Lesbian After Graduation

By Michele Kort

Originally published on Advocate.com March 04 2008 12:00 AM ET

Step aside, Dani
Campbell, the “futch” firefighter who nearly
won Tila Tequila’s heart on last fall’s
reality contrivance, A Shot at Love With Tila
Tequila:
You now have competition for Cutest
Reality-Show Lesbian from Kat Feller, one of about a
dozen cast members of TV Land’s new miniseries
High School Reunion.

Kat joins her
fellow classmates from the 1987 graduating class of J.J.
Pearce High School in Dallas for a two-week-long reunion
drama-thon, not in Texas but in a typical reality-show
mansion -- on Maui. Kat’s story line: Let
everybody know she’s a lesbian and maybe explore some
of her bi-curiosity. Will the sparkly-cute
38-year-old, tatted-and-pierced voice-over actor, who
now lives in Santa Monica, Calif.,get anything going
with a fellow alumna? The Advocate had to ask.

Any girl-on-girl action in High School Reunion?

The only thing I
can really say to that is that there’s a confession
on my end. I can’t say anything more.
Doesn’t that make you want to watch?

A confession… hmm. Well, are any of the other
women on the show bi-curious?

No. Maybe in the
closet.

Does anyone hook up during the reunion?

Yes. But I have
to keep it under wraps.

I just got to watch the first three episodes of the
series. And I must say, you’ve proved once again
that gays are the most fun.

Oh, I’m a
happy lesbian. And if we weren’t on the phone, I
could be more crass.

Darn! But aside from being a happy lesbo, you also
seem to be questioning your sexuality in the early
episodes. Was that trumped up for the show?

No, it was
definitely for real. A lot of people have bisexual
tendencies in their life. I did date men in high
school, but it’s been a long time. I’ve
been a little bi-curious lately, but when I sit down and
think about being with a guy long-term, it does
nothing for me. Ultimately, I’m very, very
drawn to women -- even in sixth grade, I remember being
drawn to a girl. If I’m a little bi-curious
from time to time, it’s fun. Wow, you can be
attracted to, and feel attraction from, both sexes! It opens
up your options.

What’s your current girlfriend status?

Brenda is my
ex-girlfriend -- we’ve been separated for about a
year -- and she’s a big part of my life, my
confidante. I love her dearly. But our career paths
and lives are going in different directions. So right
now, ladies, I’m single! I haven’t gone on one
single date. Please put that in big print: KAT WANTS
TO GO OUT ON DATES.

What’s your type?

I don’t
like the butchy, edgy girls; I like the cute, edgy girls --
a little bit more feminine. Sarah Shahi is the epitome
of my type -- dark-haired, dark-eyed. But I like
blondes too -- Laurel Holloman from The L
Word
… and Charlize Theron, please! I’m not
so shallow, though -- I’m drawn to the person as
well.

You were attracted to girls early on, but when did
you actually come out?

I came out to
myself when I was 20, and to my family a few years later. I
was terrified my parents would freak out. My dad thought I
was on drugs because I was so secretive about my life.
But [when I told them], they accepted me, and ever
since then I don’t care who else knows.

But was it hard to tell your high school classmates
at the reunion?

My heart just
started going boom boom boom, really beating fast
when I told the women. You just never know how
they’ll respond -- and if one didn’t
like it, I would have been stuck in the house with her for
two weeks. But they were great to me.

And the guys?

Oh, the guys --
it’s everyone’s fantasy. It’s like, Can
I watch?

In the promos for the show, each person is given a
character label based on their high-school personalities
-- the Stud, the Drama Queen, the Pipsqueak, the
Jock. But you’re simply called the Lesbian
-- did that make you feel weird?

I’m really
OK with it. I had two reasons for being on the show -- the
main reason was to come out as a lesbian [the other was to
promote her voice-over career, which includes playing
an animated ostrich giving birth in Madagascar
2
]. This was my coming-out. As far as the lesbian
title, hey, you know what? It’s getting me exposure.

It sure got a lot of exposure for Dani
Campbell—you could be the new favorite reality dyke.

Hey, they should
make a reality show out of me and Dani! She’s not
exactly my type, but we can be friends. See who can get the
hotter chicks, the Butch or the Femme!