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Tom Goss & Daniel Franzese Spotlight LGBTQ Domestic Violence in Video

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The song "La Bufadora" is a powerful wake-up call to a real-life crisis of violence.


Tom Goss has released a powerful music video spotlighting the crisis of domestic violence in the LGBTQ community.

For the "Bears" singer, this crisis hits home. The song, "La Bufadora," was inspired by a "tension-filled weekend in Mexico with my husband." Goss found a powerful metaphor between the erupting emotions in his relationship to La Bufadora, a marine geyser in the waters near Ensenada.

Mean Girls actor Danny Franzese appears in the video to portray Goss's partner in the troubling scenes, which show verbal abuse as well as physical assault.

The pair created the video in order to shine a line on how LGBTQ people are not exempt from domestic abuse. In fact, according to the National Coalition of Domestic Violence, the rates of abuse can be even higher than among straight people.

Within the span of their lifetimes, 43.8 percent of lesbians, 61.1 percent of bi women, 26 percent of gay men, and 37.3 percent of bi men have reported experiencing rape, physical violence, and/or stalking by a partner. Stigma may also repress these numbers. For example, only 26 percent of men in same-sex relationships will report incidents of near-fatal violence to the authorities.

"Domestic violence in LGBTQ relationships, as well as domestic violence directed towards men, is widely overlooked," Goss said in a statement to The Advocate. "As a storyteller, it's important that I tell stories that are authentic to the experience of myself, and the community in which I belong."

"We wanted to shed a light on LGBTQ domestic violence and let people know that they are not alone," Goss added. "It's hard to make changes in your life when you feel like you're the only one going through something. By making 'La Bufadora,' hopefully we can inspire someone (even one person) to take the steps necessary to better their life."

"Oftentimes queer art only celebrates the romance or lust of relationships," said Franzese. "But this particular video, combined with the other I have shot for this album, Tom is exploring all the different facilities of relationships. This includes the dark side of domestic abuse, which isn't often seen. As an artist, Tom Goss has always created art that lets marginalized groups of the LGBTQ take the spotlight. In this case, he shines a light on a topic rarely seen (domestic violence), in hopes of beginning a much-needed discussion."

Proceeds from the video will support the National Domestic Violence Hotline (1-800-799-7233) and the Los Angeles LGBT Center's Intimate Partner / Domestic Violence Outreach.

Watch "La Bufadora" below.

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Daniel Reynolds

Daniel Reynolds is the editor of social media for The Advocate. A native of New Jersey, he writes about entertainment, health, and politics.
Daniel Reynolds is the editor of social media for The Advocate. A native of New Jersey, he writes about entertainment, health, and politics.