Caitlin Cahow is on a bumpy bus ride with her former team, the rowdy Boston Blades, on a Friday night. The Canadian Women's Hockey League team was leaving Beantown for a game in Toronto against the Furies.
"Wait, what's this for again?" she asks over the phone.
"The Advocate," I reply.
"Great, OK!" she says. It's hard for her to keep track these days. Cahow has been quickly thrust into the national spotlight once she, Billie Jean King, and Brian Boitano were named to the American delegation for the opening and closing ceremonies at the Sochi Winter Olympics in Russia. The White House has not said as much, but with at least three openly gay athletes headed to Sochi instead of anyone from the West Wing, the move looks a lot like a big middle finger to Russian President Vladimir Putin and his country's draconian, seven-month-old, antigay law.
Before announcing the U.S. delegation, President Obama said he wanted LGBT athletes to come out and win some gold medals in the face of the law, which fines and jails people for purporting so-called propaganda about the existence and equality of LGBT people. While the United States has yet to name an openly gay athlete competing in the Sochi Games, the White House announced it would send three out veteran olympians instead.
Goofing around with friends on the ice.
Cahow may not be well known to many people outside of USA Hockey fans, after her performance for the women's team in both the 2006 games in Torino, and the 2010 games in Vancouver. Still, passion for the games emanates from her, even through a cross-country phone call from a bus full of hockey players.
The 28-year-old Boston College law student says the Olympics are so special because most athletes who head to the games aren't multimillionaire NBA stars. They're everyday people who do their own laundry, who get their own groceries. In the same vein, she was in the midst of studying for her constitutional law final exam (which was chiefly about this summer's landmark marriage equality case, U.S. v. Windsor), when she got the call asking her to be an Olympic delegate.
"It was this crazy [moment], that you wouldn't believe it if you saw it in a movie, but it was my life," she says, laughing.
Cahow says she truly believes that the spirit of the Olympic games can change perceptions, and bring the world together. It's especially crucial in a country like Russia, where LGBT people are subject to laws that could land them in jail for speaking out for their rights, or even holding hands with their significant other. And then there's the escalating vigilante violence against gay Russians that goes largely unchecked by authorities. Still, Cahow says if the games weren't in Sochi this year, there sadly would not be as much of a spotlight on the country's homophobic climate.
"I look at the discourse that's happening now, revolving around the Olympics being in Russia, and the conversation around LGBT rights…would not be happening if the Olympics had not been in Sochi," she says. "If it had gone to Salzburg, which was one of the three finalists for the Olympic games, we wouldn't be talking about these gross human rights violations against the LGBT community. It's drawing in voices from around the world who might not normally [be] engaged in this sort of discourse with each other, so I'm glad the world is opening up its mind and hearts to this discussion."
Cahow says she hopes that the conversation over Russia's treatment of its gay citizens will continue even after all the medals have been won and the athletes head home. The Olympics, after all, were reintroduced to bring the world together in a sign of peaceful competition.
"It's that optimism, that hope, and that inspiration that I want the world to look at Sochi," she says. "If it means they hold up the mirror to their own faces and say, 'my country can be better,' and 'this world can be better,' then we're doing the right thing."