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![Holding your partner's hand and people staring like they just saw Lady Godiva ride down the street naked.](data:image/svg+xml,%3Csvg xmlns='http://www.w3.org/2000/svg' viewBox='0 0 655 490'%3E%3C/svg%3E)
![Straight people telling a story involving the F bomb and feeling free to just drop the word themselves.](data:image/svg+xml,%3Csvg xmlns='http://www.w3.org/2000/svg' viewBox='0 0 655 490'%3E%3C/svg%3E)
![Being forced to get a hotel room for a family wedding because your partner's nana isn't comfortable with two men sharing a bed in her home.](data:image/svg+xml,%3Csvg xmlns='http://www.w3.org/2000/svg' viewBox='0 0 655 490'%3E%3C/svg%3E)
![Daring to ever read YouTube comments.](data:image/svg+xml,%3Csvg xmlns='http://www.w3.org/2000/svg' viewBox='0 0 655 490'%3E%3C/svg%3E)
![Being told you don't "act gay" or "look trans" as if it's an accomplishment.](data:image/svg+xml,%3Csvg xmlns='http://www.w3.org/2000/svg' viewBox='0 0 655 490'%3E%3C/svg%3E)
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![Kissing your partner or spouse and people rolling their eyes, while straight couples slobber over each other and no one reacts.](data:image/svg+xml,%3Csvg xmlns='http://www.w3.org/2000/svg' viewBox='0 0 655 490'%3E%3C/svg%3E)
![Hearing, "Oh, you're gay? Do you know John Smith? He's gay too!"](data:image/svg+xml,%3Csvg xmlns='http://www.w3.org/2000/svg' viewBox='0 0 655 490'%3E%3C/svg%3E)
![As a gay or bi man, being asked for shopping advice. Some of us would rather be playing football than cruising Nordstrom Rack.](data:image/svg+xml,%3Csvg xmlns='http://www.w3.org/2000/svg' viewBox='0 0 655 490'%3E%3C/svg%3E)
![Family members always assuming you'll be the ones to travel for holidays \u2014 "All you gays have a lot of money, right? You don't have any kids, it's no big deal, right?"](data:image/svg+xml,%3Csvg xmlns='http://www.w3.org/2000/svg' viewBox='0 0 655 490'%3E%3C/svg%3E)
![Hearing "If you weren't gay, I'd totally hook up with you."](data:image/svg+xml,%3Csvg xmlns='http://www.w3.org/2000/svg' viewBox='0 0 655 490'%3E%3C/svg%3E)
![As a virgin, being asked, "How do you know if you're queer if you've never had sex?" We're sure.](data:image/svg+xml,%3Csvg xmlns='http://www.w3.org/2000/svg' viewBox='0 0 655 490'%3E%3C/svg%3E)
![Being asked why a "pretty girl like you" is a lesbian.](data:image/svg+xml,%3Csvg xmlns='http://www.w3.org/2000/svg' viewBox='0 0 655 490'%3E%3C/svg%3E)
![People snickering when they hear you're LGBT and attend a church, synagogue, or mosque.](data:image/svg+xml,%3Csvg xmlns='http://www.w3.org/2000/svg' viewBox='0 0 655 490'%3E%3C/svg%3E)
![Being informed as a gay parent that "You're so brave!" when it actually means "You're so unusual."](data:image/svg+xml,%3Csvg xmlns='http://www.w3.org/2000/svg' viewBox='0 0 655 490'%3E%3C/svg%3E)
![Hearing your outfit is "so gay." Is that a negative?](data:image/svg+xml,%3Csvg xmlns='http://www.w3.org/2000/svg' viewBox='0 0 655 490'%3E%3C/svg%3E)
![Talking about politics with your drunk uncle and he says, "You people have marriage, what else do you want?"](data:image/svg+xml,%3Csvg xmlns='http://www.w3.org/2000/svg' viewBox='0 0 655 490'%3E%3C/svg%3E)
![Seeing every billboard and advertisement depict straight couples as the only option.](data:image/svg+xml,%3Csvg xmlns='http://www.w3.org/2000/svg' viewBox='0 0 655 490'%3E%3C/svg%3E)
![Being told it's so cliche that you like Lady Gaga or Beyonce. Hey, the whole world likes these women.](data:image/svg+xml,%3Csvg xmlns='http://www.w3.org/2000/svg' viewBox='0 0 655 490'%3E%3C/svg%3E)
![Snuggling with your female partner and straight men looking at you like you're filming Blue Is the Warmest Color.](data:image/svg+xml,%3Csvg xmlns='http://www.w3.org/2000/svg' viewBox='0 0 655 490'%3E%3C/svg%3E)
![Feeling pressured to wear skirts and heels, since that's the narrow view of femininity.](data:image/svg+xml,%3Csvg xmlns='http://www.w3.org/2000/svg' viewBox='0 0 655 490'%3E%3C/svg%3E)
![Having your life being used as a cheap political ploy by a cynical right-wing politician.](data:image/svg+xml,%3Csvg xmlns='http://www.w3.org/2000/svg' viewBox='0 0 655 490'%3E%3C/svg%3E)
![Straight bros assuming you're checking them out if you look their way at the gym.](data:image/svg+xml,%3Csvg xmlns='http://www.w3.org/2000/svg' viewBox='0 0 655 490'%3E%3C/svg%3E)
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No one said being LGBT was easy. There's the hard stuff, like coming out to your family and being the whipping boys/girls of the Republicans. Then there are the aggravating aspects of minority life — grievances that usually make us button our lip instead of screaming and preparing for battle. These microaggressions may not be the same as being gunned down in the street, but they sure as hell test your patience. Check out our list of microaggressions on the next slides and tell us in the comments what we missed.
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Neal Broverman
Neal Broverman is the Editorial Director, Print of Pride Media, publishers of The Advocate, Out, Out Traveler, and Plus, spending more than 20 years in journalism. He indulges his interest in transportation and urban planning with regular contributions to Los Angeles magazine, and his work has also appeared in the Los Angeles Times and USA Today. He lives in the City of Angels with his husband, children, and their chiweenie.
Neal Broverman is the Editorial Director, Print of Pride Media, publishers of The Advocate, Out, Out Traveler, and Plus, spending more than 20 years in journalism. He indulges his interest in transportation and urban planning with regular contributions to Los Angeles magazine, and his work has also appeared in the Los Angeles Times and USA Today. He lives in the City of Angels with his husband, children, and their chiweenie.