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Gay Columnist: Holding Hands Can Still Pose a Risk

Gay Columnist: Holding Hands Can Still Pose a Risk

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Recent attacks in New York indicate why gay people still have reason to be afraid, writes New York Times columnist Frank Bruni.

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Recent attacks on gay men in New York City have driven home the point that it's still often risky for gay people to do as simple a thing as hold a partner's hand in public, says New York Times columnist Frank Bruni.

In a blog post, Bruni notes that when two men were beaten up in Manhattan's heavily gay Chelsea neighborhood this week, the apparent catalyst for the assault was that they were holding hands. Several other gay men have been attacked in the city over the past few months, with one shot to death "by a man who first taunted him for being gay," Bruni writes.

Despite all the progress toward LGBT equality, Bruni says, "when my partner takes my hand in public in New York City, I look at the sidewalk ahead. I note how many pedestrians are coming our way, and how quickly, and whether they're male or female, young or old, observant or distracted. And I sometimes take my hand back, wishing I were braver, wishing our world didn't ask me to be."

Read the full piece here.

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Trudy Ring is The Advocate’s senior politics editor and copy chief. She has been a reporter and editor for daily newspapers and LGBTQ+ weeklies/monthlies, trade magazines, and reference books. She is a political junkie who thinks even the wonkiest details are fascinating, and she always loves to see political candidates who are groundbreaking in some way. She enjoys writing about other topics as well, including religion (she’s interested in what people believe and why), literature, theater, and film. Trudy is a proud “old movie weirdo” and loves the Hollywood films of the 1930s and ’40s above all others. Other interests include classic rock music (Bruce Springsteen rules!) and history. Oh, and she was a Jeopardy! contestant back in 1998 and won two games. Not up there with Amy Schneider, but Trudy still takes pride in this achievement.
Trudy Ring is The Advocate’s senior politics editor and copy chief. She has been a reporter and editor for daily newspapers and LGBTQ+ weeklies/monthlies, trade magazines, and reference books. She is a political junkie who thinks even the wonkiest details are fascinating, and she always loves to see political candidates who are groundbreaking in some way. She enjoys writing about other topics as well, including religion (she’s interested in what people believe and why), literature, theater, and film. Trudy is a proud “old movie weirdo” and loves the Hollywood films of the 1930s and ’40s above all others. Other interests include classic rock music (Bruce Springsteen rules!) and history. Oh, and she was a Jeopardy! contestant back in 1998 and won two games. Not up there with Amy Schneider, but Trudy still takes pride in this achievement.