BECAUSE WE CREATE GEMS IN UNEXPECTED PLACES
One of the best gay clubs in New Mexico is inside an old folks’ home. The Silver Starlight Lounge, located within Santa Fe’s gay-inclusive Rainbow Vision retirement community, hosts events like “Trash Disco” and the “Mr. Rise n’ Shine Bear Contest”—all just a stone’s throw from the Billie Jean King Spa and Fitness Center.