By Advocate Contributors
Originally published on Advocate.com April 15 2013 6:00 AM ET
...Special Olympics. My older brother has an intellectual disability, and there is nothing that has brought him more joy, excitement, and feeling of accomplishment than the Special Olympics. People with intellectual disabilities come in all shapes, genders, ethnicities, races, and, yes, sexual orientations. We always forget that. The Special Olympics gives these athletes a place to be celebrated. Besides, who wouldn’t love being cheered on and then being given a big hug? When it comes down to it, we all want the same things — love and acceptance. SpecialOlympics.org
…old time radio. TV used to be on the radio, but it didn’t have pictures — just creative voices that would help you see movies inside your mind. As a child I would listen to the CBS Radio Mystery Theater. Satellite radio and the Internet have reignited that old passion. My favorites are Yours Truly, Johnny Dollar; Suspense; and The Shadow. OTRNow.com
…standing up to shame. Many well-meaning friends and family members have advised me not to do gay press. Screw that! How could I, as a psychologist, not be truthful about one of the core aspects of who I am and show I am part of my own community? This is the power of shame, which still keeps many in the closet. The way out is to stand up to it. Otherwise, you are locking yourself in a prison and handing other people the key.
…margaritas. Think a psychologist shouldn’t be advocating an alcoholic drink? Maybe not. But what’s more shocking is a gay man is recommending a high-calorie drink that makes you retain water. But whenever I have margaritas with good friends, life just seems a little happier. Use Cazadores Añejo tequila and the result is perfection. And unless it is over 90 degrees outside, get it on the rocks, with salt! Cazadores.com
…girl groups. I have always loved strong women and the sound of rock and roll. When a friend brought over the single of “We Got the Beat” by the Go-Go’s, I knew I’d found my group. They write their own music, play their own instruments, and aren’t afraid to push limits. Today, 80% of the music I listen to is led by female voices and musicians, and I wouldn’t have it any other way. GoGos.com
…trailblazers. Any time I hear a 20-something prattle on about how being gay is no big deal, I know he has countless LGBT people in the past to thank for that privilege. People like the Loud family, including gay son Lance, who blazed TV trails by being on the first reality series, An American Family, in 1973. It’s because of these trailblazers that I can be an openly gay psychologist starring on a reality TV show. And by being the first reality show to feature therapists having personal lives, I hope LA Shrinks blazes some trails too. BravoTV.com