A 23-year-old Iowa man is accused of killing a 52-year-old Nebraska man in a suburban Des Moines motel room after the two men met through the personals of Gay.com, The Des Moines Register reported Thursday. When police arrived at the motel early Monday morning, they found Terry Graham, 52, stabbed to death. Jon Matthew McGee, 23, had called 911 and was charged with first-degree murder, according to the newspaper. Police released Graham's photo, which is the same photo that appeared on Gay.com. The Register reported that McGee told investigators he met Graham online, but police have not gone through the men's computers. In his profile on the Web site, the user with Graham's photo describes himself as a 47-year-old bisexual single man who is "not out at all yet" about his sexuality. Graham, a former pastor, was married and was working as a counselor. He might have offered to counsel McGee, family members told police. Ron Ellefson, Graham's brother-in-law, said he found printouts from the Internet about homosexuality and religion among personal and business papers that were in his company vehicle, according to the newspaper. McGee, who received a medical discharge from the U.S. Air Force for psychological reasons, is being held in jail on $500,000 bond. His arraignment will be February 11, according to the newspaper.
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