As we stated before, being LGBT isn't easy. Aside from the macroaggressions of discrimination and violence, there are the minor slights that we encounter nearly every day. We culled 17 more microaggressions — some from are wonderful, astute readers — and hope you'll share more of your personal stories in the comments below.
1. When people refer to your longtime partner (or spouse!) as your "friend."
2. Being forced to come out constantly because everyone assumes you're straight.
3. Telling someone you're in a relationship and hearing "I can't wait to officiate your gay wedding."
4. Being told by straight people that they wish they could be gay "because dating would be so much easier." First, that's not true, and second, did you forget about all that discrimination we deal with?
5. When bisexuals are told they just want "the best of both worlds."
6. Coming out as gender-queer, pansexual, or LGBT and hearing "You're just confused." Grandparents are especially prone to this affliction.
7. Having your sexual orientation described as a "preference." Being attracted to men or women — or both — is not like choosing to put sugar in your coffee.
8. Folks assuming you're rich because you're gay. There's no student loan exemption for having a same-sex partner.
9. Kissing your partner on a plane only to find out someone complained about it to a flight attendant.
10. For transgender people, constantly being asked your opinion on Caitlyn Jenner.
11. Coming out to someone and being asked, "When did you first start liking girls (or boys)?"
12. Casually mentioning to your straight barista/bank teller/tax person that you have a partner or same-sex spouse and being asked to divulge your entire coming-out story.
13. Being misgendered more than twice by the same person — they're not forgetting, they're just being an asshole.
14. As a gay guy, being informed of a "hot" woman passing by. Hey, not all of us are straight — or leering jerks.
15. Hearing someone wax poetic on the wonders of Ted Cruz. Don't tell an LGBT person how much you like a politician who's built a career around demonizing us.
16. Being asked why we need Gay Pride festivals. When much of the world takes offense at your life, it doesn't hurt to have a few days to state the opposite.
17. People asking male couples who's the "top" and who's the "bottom." Do we ask straight couples how often they have sex or if the woman uses a strap-on? No.