In the rainbow flag that supposedly represents the beautiful unifying colors of the LGBT community, the colors are separated for a reason. Just like the Mason-Dixon line, gay blacks and whites seem to share a boundary -- they do not see eye-to-eye, nor are they willing to date outside their race. Sound like the 1960s?
Well, in a modern twist on an old paradigm, peruse any social gay dating website and one will turn up loaded “preferential” or discriminatory profiles from black men stating "no white men,” and white men in similar fashion stating “no black men.”
It seems like the good ol’ boys of yesteryear -- those of all types who don’t take too kindly to interracial mixing -- are gay too. And, it’s no secret. Silently, the community has allowed it to happen, and has just come to accept it. The proof is in the various occasions where you will not find black and white gay men marching defiantly together for LGBT rights -- simply check any local gay pride event, marriage equality rally, or any gathering tied to a hot-button issue. And rarely do we see black and white couples showing public displays of affection while taking a stroll together.
“I think it's part preference and part discrimination,” says Nathan Scott, 37, a professional life coach in New York. “I think for some black men it goes back to slavery. Some men hold on to the past and can’t see themselves with someone who treated our ancestors a certain way."
Scott admits he has previously dated white men, yet the experience took its toll when one former date categorized him by asking, “Why do you guys wear those things on your head?” He was referring to do-rags.