Sex Writers Race Bannon and Gloria Brame Share Their Passions

Two legendary kinksters hope tell the world all about sex and so much more.



Bannon: One thing in particular fascinates me the most and that is the dissection of the life experience to its most basic components — the principles by which life operates. I think my strongest life skill is my ability to synthesize entire areas of life experience, or specific subject areas of life, and arrive at underlying, foundation principles upon which those experiences are based. I'm discovering that this permeates all that I do and it's likely to be something I more consciously focus on in the future when I write. Gloria, your books are classics in both the BDSM and general sexuality realms. The quality of your work is never questioned. But I'm curious, if one day you look back upon your career, particularly your writing career, and can have attained but one objective, what might that be? How do you want to specifically influence the world?

Brame: I want to change the world.  Is that asking too much?  I started my writing life as a poet, and poets think of writing as holy and powerful enough to move people, and I think that fanciful dream underlies all my work, that somehow my writing will help foment meaningful change.  I see myself as part of the great collective of sex activists, rights activists, feminists, and intellectually  untrammeled thinkers who are working, each in their own ways, to create positive change and advance the cause of sexual freedom.   My new book series, The Truth About Sex, is really my life work: it’s all my thoughts and theories about how sex is lived by real people, as opposed to how the anti-sex prudes and propagandists pretend sex works. I shared my vision.  Would you share yours, Race?  As a man with so many passions in life,  is there one place or several where you’d like to make your mark? 

Bannon: There are two areas of interest besides kinky sex that I am currently quite passionate about. The first is self-education, sometimes also referred to as autodidactism, informal learning or self-directed learning. I feel our educational system is mired in an outdated industrial education model. Our society still falls for the notion that one can push knowledge and skill into someone's head versus the student pulling that information to them in ways that are more meaningful. I don't have much hope that our educational system will change adequately to truly address the learning needs of most people. Since I have learned so much through self-education versus formal education, I'd like to write and evangelize more about fostering and supporting self-education skills, particularly among adults who have soured on the relative ineffectiveness of our formal schooling system to provide them with the useful knowledge and skills needed in the increasingly fast changing information landscape we live within today.

Brame: What's the other area you're interested in?

Bannon: The other area is the more general one of self-improvement. Since childhood I've been a voracious reader of self-improvement books. From perhaps the first real personal development writings of Epictetus to more contemporary books, they've always been a type of written wisdom I am drawn to. Over my lifetime I've developed a personal collection of what I refer to at the principles of life. These are what I consider the foundation, universal principles that underlie the entire spectrum of life experience. I believe that by fully understanding these principles, it informs and guides everything we do in life to make our life experience better. So those are the two areas I'm currently focused on besides kinky sex, although I don't see myself slowing down on my writing about alternative sexualities and relationship options anytime soon.

About the Authors:

Gloria Brame is a sex therapist and the author of Different Loving, Come Hither: A Commonsense Guide to Kinky Sex, and The Truth About Sex, Vol. I, Sex and the Self. The Truth About Sex Volume II will be published this fall. Learn more about Gloria’s body of work at

Race Bannon is an author, among other pursuits. A new 2.0 ebook version of his book, Learning the Ropes: A Basic Guide to Safe and Fun BDSM Lovemaking, will be published soon. You can read his blogs at and

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