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Dear President-Elect Obama:
When my husband and I met you over four years ago, in a private home in Los Angeles, we knew this day would come. So did Norman Lear, our host, who introduced you as a man who could be "a future president of the United States." You were just beginning your race for the Senate, but already in abundant display were the skills that brought you to this historic mountaintop - or should I say precipice? All the charisma, already in place. The urgent, passionate pleas to heal divisions and bring the country together -- refined and convincing. The emotional connection, especially on the subject of changing a country that tolerates and even supports injustice for many of its citizens -- powerful and refreshing.
Your gift, your ability to move with the force of your words, has remained the powerful tool that carried you to the White House. I urge you now to use those unique God-given skills to awaken what's best in our hearts and minds, and turn us towards action.
I urge you to be bold in your selection of Supreme Court justices, putting forward experienced (and youthful!) jurists with frankly liberal records that would balance the extreme right men put forward by Bush II. I urge you to turn your voice and your influence to reach out to the least powerful among us -- particularly the impoverished who so desperately depend on our government, and especially the minorities who continue to be debilitated (if not decimated) by HIV/AIDS. And I urge you to persuade the African-Americans who supported you so disproportionately to see the struggle for lesbian and gay equality as the equivalent of the civil rights movement that elevated you to previously unimaginable heights. Yes, that means I urge you to reconsider your reluctance to support marriage equality.
There's much more I'd like to see you do -- rebuild this shattered economy, make saving our environment a real priority, shine a bright beam on the arts and education like John F. Kennedy did. But whatever you choose to do, I urge you to make decisions that will make us as proud as a nation as we were in the moment when you were projected the winner in this protracted, painful race.
I knew this day would come, but now that it's here, I'm counting on you to deliver on the promise you embody. And I don't believe you'll let us down.
Paris BarclayExecutive Producer/Director HBO's In Treatment
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Joe Solmonese, President of the Human Rights Campaign
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Tammy Bruce, radio talk-show host and author of The New American Revolution
Vestal McIntyre, author of You Are Not the One and the forthcoming Lake Overturn
Jarrett Lucas, codirector of the 2008 Soulface Q Equality Ride
Michael Lowenthal, author of Charity Girl and Avoidance
Suzanne Westenhoefer, comedian and star of the documentary A Bottom on Top
Jim Buzinski, CEO and cofounder of Outsports.com
Perez Hilton, blogger, radio host, and television personality
Carole Midgen, former California state senator
Pam Spaulding, Durham, N.C.-based blogger
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