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Read the latest commentary from The Advocate, the leading source for LGBT news and politics. Discover what public figures and pundits have to say about gay issues and topics that touch the lives of the lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender community and its allies. Find op-eds from columnists like HIV activist Tyler Curry or Advocate.com editors Michelle Garcia and Neal Broverman. The experts weigh in on the latest developments in the LGBT rights movement, and The Advocate offers an outlet for their commentary.
Op-ed: Why Struggle Can Be Useful

Op-ed: What It Means to Struggle for Your Dreams

As a precursor to the riots in England, the country had lost hold of its dreams. And Harjeet Johal shares the value of struggling to attain them.

Op-ed: One Final Status Update

Op-ed: One Final Status Update

Right before he hanged himself, my friend Arron typed a final status update on Facebook.

Op-ed: Don’t Waste Your Money on Money Wasters

 Op-ed: Don’t Waste Your Money on Money-Wasters

Porn entrepreneur and Advocate columnist Michael Lucas lists the gay rights organizations that he thinks make a difference — and those that don’t.

Op-ed: If You Take Down Israel, What Else Goes With It?

Op-ed: If You Take Down Israel, What Else Goes With It?

Our community should celebrate Israel — a country whose laws are more favorable to LGBT people than those of the United States — and stop sympathizing with its opponents.

Op-ed: NPR Should Apologize for Parroting “Ex-Gay” Propaganda

The founder of the gay rights group that recently put “reparative therapy” in the headlines with its hidden-camera investigation of Marcus Bachmann's clinics calls on NPR to apologize for a story it did reacting to the controversy.

Op-ed: Diagnosing Fear of HIV

Op-ed: Diagnosing Fear of HIV

No matter how manageable HIV is now, if David Michael Conner had to choose his diagnosis, he’d pick multiple sclerosis and lose the ability to walk.

Op-Ed: Where to Find The Gay Gospels

Op-ed: Where to Find "The Gay Gospels"

A new book by Christian gay activist Keith Sharpe makes a religious argument against the Bible’s clobber verses — which have become a litmus test for the religious right’s evaluation of politicians.

OP-ED: Larry Kramer Says He's Being Tarred For Something I Did Not Say

OP-ED: Larry Kramer Says "I’m Being Tarred for Something I Did Not Say"

The famed author and veteran gay activist responds to criticism created by his skeptical reaction to gay marriage, at least as it was printed in The New York Times.

OP-ED: What It Will Be Like On The Day After DADT Expires

 OP-ED: What It Will Be Like on the Day After DADT Expires

A gay airman explains how he knows it gets better for troops who come out.

What to Expect at a Gay Wedding

What to Expect at a Gay Wedding 

The rush to city hall is on, as thousands of gay and lesbian couples finalize plans to legally marry in the state of New York starting on Sunday.  Whether you’re marrying, or a guest, at one of Central Park’s pop-up chapels, the Niagara Falls wed-in on Monday, or at any city hall in the sixth state to legalize same-sex nuptials, you’re looking at a lot of questions and very few established traditions. And for some, not a lot of time.  In a sign of pent-up demand, 823 couples in New York City alone applied for a lottery instituted by Mayor Michael Bloomberg as the “fairest way” to distribute licenses so everyone gets their turn without overwhelming city employees. Luckily, the city announced it could accommodate all of the couples. But that leaves only 48 hours to get to “I do!” To help settle wedding nerves, here’s our etiquette guide to what you should expect at a gay wedding. Uh oh, who pays for the rings? If there’s one prevailing custom today, it’s that most lesbian and gay couples shop for their rings together and pay for them jointly. This scenario usually results from a conversation where one of you, after waiting years for New York to legalize same-sex weddings, says, “Hey, want to get married?” However, if you’re planning to surprise your sweetheart with an engagement ring, then you’ll be footing the bill. As for where to wear them (if, in fact, you choose to have rings), nothing says “married” quite like a gold band on your left ring finger. But this is a straight wedding tradition that gay couples have been known to play around with, in this case by wearing our commitment rings on our right hands to symbolize (and protest) the fact that we couldn’t legally get married. Not surprisingly, some long-term couples plan to move their rings from right to left when they officially tie the knot. Actor Neil Patrick Harris, who has been engaged to his partner for five years, once joked that his right hand had become calloused during the long wait. "It'd be nice to move the ring over here someday," he said, indicating his left hand. Evan Wolfson, author of Why Marriage Matters: America, Equality, and Gay People's Right to Marry and the founder and executive director of the organization Freedom to Marry, has also said he plans to move his band from right to left when he gets legally wed.

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