If you’ve ever been to an adult bookstore, you know that nearly all adult party games — card decks, board games, books, and more — cater to straight couples and swingers. They’re swathed in pink, with descriptions promising to “spice things up.” What about single people? And what about us homos looking for sex party games for all our dirty friends?
The companies that make these games know their products have better chances being scooped up by vanilla straight couples for whom a game feels less threatening than a sex dungeon — and they’re right. We gays, they know, spend hundreds of dollars on leather harnesses, slings, whips, paddles, and tickets to cruisy circuit parties. Meanwhile, straight couples often pay large fees simply to attend swinger parties. Gay couples get that any night of the week via Grindr.
Sure, you could go to the bathhouse, but when was the last time you had a good old-fashioned house party romp with all your buds? It’s one thing to get a group of gays naked. It’s another to play with them. As adults, we forget the importance of play. You’re allowed to compete and be silly while you’re on the hunt. Here are 18 party games for adult gay men.
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This classic icebreaker comes at the beginning of a party when you’re standing around, pouring wine, gathering the poppers on the bedside table, and talking about your new countertops or what movie you last saw or the peculiarities of the neighborhood.
I hate this part of the night. I never know how to behave. I always start talking about Nabokov or fisting at the worst moment. Normally I just watch the guys present, nodding where appropriate, and focus on remembering to smile. Games like this save me.
Two Truths and a Lie is when everyone takes turns saying three statements: two true, one false. Everyone else tries to identify which statement is the lie. Not only does this let you get to know each other, but it also gives you practice at reading people’s falsehoods and hone your lying skills.
If you’re dealing with conservative, squeamish gay men, they will reveal themselves during a proper game of Truth or Dare. Go light on the alcohol so people don’t get tanked this early in the evening, and try not to be childish. Kids jump to the most absurd dares quickly. Don’t do that.
Truth or Dare is a warmup to test where everyone’s morals fall. Aggressive, eager guys ask questions like “Have you ever done DP?” I ask terrible questions like, “If you could hop on a train and leave everything in your life permanently without hurting anyone, would you?” People hate me at parties.
Never Have I Ever is great among gays. Most homos I know have done quite a bit and like to brag about it. This gives us an opportunity to do so.
Hold up five fingers. Each person says something they’ve never done. If you’ve done it, put a finger down. The person with any fingers up after everyone else has their fingers down “wins” because we have to give something to losers.
You know this one. You’ve played it before, probably with clothes on, at Sunday school or at a regrettable office Christmas party.
Everyone stand in a circle. Face inward, put your hands in the center until all hands touch, then close your eyes and grab another hand at random. If you’re naked (optional), feel free to grab something else. When both hands are holding on to something, open your eyes and figure out how to untangle yourselves without letting go of whatever it is you’re holding on to. Have fun.
Divide into two even teams. Each team has two or three ice cubes. On “Go,” the first player of each team takes an ice cube in his mouth and passes it to the next guy’s mouth — no hands. This will require you to suck an ice cube out of someone’s mouth at some point. You can’t keep an ice cube in your mouth for more than a few seconds; you must immediately pass it along. The first team to melt all their ice cubes by passing them from mouth to mouth wins.
Despite very few dirty board games written for us, there is a board game called The Gayme that’s marketed as a “The #1 Bestselling LGBT Party Game.” It “Consolidates Never Have I Ever, Categories, Trivia and More Into Hundreds of Scandalous Cards.” Totally buying it.
Sorry to guys like me who love anonymous groups — this one works best with a group of guys who know each other.
Stand in a circle. Blindfold someone and make him stand in the middle. Everyone walk around him quickly, ending up in a different spot. On “Go!” the guy in the middle reaches out, touches someone, and says, “Who is it?”
Answer in a different voice. Change your voice, speak high or low or in a different accent. Be funny. Lie and say the name of someone else in the group, or say a different name entirely. If he accurately guesses who you are from the sound of your voice, his turn is over, and another guy goes in the center.
Some straight people call this game Sardines — weird.
All you need is a spacious, ultramodern apartment. Crank up the industrial circuit music until the neighbors complain. This will drown out the noise you make moving through the chic, sparse rooms. Select one guy from the group to go hide. Wait 10 minutes, then everyone go hunt for him. You may not use geolocation hookup apps to assist you.
If you find him, join him in his tiny hiding spot (under the bed, in the shower for six, in the dog cage, in the closet, wherever). Eventually a lot of guys will be crammed into a tight ... space.
Remain quiet and don’t make it obvious to other seekers when you find the pack, even if this means passing by and returning when no one is looking. The last guy to find the group hides the next round.
As best as I can tell, Top2Bottom is a gay version of Cards Against Humanity. You can buy it here. Read the description:
Top2Bottom is the first gay game of its kind — created for the gays, by the gays. This game is just as outrageous & dirty as you and your friends ... maybe even dirtier. As simple to play as spotting a closeted republican, one player draws a pink card and reads it aloud, and each remaining player chooses one fierce white card to answer. To come out on top be the first player to pull out with six pink cards. [No straights were harmed in the making of the game.]
Some straight people call this game Pass the Orange. Straight people are very strange. Break into two lines. Try to vary the line by different head heights (tall guys standing next to short guys). The guys in the front of the lines are both given a dildo to hold between their chin and neck.
On “Go!” the dildo gets passed down each line, chin to chin. No hands allowed. If someone drops the dildo, it’s passed back to the front. To win, the last player of a line must transfer it back via chin to the first player in his line.
I’ve never actually played strip poker, but it must be a thing that people do, since it’s on every list of naughty party games for adults you can find on the internet. Read the rules of strip poker here, and kudos if you can understand them.
Just like Blind Man’s Bluff, except when you tag someone, you get a reward. Blind Man’s Bluff is a game that has been played under a variety of different names by almost every world culture since the ancient Greeks. We have evidence that it was played during the Tudor period, and it was allegedly popular in the Victorian era. Today we add our own vital piece to its long history by adding butt sex.
I assume everyone by now has heard of the notorious card game Cards Against Humanity — “A party game for horrible people” — which takes every social taboo, racial slur, rape joke, and offensive pop reference and packages it into one late-night card game for, well, horrible people. Cards Against Humanity isn’t necessarily a sex game, but hey, the winner gets something, right?