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Remembering Matthew

Ten years after his brutal murder, those who knew him best -- and those who learned of him only at the end -- remember that week in October and reflect on the legacy of Matthew Shepard.
Posted on Advocate.com October 6, 2008
Remembering Matthew

On Wednesday, October 7, 1998, Matthew Shepard was found tied to a fence on the Wyoming prairie, barely alive, his skull fractured and his brain stem crushed. Comatose, he was taken first to a Laramie hospital, then to a better-equipped one in Fort Collins, Colo., where he died five days later. We may never know what his killers, Aaron McKinney and Russell Henderson, intended to do when they first approached Shepard at Laramie’s Fireside Lounge. We only know that, whatever their intention, they ended up murdering him.

Almost instantly, his death became a flash point in this country’s reckoning with gay people, and the cute, clean-cut 21-year-old became a symbol of the ravages of intolerance. The tragedy sparked vigils around the world and led to federal hate-crimes legislation that bears Shepard’s name, currently pending in Congress. (Democratic presidential nominee Barack Obama has promised to sign the bill if elected.)

Shepard’s impact can also be felt in the work of the Matthew Shepard Foundation, headed by his mother, Judy, whom we spoke with for the following oral history -- along with friends and Laramie residents; the police chief who oversaw the investigation into the murder; and artists influenced by that tumultuous week.

JUDY SHEPARD
When we got the phone call, they talked to my husband, Dennis. We lived in Saudi Arabia at the time. They just let him know that Matt was in the hospital and that his condition was critical.

TIFFANY EDWARDS HUNT, former Laramie Boomerang reporter
I was in the newsroom. I had the afternoon/night shift, and I heard some things on the police scanner. They had scrambled it, so I was trying to understand what kind of code they were talking. I had a vague idea of where they were because there’s a bike trail out there. I remember thinking, Oh, I wonder if this is a university hazing.

REVEREND ROGER SCHMIT, then-pastor of St. Paul’s Newman Center in Laramie
I got a phone call from parents of a university student. They lived very close to where Matthew [was found], and they said something like, “This is probably going to end up in your lap: They just found a student really injured badly. Seems to have been beaten out there at that fence.” Somehow they knew he had a University of Wyoming student I.D. card. Later I called the hospital and found out they had already taken him to Fort Collins.

ROMAINE PATTERSON, Shep-ard’s friend; now a Sirius OutQ show host
I was working at a gay coffee shop in Denver that Matthew had frequented. [Shepard lived in the city briefly before enrolling at the University of Wyoming.] One of our regular customers called and left a message for me to watch the evening news. He had seen a story that a young man named Matthew Shepard had been in a fight or something in Wyoming. The idea that Matt was in an altercation seemed absurd to me; I thought he must have a broken arm. I watched the news and called my sister Trish, who lived in Laramie. She said, “These two guys took this kid out to the boonies and robbed and beat him really horribly, and now he’s probably going to die.” I said, “I think he might be my friend.”

SHEPARD
We didn’t have any information. But I was pretty sure that someone had beaten him up because he was gay.

DAVE O’MALLEY, then–Laramie police chief
Aaron McKinney and Russell Henderson had been involved in a serious aggravated assault on two Hispanic guys that we had investigated the night before Matt was found. During that investigation Matt’s bank card was found in McKinney’s truck. About 18 hours later we got the report from a young man who had been riding his bicycle in the country and had found Matt tied to a fence there. 

PATTERSON
I called all our mutual friends and after that was just alone with my thoughts. The early reports gave some of the basic information: He had been left overnight in the cold, he was possibly beaten with a baseball bat, his body was covered with red welts, he had possibly had his skin burned. I spent that first night just reliving what must have happened. I cried a lot. I didn’t sleep.

JIM OSBORN, Shepard’s friend; then-president of the University of Wyoming’s LGBT organization
I got an e-mail from friends who had been in contact with [police chief] O’Malley. They said that it could be a hate crime. I immediately got a second e-mail saying, “Don’t say anything to anybody, because we don’t want to compromise the investigation. We’re still trying to piece together where Matt was.” I said, “I need to talk to somebody, because I know where he was Tuesday night: He was at the LGBT meeting with me.”

BOB BECK, Wyoming Public Radio news director and University of Wyoming journalism instructor
A student in my broadcast news class called and said he needed to go to the hospital in Fort Collins. We had a major assignment due, and I said, “You’d better have a damn good reason.” He said, “I can’t tell you, but you’re probably going to report on it: A friend of mine was seriously beaten up.”

CATHY RENNA, then-director of community relations for the Gay and Lesbian Alliance Against Defamation
I was in Washington, D.C. I started getting all these e-mails and phone messages. We heard from people across the country; they were outraged.

EDWARDS
The day after Matt was discovered there was a joint press conference between the police and the sheriff’s department, and they’d distributed a press release. After reading it I was motivated to ask, “Do you think this is a hate crime?” The sheriff’s deputy said yes. The Denver Post called me that night, and they asked me what went on at the press conference. I told the reporter that the sheriff said it was a hate crime. They published that, and that’s when the floodgates opened.

BECK
We were covering it like a murder. When you’re in Wyoming, you don’t have more than 15 [murders] a year. Then to go to the press conference and hear the sheriff call it a hate crime -- whoa. We’d never had anybody refer to anything in Wyoming as a hate crime.

JONAS SLONAKER, current Laramie resident
I was 42 then. A friend of mine called me up and said, “Did you hear about Matthew Shepard? This kid was severely beaten because he was gay.” I was getting ready to move from Laramie. When it happened I said, “Oh, I’m glad I’m getting out of this place.”

OSBORN
Thursday night I started getting phone calls from the campus paper. By the next day we were getting phone calls from Dateline NBC and Good Morning America.  

