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A day without

A day without


In Wedding Wars one gay wedding planner's inspired activism prompts a nationwide walkout. But could it happen in real life? We rang up a handful of high-profile out gay wedding and events planners to find out.

David Tutera

David Tutera Inc.; Discovery Home Channel's Party Planner With David Tutera; author of The Party Planner and America Entertains: A Year of Imaginative Parties, among other titles

Credits: He's the man behind Jennifer Lopez's Still perfume launch, Star Jones's wedding and a slew of events for celebrity clients such as Elton John, Kenneth Cole, and Matthew McConaughey. He's also been a regular contributor on The View and even a guest of the grand dame of events herself, Oprah.

What impact might a strike have? The reality is, if we lose our gay planners, we're not going to have very good parties out there. There are two very specific party planners--gays and straight women. And the ironic thing is, the straight women have to surround themselves with gay vendors to make themselves look good. That's how I started my career. I worked for these women who were clueless!

Would you take part in a strike? Absolutely, 1,000%

Kelsey Bray

Little Divas Productions

Credits: Bray has worked for clients including the William Morris Agency, the Screen Actors Guild Foundation, and the Scleroderma Research Foundation.

What do you think of the idea of a strike? As far as anyone sabotaging an event, it's appalling. It shows a great lack of professionalism. If someone hires you to do a wedding, you do it.

Would you take part in a strike? If it could be done in a fun and successful manner without being bitter and twisted. But I wouldn't do it if my client's wedding was on that day--although I would [spread awareness and] get on the phone and send e-mails to my client list saying, "This is what's happening today."

Bruce Sutka

Sutka Productions

Credits: He's the man to call for Donald Trump, Celine Dion, Brooke Shields, Russell Simmons, Steven Spielberg, even the Vatican Museum.

What do you think of Wedding Wars' premise? I think it's a phenomenal concept, and [the movie] will create an awareness amongst its straight audience of how many people they come in contact with that might be gay--and in positions to sabotage a lot of their world!

Would you take part in a strike? Speaking as a human being, not an LGBT person, I would really have to look at why they were striking, what the outcome we wish to have would be, and if I can put my neck on the line for something I believe in. If so, I would in a heartbeat.

Colin Cowie

Colin Cowie Lifestyle; author of Weddings and Dinner After Dark, among other titles

Credits: He's handled events for Oprah Winfrey, Lisa Kudrow, Nicole Kidman, and Tom Cruise and was tapped by Wal-Mart this year to design an exclusive line of holiday housewares and home decor.

Can you see a strike like this actually happening? It might happen in one town, but I don't see it happening on a nationwide basis. Everyone needs their income. Are we going to cut off the hand that feeds us? And if I say no to a job, the baker and floral designer and lighting designer I hire lose a job too.

Would you take part in a strike? I believe everyone deserves fair treatment. But I don't think I would take part, because I take on such limited projects every year. I'm not very political. I beat to my own drum. Steve Kemble

Steve Kemble Event Design; TLC's Sheer Dallas

Credits: He has worked for such high-profile clients as the Gay and Lesbian Alliance Against Defamation, Starwood Hotels, and former president George H.W. Bush.

Have you ever experienced discrimination? I worked for some extremely ultraconservative families who may very well be the ones going to the polls [and voting against gay interests], but they never, ever made me feel like a second-class citizen. And they know if they want their son or daughter's wedding to be fabulous, they need to let someone gay plan it!

Would you take part in a strike? Yes! I would lead the pack! Maybe we should go on strike the day the movie comes out.

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