Navigating Depression as a Team – Jay & Eden’s Story

When Eden Trevino, a healthy relationship advocate with her partner Jay Trevino, lost her mom, depression became a part of her life and took a major toll that left her spiraling.

“My mother passed in February, and I met Jay in July. We found out my mom had stage 3 ovarian cancer in November. So, from November to February it was just such a hard experience," shares Eden in Advocate.com's new season of Love, Me.

“And you can’t do anything but watch your loved one go through so much pain, and for me I just felt so angry. So during my time with depression, I spiraled,” Eden admits.

Eden’s wife, Jay, realized how debilitating Eden’s depression had become and knew she had to support her through the grief of losing her mother. When Jay sat Eden down to help her figure out a way to work through her anger and other emotions, Eden knew she needed to take the necessary step and attend therapy.

Eden’s courage to seek help motivated Jay to go to therapy herself so she could be a better partner to Eden.

“Communication has never been my first language, ever. But when I met Eden, I knew I needed to work on communication as well in order to be the partner she needed. I had a lot of unlearning to do,” Jay admits.

Now, Eden and Jay strive to create a safe space for open communication within their household. And seeing the impact of having access to a safe space, they have extended that sentiment to their Queer Latinx community. This led them to found the grassroots movement, Preciosa Night, an event taking place across the United States, that celebrates P.O.C. Latinx Queer Womxn, and provides them with the opportunity to express themselves unapologetically with unforgettable moments of celebration and music.

From a safe space at home to a safe space in the community, this couple is healing others one fun night at a time.

Discover more stories on Out, The Advocate, HIVPlusMag, and PRIDE about how queer people are navigating their mental health journeys and overcoming their experiences in the Love, Me series.

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