Celebrity gay fathers, whether they're actors, activists, musicians, or politicians, are showing the world that love is what makes a family. On the next pages, learn about high-profile gay dads such as Denis O'Hare, Matt Bomer, Karamo Brown, Ricky Martin, and many more.
The star of Netflix's Queer Eye found out he was a father after he had risen to fame, but he has stepped up to the plate. “I came out at 16 years old as a proud gay man. My last girlfriend in high school—when I was 15—became pregnant with my child but did not tell me," Brown shared with Parents. "She moved away, and I never had contact with her again; remember this is before social media." He found out about his son 10 years later, when he received a subpoena for child support. Afterward, he immediately took custody of his son, Jason. “It wasn’t always easy, but when it comes to your children, giving up is never an option."
Dan Savage and his husband, Terry Miller, live in a Seattle-area farmhouse with their son, D.J. Savage is the author of The Kid: What Happened After My Boyfriend and I Decided to Go Get Pregnant.
At the Steve Chase Humanitarian Awards in Palm Springs in, 2012, actor Matt Bomer (White Collar, The Normal Heart) thanked his partner, Simon Halls, and their three children: “I'd really especially like to thank my beautiful family: Simon, Kit, Walker, Henry. Thank you for teaching me what unconditional love is. You will always be my proudest accomplishment.”
Actor and comedian Alec Mapa and his husband, Jamison Hebert, adopted 5-year-old Zion in 2010. Mapa mined his experiences in his documentary of stand-up and stories, Baby Daddy, which was featured in Outfest 2014. Photo by Bethany Nauert.
Colm O'Gorman, the executive director of Amnesty International Ireland, and spouse Paul are raising their children to be activists. In 2015, his teenage daughter, Safia, read an open letter she had written about her dads on television in the lead-up to the referendum on same-sex marriage in the nation.
"My dads are like any other good parents," she wrote. "They want me to be happy; they're strict but only because they want the best for me. But most importantly, they really, really love me. So how can someone say that my family isn't ideal? And what does that even mean?"
The O'Gormans' children, Safia and Sean, came into their lives when a close friend, Susie, who was terminally ill, asked Colm to be their father. Now he and Paul have legal guardianship of both children.
"I had thought being a parent wasn't a possibility for me, but the moment Susie asked me would I parent ... I knew that I would," Colm says. "It was an instant, obvious thing. There was no way I wasn't going to do it."
Tom Ford, the iconic fashion designer and film director, has a son with his husbandm Richard Buckley, a journalist. Their son, Alexander John "Jack" Buckley Ford, was born in September 2012. Ford has gone on the record stating, "I always said I wanted to have children. And as I got a little bit older, Richard, who I live with – we’ve been together 24 years – did not want children. And so I decided not to have children. But if I have children, no one will know about it until the child is born." He added that he would not share images of his child, "No one will ever see the child because I certainly wouldn’t use it as a press tool. If I have a child, you won’t notice that I had a child. Maybe you’ll see it when it’s 18, but I will keep it out of the spotlight."
Perez Hilton (né Mario Armando Lavandeira Jr.) is the dad of Mario Armando Lavandeira III, who was born via a surrogate mother and an egg donor February 16, 2013. In May 2015, Mario got a sister, Mia, who was also born from a surrogate mother. Hilton raises the siblings with the help of his mother and a nanny in New York City.
Currently single, he told the Associated Press he "didn't want to worry about a relationship of mine interfering with the happiness and well-being of my children," and "every day is Father's Day for me." He also wouldn't allow baby Mia out in public until she received her two-month shots, because he is "pro-vaccination." Photos via PerezHilton.com.
Martin's twin sons, Matteo and Valentino, were born in 2008 via a surrogate. However, there may be more to come.
"I'm only starting; I want a big family. I like the noise of children running around the house," he told Popsugar in 2017, "I want Daddy's little girl now...We have to have a balance in the house!"
Precious director Lee Daniels has had his twins since they were 3 days old. Clara and Liam were born to Daniels's brother and his girlfriend and adopted by Daniels and his-then-partner, casting director Billy Hopkins. See a great picture from their W photo shoot here.
Singer Sam Harris and Danny Jacobsen, who is a director and presentation coach for numerous blue-chip companies and also a film producer, have been together since 1994. They adopted a son, Cooper Atticus Harris-Jacobsen, in April 2008, and the couple married November 1, 2008. Harris documents some of his parenting stories in his memoir Ham: Slices of Life.
Actors Neil Patrick Harris and David Burtka are the happy fathers of twins Harper and Gideon. The family has a visible presence on social media, with photos of activities such as coordinating Halloween costumes often going viral.