Pay attention, class. The gay textbook undoubtedly defines “daddy” as “an older, established gay man who dates or has sexual relations with younger gay men.” Like so many items in the gay textbook, this definition needs updating — age and money have less to do with it — but “established” is a nice word.
My ideal daddy is someone whose life is pretty stable. He has a house or condo or apartment and is staying put for now. He might have a husband or partner. He has a steady job. He has a community. He has roots.