Gay sex is a wonderland of fluids, liquids, lotions, and lubes — and a smart bottom is basically a chemist. We have to know which substances irritate the anal lining and which ones do not (do not use anything with tea tree oil), which lubes work with latex condoms and which ones do not, and how to get creative in a pinch, when all you have at your disposal is a kitchen, bathroom, or garage.
Even before you get greased up, most guys prep for sex by douching with water, which is generally considered harmless as long as you release all of it. If you use a douching bulb, hose, or enema, you will probably need to use some kind of lube. If you douche in the shower, as many guys do, you will need to use a silicone or oil-based lube that will not wash off with water (or a good, unscented hair conditioner made of natural oils).
For sex, gay men have an unlimited buffet of lubes to choose from, all with different features, benefits, and uses. Silicone lube is super slick and safe to use with latex condoms, but it’s expensive, stains sheets, and cannot be used with silicone toys. Water-based lube dries up quickly but is toy safe. Oil-based lubes are some of the slickest on the market and good for most toys, but they cannot be used with latex condoms. Decisions, decisions!
You will at least need to use something because, unlike the vagina, the ass does not produce its own natural lubricant, and sex will be miserable without it. Most guys discover their favorite lube(s) through trial and error (I did), but sometimes you need some help with the hunt. Check out these 30 liquids that feature in the wonderful world of gay sex. Let's get soakin' wet!
ALEXANDER CHEVES has written articles on sex, dating, and relationships for GC magazine and The Advocate. Alex is not a doctor, but he has played doctor many times. This article describes Alex’s experiences, and caution should be taken with all sexual practices. A person is responsible for his own health and well being. Follow his blog, The Beastly Ex-Boyfriend.