By Diane Anderson-Minshall
Originally published on Advocate.com March 05 2013 8:00 AM ET
I'm going to admit something a lot of feminists will not be happy to hear: I am a queer, feminist Courtney Stodden fan. Stodden, who is now 18, was crowned Miss Ocean Shores, Wa. in Donald Trump’s Teen U.S.A. when she was 15 and soon began composing and recording her own songs and vlogging her life on YouTube. But it wasn't until she was 16 that she shot to fame, in large part by marrying a much older man, Green Mile actor Doug Hutchison. At 16, she was married, flamboyantly sexual (flirting with men and women), and provocatively dressed like, well, a stripper. The pop culture pundits, feminists, and the mommy bloggers all came down hard on the teen, and many made slut shaming — even though Stodden said she was a virgin at marriage and was now monogamously married — the teen a national pasttime. No matter, Stodden trudged on, daring, precocious, and persistent in her right — and everyone else's right — to be oneself.
My mother was married at 16 to an older man. I'm not sure if she got called a slut and a golddigger but if she did, it wasn't on national TV and she certainly wouldn't have had Stodden's aplomb. After being named among VH1’s “Top 40 Winningest Winners of 2011,” Fox411’s “Breakout Web Celeb of 2011,” and The Huffington Post’s “Biggest Celebrity Story of 2011,” Stodden went on to reality TV (on Couples Therapy, where another cast member actually assaulted her with dollar bills), to release her first professional song and music video, and become a spokesperson for PETA and an activist with the AIDS organization, Be-the-Link. Even more telling, she made a Funny or Die video in which she comedically makes fun of herself — and the attendant baggage people have placced upon her — proving how savvy she really is.
Stodden's music video for the song "Reality" — directed by Michael Serrato (Neil Patrick Harris’ Puppet Deams) and starring sexy newcomer Nick Uzarski — premiered during Grammy week last month at West Hollywood's Eleven Restaurant and Nightclub. In addition to a smattering of actors, reality stars from Shahs of Sunset and RuPaul's Drag Race, there were a lot of queer fans like me who see Stodden's stubborn self-exploitation as a sort of post-modern feminist subversion. (Don't even get me started on why straight men, like her voiceferous co-star, TheDirty creator Nik Richie, have been her biggest critics.)
The perfect performance artist, Stodden has been a vocal proponent of LGBT youth, their safety from bullying, the importance of their acceptance. Perhaps that's one reason she was recently named Best New Hollywood Starlet at West Hollywoods WeHo's Who’s Who. We caught up with the triple hyphenate.
Diane Anderson-Minshall: I watched you on Couples Therapy last year and was riveted. In the end, was doing the show beneficial?
Courtney Stodden: It actually was. From the moment my hubby, Doug, and I entered the Couples Therapy house, we stole the show. The entire series revolved around us, causing the other couples to focus more on my marriage rather than making their own marriages the priority. We had to deal with their judgments, negative energy, and unkind attitudes on a daily basis, which actually brought Doug and I closer together. My marriage is stronger than ever since the show and I'm grateful for the experience.
You felt bullied while on set and said that one of the reasons you didn’t want to take it is because you want to show gay kids they don’t have to be bullied either. Can you tell me more about that?
From day one, I was faced with an atmosphere that was filled with negativity toward not only my unconventional marriage, but my appearance. It got so bad, that I was practically "bullied" into having to conform myself to please the other castmates. I don't believe in giving in to change when it comes to other peoples opinions about your life, your dress, or what you stand for, as long as you aren't hurting anybody. We are all of us individuals, and deserve our rights as human beings to live our lives and to express ourselves the way we want to.
One of the things straight guys complain about (your exaggerated femininity and sexy wardrobe) is actually something gay men love about you. Do you have a lot of gay fans?
The gay community is extremely important to, not only my work, but to my heart. I have so many beautiful gay friends and fans that I can profoundly connect with and humbly support.
You debuted your new video for “Reality” at Eleven in West Hollywood earlier this month. What was that experience like?
Oh my goodness, I had the best time at club Eleven in WeHo! I couldn't have celebrated the release of my sexy new single at a better place.
Some of the cast of RuPaul’s Drag Race, like Willam Belli, were at your debut. Who had the bigger hair and makeup? You or them?
Hmm, I think it was a toss up — we all looked smokin' hot.
When did you start performing? Were you a born performer?
To be exact, I actually started to perform in my moms belly. My parents would watch Cops on tv every evening while my mom was pregnant with me. When the theme song would play, my parents told me that I would kick and move around like crazy. So, when I was a few weeks old, I was lying in my crib when "Bad boys, bad boys" started to play, and my parents told me that I started to dance and wiggle around like a little performer, recognizing the song. I still love that tune to this day.
Would you do more reality TV?
I would totally do more reality TV. If anything, it brought my husband and me together even more.
You’re friends with Bobby Trendy. How did that happen?
Bobby approached me at a red carpet event and the first thing he said to me was, "OMG! You have given me life again. It's been so dark, ever since Anna Nicole Smith passed away. Courtney puts the H back in Hollywood!" And we've been super close ever since.
You’ve gotten a few honors already, including New Hollywood Starlet at WeHo’s Who’s Who and number 12 on VH1’s “Top 40 Winningest Winners.” Which one has meant the most?
I'm grateful to all of the awards I've received, but I was particularly honored to accept the New Hollywood Starlet award from Weho's Who's Who event. It meant so much to me and, besides, West Hollywood is where the love is.
You started out on the pageant scene, moved to Hollywood to do music and TV. What do you want to do next?
Continue to pursue my dreams in music, acting, modeling, and reality TV.
Tell me about supporting Be-the-Link. Why is that important?
Be-The-Link is an organization that supports the fight against AIDS. It is so important for all of us to get behind trying to find a cure for people who are contending with the disease.