You Just Said Yes, Now What?

Wedding bells will be heard this season no matter how the highest court in the land has ruled, but to make it to the altar, under the chuppah, or to the chair next to your fiancé(e) without going Bridezilla, you need a plan of action. Whether luxe or budget, this timeline will help get your fête in order. But first — have you set a date?




Hire the photographer & videographer
Even if their names come recommended to you, review their portfolios and reels to confirm that what you see is what you like. Make sure they are willing to get the shots you want.

Get entertained
It is your duty to test-drive the entertainment you want at your wedding, so attend band gigs, DJ parties, etc. before hiring the talent. If you intend to have more unorthodox acts, you will need to double-check with your venue to make sure that they can accommodate production needs.

Choose the caterers
Maybe your wife- or husband-to-be’s family is entirely vegan, while your own thinks the parsley garnishing a steak is enough vegetable on the plate. Hire a caterer that can address your menu needs to your satisfaction.

Get dressed
After all that hair-pulling deliberation, now’s the time to purchase the wedding dress(es), suits, or tuxedos. Get any custom-made pieces started, especially if your wedding has multiple rituals and requires different garments. Schedule several fittings, with the last one a month before the big day.

Book hotels
Arrange multiple accommodations at different budgets to give your guests options — the closer to the reception and ceremony venues, the better. David Lopez, general manager of the Out NYC, a gay hotel in New York, has the following booking tip: “The best deals come from picking up your phone and booking with us directly instead of doing it online.”