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Covert Hate Speech Thats So Gay

Covert Hate Speech: "That's So Gay"

COMMENTARY: From a very early age I learned that one of the worst things I could be called by my peers was “fag.” Even before I understood what the word meant, I associated shame and fear with it. As I grew up, “fag” became one in a long list of antigay labels that would fall into this category — words that would take years for me to overcome and accept; words bursting with hatred that left numerous scars.Thankfully, obvious hate speech is not as freely tolerated as it was in my younger days, but as the acceptance of homosexuality has grown, hate speech has evolved. In addition to the common ways hate-born labels are used to belittle gays and lesbians, hate speech has also become more covert. By adopting the guise of everyday slang, homophobic speech has managed to find acceptance with frightening regularity by many people, including some gays and lesbians.The expression “that’s so gay” is commonly used to describe anything unpleasant or disliked. For me, personally, this type of slang falls into the hate speech category because it takes one of the simplest words a gay person uses to describe himself and redefines it in a negative way. However, I have found that many gays and lesbians do not share my opinion on the subject and are quick to dismiss its use, or worse, utilize it as well.Some gay men feel that those who object to the use of “gay” as a negative should “man up” and “deal with it.” They argue that taking offense at the use of such slang is a sign of weakness and that it should not only be accepted but also used in return. While I can appreciate the logic behind the attitude of fighting fire with fire, this approach seems like it does more harm than good because it ignores the damage that this type of speech can cause and validates its use as well.Then there’s the alternative opinion, which suggests gays and lesbians should simply ignore homophobic slang and not “make a fuss,” especially when it is used by young children. I was recently shocked when Sean, the 8-year-old son of my friend Eric and his partner, Chris, described a television show he hated as “gay.” I can understand that an 8-year-old is going to use the same vocabulary and slang as his peers, but I was unprepared when his father completely ignored the comment. “Don’t you think it’s inappropriate for him to describe things that way?” I asked.“He doesn’t mean it in a bad way,” Eric replied. “It’s just the way kids talk these days. Chris and I don’t have a problem with it. Besides, we don’t want to be oversensitive to this kind of stuff with Sean.” 

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