Gay Dads More Likely to Scale Back Work

That's 2 cvleer by half and 2x2 clever 4 me. Thanks!

i pround on all the couple whos accept our self as a gay dads and hppy with each other

I am a single father who was married before I came out. I am now divorced and have custody of my three boys. It would be difficult for me to relate to the study as I have already paid my dues and need not rely on other means in order to have children. However, I will agree with the study regarding the age being prominent. I am sure we would all agree that the younger you are, the less likely you are thinking about settling down. Sadly, we can all agree that even the older gay gentleman stuggle to settle down. As with straight couples, I would say, we shouldn't be thinking about having children unless we are ready to invest not only the money but the time as well. Children, too often are thought of as tax credits or show pieces. They are just little replicas of ourself.

As a gay dad I can only wish that my husband and I earned that amount of money. Becoming parents did not cost us lots of money- just a bit of loose change to buy a sterile pot. We got some syringes for free and did donor insemination with our lesbian co-parents. Why pay loads of money to a clinic? It's easier to just do it at home.

@Matt87, gay couples cannot just wake up pregnant after a night of drunken sex, unlike opposite-sex couples. For gay couples, becoming parents requires money, a LOT of it. Therefore any study done of gay male couples parenting is going to produce results showing a lot of wealthier couples. Unlike lesbians, gay men cannot produce a child with a simple sperm donation from a willing friend. Even if they opt to bypass having a bio-kid and go for adoption, there are still a lot of high costs and legal hurdles, including the fact that gays are frequently prevented from adopting either explicitly by law or implicitly by adoption rules barring "unmarried" people. Thus, with the entry costs so high, most gay male couples with children will be higher-income by default. What I want to know is why nobody criticizes lesbians for choosing artificial insemination so they can get the "full experience" of motherhood, but gays using surrogacy are being politically-incorrect.

The study is worthless. It only focuses on wealthy parents. What a waste of time.

Of course this study won't be well received by the gay community because unless a gay man is a martyr upon the cross of poverty, sexual overindulgence, or self-hatred as exhibited by those who believe that a gay man's parenting options should be limited to adoption (while straight couples or lesbians can use any method they desire), then he is marginalized and dismissed as too mainstream. Those gay men who strive to be anti-mainstream like their hero Rupert Everett really need to get down off the cross as we could use the wood. Cry me a river, build me a bridge, and get the hell over it.

Both adoption and surrogacy are expensive, as compared to fertile heterosexual couples who can literally make a baby on the kitchen floor and have most of the medical costs covered by insurance. So it's no surprise that the men in the survey skew both older and wealthier. Younger "working class" gays often cannot afford the expense of either approach. Adoption agencies tend to require very strict scrutiny of any prospective adopter's finances, so modest incomes, debt and the like can be barriers to adoption. Plus in many states adoptions can still be challenged. Surrogacy affords biological parental rights to at least one of the men, but it costs a lot of money to do. Affluence is almost a prerequisite for most gays seeking to become parents.

Agreed, garbage study. $270,000? Ridiculous, how about we get a study that focuses on working class gays instead.

I just wanna know ONE thing.... are those guys in the pic a real couple??? Cause they are HOT....lol