Toby’s grandmother helps pay for his testosterone. His mother, Melinda, is trying to preserve the appointments, blood tests, and medical supervision that make his treatment possible.
Toby, a 16-year-old honor student who plays volleyball and loves to cook, is also transgender. He has lived as a boy since he was 7. He went through male puberty. His friends, other boys from school, don’t even consider that he’s trans. On Tuesday, as the Trump administration’s restrictions on federal funding for trans young people’s care took effect, his mother was trying to protect the life he has built.
“That means they’re forcing my son to detransition because I am poor,” she told The Advocate. “I don’t have the income level to get private health insurance for my son.”
The family’s names have been changed to protect their privacy. The Advocate is also withholding the name of the treating hospital.
The rule restricts federal Medicaid and Children’s Health Insurance Program funding for gender-affirming treatments. States can still pay for those services themselves, putting pressure on governors to turn promises of protection into coverage.
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What the federal cutoff means
Effective October 13, the Trump administration prohibits federal reimbursement for specified gender-affirming treatments, including puberty blockers, hormone therapy, and surgery, for Medicaid beneficiaries younger than 18 and beneficiaries of separate CHIP programs younger than 19.
States may continue claiming reimbursement for hormone therapy medications for up to six months for patients already receiving them as of Tuesday. The administration describes this as a tapering period. It excludes puberty blockers, surgeries, and new hormone therapy patients. Federal funding for mental health counseling and psychotherapy remains available.
The rule does not immediately terminate every service or prohibit doctors from providing otherwise legal treatment. But losing coverage can make care unaffordable. States may fund affected services outside the federally matched programs.
The administration cites what it calls insufficient evidence of benefit and risks of lasting harm. The American Medical Association opposes restrictions on evidence-based gender-affirming care. The American Academy of Pediatrics has reaffirmed its supportive policy while commissioning a systematic evidence review to guide updated recommendations.
Adrian Shanker, a former deputy assistant secretary for health policy in the Biden administration, said the implementation period had left families exposed.
“The Trump administration’s final rule causes direct harm to trans youth and their families, and sixty days for implementation has proven to be insufficient for many states to take action to ensure continuity of care for their residents,” he said in a statement provided to The Advocate. “I certainly hope that as this rule goes into effect, more governors take action to protect access to care for trans youth in their states who are Medicaid and CHIP participants.”
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A mother cannot replace a medical team
Melinda said Toby’s grandmother has helped the family build a supply of testosterone. But his clinicians also monitor his health through appointments and lab testing, adjusting medication when necessary.
“Where do we get the blood work? How do we figure that out?” she asked. “So that’s what we need the doctor for, to monitor him.”
She said a letter indicated an insurance network problem ahead of an appointment later this month, but the hospital had not clearly explained what would happen next. It remains unclear which services his insurer will cover.
Melinda has promised Toby she will try to find a solution. Discussing it upsets him.
“I think he’s hoping I’m going to figure it out,” she said.
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States have options
Illinois has directed providers to continue existing billing practices and committed state funds to preserve coverage through its 2027 fiscal year. The state will stop claiming federal matching dollars for affected services.
California has allocated $10 million for youth care affected by the restrictions. New Mexico has also said it plans to maintain coverage with state funds, according to The Guardian.
In New Jersey, Garden State Equality has pursued continued coverage, but the state has not established the replacement funding arrangement advocates seek, according to information the organization provided to The Advocate.
Responding Tuesday evening, a spokesperson for Gov. Mikie Sherrill pointed The Advocate to legislation the governor signed in August extending the state’s shield law protections to gender-affirming care.
“Governor Sherrill has taken decisive action to defend New Jersey patients and providers, signing legislation that expands the State’s Shield Law to expressly include gender-affirming care and protect against malicious out-of-state investigations and legal actions,” the spokesperson said in an email statement. “The Governor and the Sherrill Administration will continue to fight the Trump Administration’s endless efforts to weaponize what should be decisions between doctors and their patients.”
Those legal protections do not replace the federal funding. In a separate response, New Jersey Department of Human Services spokesperson Tom Hester said the administration was still assessing its options.
“While the Sherrill Administration continues to challenge rulemaking by the Trump Administration, we continue to assess State-level next step options,” Hester told The Advocate in an email.
Neither response identified a replacement funding plan, provided a timeline for one, or answered whether the governor would use an executive order to preserve coverage.
Garden State Equality’s Lauren Albrecht said she believes the governor could provide an interim solution.
“An executive order would take care of it for now,” she said. The governor’s office has not confirmed her assessment.
Sherrill’s chief spokesperson, Sean Higgins, acknowledged The Advocate’s inquiry Tuesday afternoon and referred the questions to a colleague. The office had not yet provided substantive answers about replacement funding or the governor’s plans.
New Jersey is participating in the multistate lawsuit challenging the rule.
Albrecht urged affected families to contact Garden State Equality and said some providers offer options independent of insurance.
“Hope is certainly not lost, and we still have every confidence that we will have a way forward to help the families that we need to help,” she said.
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Virginia advocates demand action
In Virginia, advocates publicly challenged Gov. Abigail Spanberger on Tuesday.
The ACLU of Virginia and Equality Virginia said Equality Virginia met with state Medicaid Director Steven Ford in August about using state money. On October 9, both groups sent Ford a letter urging the department to rescind its coverage cutoff notice and develop a funding plan with providers and community organizations.
Their criticism followed The Advocate’s reporting last week on Virginia’s coverage changes and Spanberger’s promise to examine alternatives.
“We are looking at every option available,” Spanberger said Friday. At the time, she had not announced replacement funding.
The groups said Tuesday that at least nine states had acted to fund continued care. They also pointed to Virginia’s participation in the lawsuit defending the care as safe and medically necessary.
“It’s baffling that the Spanberger administration has not announced a plan to make sure young people on Medicaid and CHIP get the care their doctors prescribed,” they said.
They urged the state to establish funding and instruct providers on documenting services for retroactive payment.
“If the governor is serious that her office is ‘looking at every option available,’ she should not have a hard time finding a way to get young people and their families the essential healthcare they need,” they said.
The life Toby has built
Melinda remembers her son before he socially transitioned. He was withdrawn, resisted school, and asked for short hair and a boy’s name. She sought a therapist and a family support group.
He socially transitioned in second grade. By winter, she said, he was starring in the school play.
“We’ve never looked back,” she said.
Medical treatment came later, after extensive consultations with doctors, psychologists, and social workers. “It was years of preparation,” she said.
Now she struggles to reconcile politicians’ assertions of parental rights with restrictions on decisions she and Toby made with his clinicians.
“Where’s my autonomy to make medical decisions privately with my doctor and my son’s doctor?” she asked.
She is still trying to determine how his next appointment will be covered. But she’s settled on her understanding of her child.
“My son knows who he is,” she said.
Editor's note: This story has been updated with remarks from New Jersey’s state government and the governor.














