Upstate New York's
Blythwood Tavern has weathered the days
when homosexuality was a crime, the Stonewall riots --
even the glam and excess of the New York City's gay scene in
the '80s.
For more than 50 years,
the bar served as a safe haven for gay men looking to escape
police brutality in New York City. And earlier this month,
those who found a home away from home at the Schenectady, N.Y.,
pub gathered to mourn the passing of the bar's owner.
More than a thousand
people, to be exact.
Joey Henderson died of
a heart attack on February 9, just two days after working his
last shift at the bar. He was 50 years old.
According to patrons,
Henderson made the bar "his life" for more than 30 years --
and he wasn't even gay.
Blythwood Tavern was
established more than 60 years ago by his grandmother, Susan
Krajewski, who opened the bar and restaurant after immigrating
to the United States from Italy and personally welcomed the
first customers who walked in the door.
Krajewski isn't
gay; family members say she'd never even met anyone who was gay
when she opened the bar. But they said a group of men dressed
as women came to the bar one night and told her they
needed a place for their group to hang out.
She welcomed them, and
the bar morphed into a gay bar.
When Henderson turned
20, he took over the reins from his grandmother.
Krajewski is still
alive. At 91 years of age, she's suffering from Alzheimer's
disease and hasn't been told that Henderson is dead. His sister
Kimberly says she wants to keep it that way because "I don't
want her to die of a broken heart."
But she says she and
her sister Barbara will do what it takes to keep the bar open
because Joey "wouldn't want it shut. She also says Blythwood
Tavern will continue to be a gay bar.
"I was raised
there," she said. "They treat us like family. They are my
family."