Talk to 10 foes of marriage equality
Begin speaking with people who are not
“like-minded,” says Amy Balliett,
co-organizer of JoinTheImpact.com’s nationwide day of
rallies. For the next 10 months, pick one person who
opposes equal marriage rights. “Speak with him
or her as much as possible over a month -- every day, if you
can,” Balliett says. “Always have an honest,
respectful debate with them. This is how I got my mom
to vote for Barack Obama. You’ll plant a seed of
change.”
Send a postcard to President-elect Obama
Buy a postcard picturing your town and mail it
to the presidential transition office, says Matt
Flanders, cofounder of the new grassroots campaign
Civil Rights Front. “We really need to make sure
Obama knows that we were listening when he made
certain statements and promises” to gay voters,
says Flanders, who provides step-by-step directions at CivilRightsFront.com. Flanders
recommends writing: “Please ask Congress to
repeal DOMA! All Americans should have the right to
marry. Thank you in advance for advocating for the civil
rights of your LGBT citizens.” The most influential
element, Flanders believes, is your handwritten
signature.
Build public support for the California supreme
court to overturn Proposition 8
Write letters to the editor and talk in churches
and schools about Civics 101 -- that the Founding
Fathers intended for federal and state constitutions
and courts to protect everyone equally, including
minorities. “Proposition 8 put the rights of a
minority group up for a popular vote,” says
Kate Kendell, executive director of the National
Center for Lesbian Rights. “If Proposition 8 is
allowed to stand, who knows who or what will be next
in California?”
Lobby lawmakers in states on the brink of marriage equality
“We need you to help sway legislators and work
with organizations to get us over the
threshold,” says Evan Wolfson, author of Why
Marriage Matters and executive director of the
group Freedom to Marry. For example, if the New Jersey
legislature passes a law recognizing gay marriage,
Gov. Jon Corzine has said that he would sign it. And
New York governor David Paterson has directed his
state’s agencies to revise policies so they recognize
same-sex marriages performed in Massachusetts and
Connecticut. “Linking up with groups like
Garden State Equality and taking their specific action-steps
is a great way people can help,” Wolfson says.
Offer your help to senior citizens
Volunteer at a local retirement home and wear a T-shirt
that identifies you as gay while volunteering, says
Milk screenwriter Dustin Lance Black. “My
theory is, once they know us, they’ll stop voting
against us,” he says. “I think the
people who vote against us have a lot of preconceptions of
what gay people are.” Don’t volunteer and
simply preach, says Black, who is an organizer of the
Seven Weeks to Equality campaign. “Do outreach to
help fix up their homes, to entertain them, to help take
care of them. A dozen people going into a senior
citizens’ home twice a month is going to make
quite a difference,” he says. “What’s
important is to make yourself visible. How can we
expect them to help in our cause unless we help in
their cause as well?”
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