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    10 Sex Toys for All Genders and How to Use Them

    Advocate.com Editors
    | 10/05/18

    10 Sex Toys for All Genders and How to Use Them

    With so much pressure surrounding sex, you can forget intercourse and masturbation can just be fun games adults play.

    With so much pressure surrounding sex, you can forget intercourse and masturbation can just be fun games adults play.

    And many adults play with toys.

    Where do you find out which gadget (or several) are right for you? The internet, obviously. But so you don't get caught with a lot of lewd search terms on your history, we've done the kinky research for you. Regardless if you are gay, straight, bisexual, pansexual, a lesbian or questioning, here is a list of sex toys that will bring pleasure to every sexual and gender identity.

    A quick tip before you order one of these devices: don't buy your sex toys off Amazon or other unverified online retailers. Many are not FDA-approved and have been linked to causing cancer and infertility. Sex toys can be made with jelly-like plastic sheaths are produced with phthalates -- chemicals used to produce some water bottles - and can be dangerous if they seep into your system. Here are some non-toxic toys that will transform your body into a playground.

    Illustrations by Tevy Khou, find her on Instagram.

    Finger Vibrators

    Finger Vibrators

    What They Do:
    Usually rubbery (or ridged) pads you place over your fingertips, these temptations turn your hands into vibrators, each finger a dildo. Usually, they are composed of an adjustable ring with a pad that provides pleasure. The bigger the bullet, the more intense the sensations they'll bring.

    How to Use Them:
    Strap these trembling toys onto your fingers. They will likely need lubricant -- many finger vibrators are textured and can feel harsh when used raw against a clitoris or other sensitive areas. Trace the vibrators over nipples, hips, inner thighs, and backside to tease your partner before applying it in more delicate areas. Feel free to adjust where it perches on your finger -- the further down it rests, the more control you will have.

    Thrusting Dildos

    Thrusting Dildos

    What They Do:
    Some of the newest and most innovative sex toys to hit the market, thrusting dildos or "pulsators" penetrate by retracting and expanding back and forth. Whether you apply them vaginally or anally, they simulate penetrative sex.

    How to Use Them:
    These bad boys take care of you, without you needing to lift a finger. There's usually no need for a partner with thrusting dildos, especially if they come with a vibrator that stimulates you, rabbit-style.

    Rabbit Vibrators

    Rabbit Vibrators

    What They Do:
    What is rabbit-style you ask? Best known for being featured on Sex and the City, the rabbit penetrates the vagina while fluttering on one's clitoris. This allows both areas to be aroused at once. Usually, they include a variety of speeds and settings or can thrust.

    How to Use Them:
    Set the vibrations to your optimal movements and pace, working your way up. Pulse the dildo end inside you, until you are at your perfect, most pleasurable rhythm. If it thrusts, this can be hands-free.

    Strap-Ons

    Strap-Ons

    What They Do:
    Just like the rabbit, this toy uses two parts: the harness and the dildo. The harness straps to your crotch allowing you to penetrate your partner with the strap-on dildo, which has a flat base. These types of dildos can lay flat and secured on a surface. You can even enjoy them without the harness.

    How to Use Them:
    Strap onto your body and penetrate your partner. Check out our 27 Lesbian Sex Tips Porn Won't Teach You for more detailed instructions. Here's a taste: If you're wearing a strap-on and penetrating doggy-style, try using a belt (preferably leather.) Loop it under her stomach/hips and hold the end with one hand and the buckle-end with the other. This will give you more thrust and control.

    Vibrating Panties

    Vibrating Panties

    What They Do:
    A very specific kind of hands-free vibrator, these pulsing panties make putting on your underwear as pleasurable as taking them off.

    How to Use Them:
    Usually vibrating panties have to be within a certain distance from the remote or smartphone turning them on. However, there are a few different variations with different parameters. Less high-tech panties just offer a compartment for a removable bullet vibrator. You must directly stroke the vibrator to turn it on and off. Other have built-in vibrators with a cord that connects the remote to the underwear. Wireless panties are operated remotely. Depending on how far the remote can be from the panties, your companion can turn on as a surprise throughout the day.

    Double Ended Dildos

    Double Ended Dildos

    What They Do:
    These double ended dildos enter two partners at once. Often these toys vibrate, adding extra indulgence.

    How to Use Them:
    These can be used between two people, where one inserts the small sculpted end inside them and penetrates their partner with the base. Normal sex positions and moves should work fine, but you may need more lube! For solo play, bend the ends so it penetrates you in two places at once.

    Cock Cages

    Cock Cages

    What They Do:
    Cock cages, otherwise known as chastity cages, are unique devices that serve characters who are aroused by not being able to get carnal satisfaction. Often metal or plastic, they lock with a padlock or key and prevent you from being able to get an erection. (They're basically the opposite of a penis ring.)

    How to Use Them:
    Secure a ring around your penis and testicles while the penis is inserted into the cage's tube. Determine a keyholder -- you or a partner -- and bolt up your member. That's it! You can even wear these in public (hey, you're not getting off, right?) Cock cages are best suited for short intervals, not long-term use. To avoid chafing, apply lubricant beneath the rings.

    Hands-Free Vibrators

    Hands-Free Vibrators

    What They Do:
    These mechanical playthings help you rub out one out without a lot of work. A hands-free vibrator sits on top of a clitoris, or another tender area, usually with appendages that keep it secure. Some also have penetrative arms. You can control the oscillations through a remote or even an app on your phone (don't let your mother use it to make a quick call.)

    How to Use Them:
    Lay face up as you insert the toy. Avoid clenching your legs, it will cause the vibrator to fall out. Establish the precise settings you crave, or let your partner (especially if they are out of town) control the cadence for you. Lay back, and let it do the work!

    Penis Rings

    Penis Rings

    What They Do:
    Penis rings make a partner with a member last longer through intercourse by cutting off circulation. By preventing blood from flowing back into the penis, this amplifies and prolongs erections.

    How to Use Them:
    Some cock rings rest on shafts, but others can clamp down on the penis and testicles. For a normal penis ring, apply lubricant inside the toy so it slides on easily then put on while the penis is not erect. The ring will become tighter as you become more erect. If it is meant to go over one's testicles and penis, set the ring around the testicles, one at a time. Leave it around the scrotum then squeeze the penis, head first, inside.

    Nipple Clamps

    Nipple Clamps

    What They Do:
    These tiny alligator heads pinch down on your nipples, creating painful sexual stimulation by applying stress and reducing blood flow. The heavier the chain, the more weight it puts on your nipples.

    How to Use Them:
    Pinch onto your nipples, and you're good! Adjustable clamps have a screw that allows you or your partner to shift the intensity level of the pinch. Clover nipple claims are not adjustable and not for beginners. Some manufacturers create magnetic nipple clamps, which don't involve a chain or weight and can even be used as faux nipple piercings.

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