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  • Name: andrew trezise
    Date posted: 2008-10-08 8:52 PM
    Hometown: Melbourne, AUSTRALIA

    Comment:

    I was looking at some TIME magazines from late 1998, I remember that it was coming up 10 yrs since Matt was murdered. It resonates today, his loss brings compassion out into stark relief against the forces of vileness, prejudice and ignorance.


  • Name: Merr
    Date posted: 2008-10-07 7:47 PM
    Hometown: San Diego

    Comment:

    Hi Thomas. Bless you for your comments. I have met many men your age who have never been able to be themselves because of laws and threats of imprisonment for being gay. I hope you have not had this experience and that you have had a great life. I am a 66 year old woman living in California and I just want to make a comment: Vote NO on PROP 8 God Bless Matthew Shepard and The Shepard Family. Do Not Let Matthew have died in vain. Please use his death as a wake up call to realize that we are all human beings even if we don't always think the same way.


  • Name: Merr
    Date posted: 2008-10-07 7:41 PM
    Hometown: San Diego

    Comment:

    Bless you LeoOnTheEdge. I live in California and I do appreciate your comment of "No on Prop 8" and hope that others will read that and act accordingly. It makes me so angry when otherwise educated and intelligent people openly say homophobic things without even realizing that they are just hating. My point is that it is not the uneducated people who perpetuate this type of hate. I worked for a man who was an attorney and he went on a hate ramble when I turned on the soundtrack of "Rent" while I was driving him to get his car that was in the shop - I didn't need that. I thought I was doing him a favor and look how he reacted. I do have a feeling of great hope that our world will finally realize what it is like to be hated because you are different - and not for any other reason.


  • Name: Dominic Farruggio
    Date posted: 2008-10-07 4:04 PM
    Hometown: Medford, New York 11763

    Comment:

    A tragic loss, a perpetual memory. I have ever since embraced a softer heart and a stronger sense of defence for equality for anyone who chooses a lifes direction different then my own. Never forget Matt, Dominic


  • Name: LeoOnTheEdge
    Date posted: 2008-10-07 3:41 PM
    Hometown: Edgewater, NJ

    Comment:

    We love you, Matt, and we know that you're in a better place now. Let me also say to Matt's family that you are in all of our prayers and thoughts. Thank you for helping to make this a better world than the one Matt so tragically left ten years ago. No on Proposition 8!


  • Name: Steve
    Date posted: 2008-10-07 3:39 PM
    Hometown: Rogers

    Comment:

    Matt is looking down at us all today with the high hopes he always has had. Hope in a better tomorrow. Hope that good people will confront hate. He also looks with pride. Pride for the slight progress which has been made in this country. Pride in Judy and Dennis for how they have turned this tragedy into a beacon of hope for others. Never lose sight of the future.


  • Name: The Rev. Dr. Theodore W. Hayes (retired)
    Date posted: 2008-10-07 2:48 PM
    Hometown: Kingston, NY

    Comment:

    The sad thing is that this "prejudice with hate" (about which Nina of Miami wrote) is that it comes primarily from those who claim to love God. God is love, though, and incapable of this kind of behavior. I ran across a quote on the 'Net the other day (author unknown) that pretty much sums up succinctly what it is that some religionists irrationally think is their "duty" to the God they claim to know. "Morality is doing what is right no matter what you have been told. Religion is doing what you are told no matter what is right."


  • Name: Steve Schuster
    Date posted: 2008-10-07 2:43 PM
    Hometown: Chicago, IL

    Comment:

    I remember that day so well, I cannot imagine how lonely, and alone he must have felt out there tied to a fence. The world lost a special person when he died. ~Steve, Chicago


  • Name: nina
    Date posted: 2008-10-07 2:33 PM
    Hometown: miami

    Comment:

    until we can find a cure for that most human condition. prejudice w/ hate, those considered 'different' in many ways will suffer. all we can do is educate. hate starts in the home,,nm


  • Name: thomas p. stanton
    Date posted: 2008-10-07 2:20 PM
    Hometown: aiken, s.c.

    Comment:

    i remember it well. it hurt me then and still does. here is a young gay man who probably loved everyone, like i as a gay man love everyone. when will society understand that GOD put us on this earth for good reasons. gay people are good, loving, caring and smart. why hate someone and object to gay marriage, when the word LOVE is involved. two people loving each other. i am 70 yrs. young, so i will probably not see the day when all men and women are treated as human beings and not as THEM, those queer people. GOD bless all my gay brothers and sisters. peace and love, tom


  • Name: Roberto
    Date posted: 2008-10-07 12:04 PM
    Hometown: Monterrey, N.L. - México

    Comment:

    I´m a gay man from México. I just found out about this brutal crime and I feel outraged even 10 years later. We definitely need to do something about it. It´s not possible that this lack of tolerance and lack of respect to others still exists.


  • Name: Merle
    Date posted: 2008-10-07 8:26 AM
    Hometown: Birmingham

    Comment:

    I grew up in Birmingham Alabama and lived there until 1993. Over the years I knew four people brutally murdered because they were gay (one woman and three men). Of the killers apprehended, NONE received the death penalty - most received probation and are now living free lives. Matthew Sheppard's murder was tragic, but it has paved the way for a new day in America's Justice system for GLBT citizens. It is for this reason that I support enhanced hate-crimes legislation on a federal level. Not every state will support justice for our community. Until they do - we need federal hate crimes legislation AND a President WHO WILL SIGN IT! Equality under the law is not a "special" right.


  • Name: Daryl
    Date posted: 2008-10-07 6:45 AM
    Hometown: Indy

    Comment:

    I'm just one of those millions of gay people around the country that didn't know Matt, but reading about him and remembering always brings tears to my eyes, even 10 years later.


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