No bride is immune to pre-wedding jitters, and singer Melissa Etheridge says she was no exception. Last fall when she married actress Tammy Lynn Michaels she worried over the details of the event until she finally accepted that she couldn't control everything. "If you both know that things will go wrong and that it will all just be an experience, and you're not expecting perfection or something on that day," she said in an interview with AP Radio "[then] that day will just be a coming together and a celebration of your love and your partnership...perfect in its imperfection." Etheridge said that one of her problems, strangely, was finding the right wedding music. "I asked so many of my friends to sing at my wedding, and they were like, 'Uh, do I have to?'" she said. For a while she thought that she would sing at the ceremony herself, but it occurred to her that this was her wedding--not a performance--and someone else should take care of it. Even with the music finally settled, she still had her lingering doubts about the day. "I remember being nervous," she said. "I remember thinking for a moment a few days before with Tammy, 'Oh, my gosh, I hope this is everything you wanted.' And she said, 'Oh, no, don't you understand? As long as you show up, then the rest is just extra.'"